Would it be feasible to make time for a date night once a week? reconnect with each other, get a sitter, remember what it feels like not to have everything revolve around being a parent etc? .
Thanks for the feels, but in my situation the kids are grown and gone. If it were "Sitcom" easy, I would have fixed it. I've set up counseling sessions, done 100% of the house work for weeks,(years now) and most recently arranged and paid for a romantic week at the beach.
Do you know what's fun? Being the only single man at a couples beach resort. Where's my wife? Back at the room, chatting with her old high school buds on facebook.
Thanks for letting me vent; when you lose your best friend of 20+ years...well, I've never felt so isolated before.
I've read a lot recently about guys *and women* who divorced. Who've had enough, and moved on. But, for me, it was never an option I considered before. It's scary, and I'm looking down the barrel of a years-long, bankrupting and humiliating process..not to mention that I'm afraid of what this will mean to my kids (still single).
Want to hear something stupid? (Sorry If I'm hijacking this thread....)
When her change of attitude first hit me, I was convinced she was having an affair...she cut me off from physical intimacy, and spent huge amounts of time on-line, getting angry at me if I tried to look over her shoulder.
I went through the classic stages of grief, when at last I came to the conclusion that I was not giving her the fulfillment she craved or needed. And, if she needed outside stimulation to keep our marriage together, then I'd learn to deal with it. (I told you it was stupid). Although...if I'd ever caught them, or found overt signs of real infidelity, I would certainly react in a more traditional way, jail time be damned.
But, I've come to learn that (what I suspect) is that she's sexually dead inside. Zero desire. A woman and wife in form only, and, she's **comfortable with this situation**, and does not see it as something to fix. Oblivious or uncaring if it forces me into unwanted celibacy and isolation. At least if she were cheating, there would be some hope: For reconciliation, or an open marriage, or some other way forward.
Yikes.