J/O buddy - gay or straight?

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  1. LSebastien

    LSebastien New Member

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    This is a question for guys who consider themselves mostly straight or totally straight.

    If you were looking for a J/O buddy in your area and someone responded, would it matter if they were gay? Or do they have to be str8 or at least bi?

    For that matter, are there any straight guys on here who have a gay J/O buddy (meaning it doesn't go beyond just jacking off together)?
     
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    Hmmm.

    I do share porn with other guy friends (and a couple girl friends as well, yay women's lib). If I find something that I've really enjoyed, I'll pass the link along with the hope they get some enjoyment out of it as well.

    But I'd never want to jack off with another guy. I'm not worried about what that means, societally or morally or whatever. I'm just not interested in watching any of my male friends jack off.

    PS: Female friends though, if you're ever in the mood, you know how to reach me! :biggrin1:
     
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    I wouldn't care if they are gay/straight/bi... it's all the same for me!
     
  4. B_R_I_E_F

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    No it doesn't matter to me if the J/O bud is gay or straight. I'm not looking for more than a bud to get off with from time to time. I do have to relate to them on some level. Jacking off together is a bonding experience and I honestly have to like the guy to be comfortable enough to watch porn and stroke with him. I'm not meeting in some dark alley to just play with my dick with a total stranger. (okay there was that one time...but never again!) LOL
     
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    Frankly, I'd feel a bit odd jacking off with a guy that considered himself absolutely 100% 'straight' - I'd think there was some degree of self-dishonesty going on with him. He would have to admit to being at least a bit bi-curious, imo.

    I'd prefer to jack off with bi guys, because then we can still both enjoy 'straight' porn, but I'd jack off with gay guys too.
     
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    i agree
     
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    I don't mind gay, straight or bi or even the ones with an edge off :wink:, as long as they suit my personality I'm more than happy :biggrin:
     
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    I've had both straight and gay guys as stroke buddies. The straight guys were really into it as a bonding thing. One even jacked me for a few seconds. Gay guys...eh..it often becomes a sex thing. LOL.
     
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    I would not mind a JO bud! Anyone in southern Mississippi?
     
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    just a buddy! not a relationship!
     
  11. Rodin2008

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    I'm straight but will love a j/o buddy anyone in orlando fl?
     
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    From past experience I'd say that it has to be a straight or bi guy. They're more likely to accept where the limits are. I'm happy to sit watching another guy(s) wanking and equally happy to sit stroking my cock in front of someone else and I don't have a problem if a curious mate wants to stroke my cock for me (or let me reciprocate) as long as they accept that that's as far as it goes. I've wanked with gay guys before and the experience hasn't been good, they always seem to overstep the mark and start fondling and groping where it's not appreciated! Many of them then won't gracefully take no for an answer, expecting it to be an open invitation for sex.

    Straight guys seem happy for it to be a bonding experience and just a bit of fun, sitting waving your stiff dicks at each other, slightly competitively, or just an exploratory experience, getting the feel of the difference in thickness or length of another cock, of the handling of a circumcised one versus an uncircumcised one etc., or just who can shoot the most or the furthest - for a laugh.
     
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    I know there are Alabamians. Let us hear from you.
     
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    I feel the same as Linkydink and Pieter. I don't really find the stratification of male sexual desire particularly useful, as I feel I have a great deal more in common with most guys than we have differences. And I don't need to go any further than a wank. Although I do like to touch the people I love.
     
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    I completly Agree with u on that one I have had too many j/o buddies but I did have 1 gay dude ask me if I wanted him to suck my cock I sd no never again... There are limits and they need to be respected. Nothing wrong with straight guys watching porn and j/o or giving each other a hand!!
     
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    It was never again because he "asked", or did he push it further?

    If he just asked, then respected your "no", what's the problem? We've seen many, many "str8" guys i here say that they don't consider receiving head from a guy, gay. So, how was your j/o buddy supposed to know if he didn't ask?
     
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    So a gay guy asked if you wanted to suck his cock while you were jacking off together and that is wrong... but it is ok to give each other handjobs??? Something doesn't seem right there.

    I have yet to be presented with a situation that would allow me to have a j/o buddy. If the opportunity was there I would jump all over it. :smile:
     
  18. B_BraxtonHartnabrig

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    yo....this whole topic is so wrong...nobody sees the gay-factor in a Jack-off buddy...I remember when I was younger and me and a few of my bois used to watch porn together, but after awhile that felt kind of gay...but having another man jack you off is totally gay......and why is a buddy needed for a jack session?....someone has to be getting something out of the ordeal.
     
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    Some of us don't think it is. Since jacking off is something most of us do on a regular basis, it feels natural to have a dick in my hand. I know what to do with it and how to make it feel good. It doesn't seem that big a deal if it belongs to someone else. It's nice to get your strokes from different folks sometimes.

    I know some friendships would never be the same if it was even suggested, but this seems silly to me. Are male self-images and friendships really that fragile?
     
  20. B_BraxtonHartnabrig

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    well your statement would be considered bias since, judging by your rorientation status, you are perhaps gay....I know for sure it would make a difference for me...why would I participate in jacking another man, when I am not homosexual...to each its own, but you have to realize how gay that is....