jerking off with friends

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  1. doctorpepper84

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    when me and my best friend were younger just out of high school, we had a several experiences of jerking off together. its now years later and i was interested in seeing if he wanted to do it again for old time sake. how is the best possible way to bring this up? see if he is interested or not? i am staying at his house next week, i dont want to bring it up make him upset and them let me not stay. we've been best friends for like 10 years. what should i do???
     
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    Dont even try its gonna get things complicated. Don't risk it, not with him.
     
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    I wouldn't recommend it if your friend identifies as straight a straight male these days. I've had similar experiences with my friends, and I know now that it would be very uncomfortable if any of them brought it to my attention now.

    If you really want to go through with it and have the confidence to go through with it, the most painless method would be something like this...

    "Hey (friends name), remember when we used to jerk off together? Those were some pretty fun times."

    Listen to his response... Then something like...

    "Well, we could always do it again. We're adults now. No pressure though."

    If his reaction is positive, then you probably don't have anything to worry about, but don't force anything gay on him because that is in poor taste.

    If his reaction isn't pleasant, go no further. No need to ruin a friendship over a JO session.
     
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    Or you could just wait and see whether he will initiate something...
     
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    Try teasing it. Walk around in a towel. If ur married comment about a penis enlargement program ur on (true or not) and offer to show em. If u end up showing just be like u remember that timevwe beat off? But don't be weird. Play it by ear
     
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    just start talking about the good old days when you could do or that and not care, oh how times have changed and couldn't we capture some of those times again....that sort of thing.
     
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    You're older now... you'd need to be honest and genuinely explain why.

    Otherwise don't bother.
     
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    I don't see a reason for you not to ask him? If he's your best friend and you've been best friends for 10 years, I say ask him. However, don't push it. Just simply say, "remember when we use to jerk off together? Would you like to maybe do it again?" If he really is your best friend he'll either say "yeah, why not?" or "Nah, I dont think so" and you just say "Ok." and move on. Atleast, that's how it would be with my best friend.
     
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    we've been best friends for like 10 years. what should i do???

    uuhhmm, is it all that important to you?
    suggest if your not to sure how he will take it after knowing him for that period, and especially if he may kick you out ( i doubt that) then Dont ask??
    otherwise
    go fo it, just a mention of ole times sake casually, may give you an easy out if he balks at it,ha
    sorry if i was so damn unhelpful .. me, probably jealous.


    was re-thinking with jealousy
    you can always ask him for a shared morning Jo, that way you got your sleepover in huh?
     
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    My mate has just ended a long relationship and has come round to jerk off on my couch a few times recently.
    Tend to watch hardcore porn, teen chicks getting nailed, and play with ourselves.
    It does feel a little weird, especially since I've suggested we look for a woman to join us and he's declined.
     
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    Yarp.

    "Hey, I feel like watching some porn and having a wank. Is that cool?" If he says "no, not at all" and leaves the room, you have your answer. If he says "no, not at all" and stays in the room, you have your answer.

    Obvious caveat: Don't do it if either of you has a significant other who would not be down with you doing it.
     
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    Is it worth risking your friendship for, even the risk seems small? You have to consider what is important to you. Exactly what could be gained by asking him?
     
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    This is not a bad approach. Just have a few beers and be open that you still often have a tug whilst watching some porn, ask him if he does. Depending on his answer that gives you a good lead in to reminiscing about when you used to wank together when younger.
     
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    I agree with fratpack. Bring up the conversation after a couple beers, with some porn playing in the background. Guys who have jerked together in the past are strangely bonded for life. Its really a good thing for males, as we can compartmentalize sexual acts easily without the emotional baggage.

    Post your update.
     
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    Why is this jerking off important enough to risk a best friendship of ten years? Perspective!
     
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    I have to agree. I dont know how much can be gained in initiating something like this with someone who identifies themselves as straight. That being said, I have had "straight" (married) buddies come on to me and we did end up jerking off together. I have to admit that when it did happen, it was never under sober conditions, nor ever initiated by me (even though, I pretty much knew I liked girls and guys). Frankly, I'm too much of a chickenshit. And although, given the few chances I had to repeat it, esp here recently, I couldn't risk messing up our friendship. My loss I guess, but I believe we are both better off by passing up the chance....
     
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    I'd be careful. I too had a few JO friends but we were at the age where guys discovered getting off and just started JO. This might have been just a passing phase. The few guys that I JO with when I was young are all married with kids now (including myself).

    However, when you combine: Alcohol, being super horny, and no women around - things can change but I'd still be careful. You'd hate to mess up a long friendship.
     
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    Ok, hate to leave another comment on here, but I feel like if he's been your best friend for 10 years, you should be able to just say "Hey, remember when we jacked off together? Want to try it again?" and it not ruin the friendship. All he should say is "Yes." or "No bro, I don't think that's a good idea" and then you move on.

    Me and my best friend jack off together I'd say once a month give or take, and it started with me asking him. I was nervous as hell, but I felt like he IS my best friend, and I feel like I can tell him anything, and he cares enough about me to not let me asking ruin our friendship. We pretty much talk about everything, so this wouldn't be that our of sorts.

    So one day I just point blank asked, "I'd like to try jacking off with another guy, and you're the only guy I feel comfortable doing it with. Would you like to do it? Be honest." Obviously he said yes, and it was no big deal.

    I guess the question to ask is, if he really your best friend in order for this to ruin your friendship? Seeing as you guys did it in the past It would be weird for him to just end the friendship over you just asking about it? Does anyone else get what I'm saying?
     
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    I agree that if he is yr bf, then its ok to ask with no fear of repercussion....in fact I think Im gonna call my bf in a few to see if I can visit his place for a session!
     
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    let him catch you wanking. act normal like its no big deal (dont act all panicy to cover up) just stop and cover up slowly, say sorry. if he acts cool way it then bring up how yous done it together years ago. and then you'll see what way to go about.......