Mutual Masterbation

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  1. LongNights

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    This has been one of the questions that I have always pondered over. Over the years and throughout relationships from high school to college it has been a habit of mine to engage in mutual masterbation with my partner.

    Sometimes we engaged in the masterbation over the phone (phone sex), on the computer (cyber) other times it is in the same room just watching one another. I personally like to watch, hear, imagine the other person orgasming. Don't be fooled though I much prefer the actual intercourse, but mixing it up from time to time keeps it hot. I am such a pleasure whore that I always force my partner to take multiple turns before achieving orgasm myself.

    Anyways....Ladies & Gents, do you engage in mutual masterbation? Is it something that is fun for you? Is it sometimes hotter than actual intercourse? Are you a pleasure whore or do you like to be the one obtaining the pleasure?

    -LongNights-

    ps - Talk amongst yourselves.....
     
  2. BruceSter

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    My masturbation frequency diminished gradually since my first sex - fucking a woman is just better than just fucking your hand. However, mutual masturbation can be a very initmate kind of foreplay - me and my l/f practice it from time to time, often involved in what we call "mirroring", with us sitting on our haunches on her bed (or whereever we have sex), and mirroring each other's motions, so when I reach for her chest, she does the same on me, and when I reach for her lower body and apply pressure on her pelvis, rub her labia or stroke her clit, she does the same on my body (equivalent parts). We don't do it all the time, but when we are in a very sensual mood, it's a great experience.

    Bruce
     
  3. LongNights

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    Mirroring, sounds hot. Think I will need to try that in the near future.

    -LongNights-
     
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    You are undoubtedly the sexiest dude of the forum, BruceSter. I don't dare miss any of your posts :excl: :wow:
     
  5. jonb

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    Masturbation is nothing without U.

    Seriously, I've engaged in mutual masturbation before, with both men and women, though not both at once. Phone sex with women, although I have discussed sexual fantasies about certain women with men over the phone while we were both masturbating. (I don't know if that counts as phone sex or not, even though we did sometimes have MFM threesomes in these fantasies.)

    Actual intercourse is better, but the nice thing about sex is the variety.
     
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    Praise the Lord and pass me some new tail!

    -LongNights-
     
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    Mutual masturbation can be an incredibly good change of pace in lovemaking. Whether you masturbate your partner, or yourself while your partner watches, it's a great variation that helps keep things from becoming routine. Watching your partner is also a great way to learn what works best for him/her. My wife and I have done this for years and find it very enjoyable, especially when you have a second round that finishes with intercourse.

    BruceSter, I love the concept of "mirroring". It's something I'd never thought of before. The wife and I are going to have a go at it tonight, so thanks for an excellent idea!

    B-man
     
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    I once walked in on ex-hubby while he was masturbating and it sort of freaked me out. It just seems like such a private moment to me so it's nothing I've shared with anyone. Yet.
     
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    You're quite welcome - feel free to tell me about your experience with it. Be sure to take your time for it, the longer it lasts, the better it gets.

    Bruce
     
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    I will be doing at some point. Female masturbation is such a turn on!
     
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    Bruce--

    All I can say is WOW!
    Without going into detail, I'll tell you that both of us loved it. We made it last about 2 1/2 hours & were both ready to explode (which of course we did :D in one sense) by the time we were finished.

    The wife suggested one variation, which was to do a true mirroring. In other words, whatever I do to myself, you do to yourself. If one partner is the "leader" they have the option of reaching for the other whenever they want, or on the other hand, going back to stimulating themself, thus controlling the pace.

    Anyway, it's early to bed tonight! Thanks again, from both of us!

    B-man
     
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    I'm glad it worked so well between the two of you - and yes, it's sexually very loading. I think I might try your version of it too next time - sounds good too.

    Why's it early to bed tonight? Another mirroring, or are you so exhausted from last night?

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    Some real great discussion in this thread and some lovely new ideas. I will be trying the mirroring and 'leader' based method ASAP. I will report back when I have details of the experience.

    -LongNights-
     
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    The closest I've come is giving a handjob while being fingered with an ex-boyfriend, but I guess that isn't masturbation. I have two close male friends that have masturbated in front of me several times.
     
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    Bruce--

    Why early indeed! I'm only gonna give you one guess.....

    Tomorrow night I'll sleep. (Well....maybe.)

    B-man
     
  16. jonb

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    Mirroring's fine. Be careful with her labia and vagina when doing it; your scrotum can feel wonderful, if she does it right. (And ladies, it is the scrotum, not the anus.)

    Mirroring's easier with a guy, for obvious reasons.
     
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    Ok, reporting in.

    I tested the 'mirroring' technique as posted by Bruce. Here is how the evening went:

    A few glasses of wine, a casual dinner......fast forward 45 minutes and we are both stark naked on the bed (male & female). I am sporting a "semi" and she is getting in the mood. She reaches over to kiss me, which I gladly accept. I reached over to her hand and slowly moved it to my now erect cock. I guided her hand up and down getting her used to the long strokes, which I like (first time the girl I am dating jacked me off). After she has the idea of what is going on, I release her hand and move to her cunt (sorry ladies who don't like the "C" word).

    Now we are both heatedly jacking each other. I then introduce the idea of the "game". This was a GREAT idea. She was totally thrilled to play a little before hand. Little did she know this would turn into a 2 hour lust activity, rather than just foreplay. We literally sexually worshiped each other for the next two hours.

    About 15 minutes into the clitoral stimulation and the periodic fingering she released her first orgasm (she doesn't last long). She knows that I like it when she cums a lot so from that point on she came as she could. Over the next hour and 45 minutes she came another 6 times (7 total). By the 7th orgasm, and tons of mirroring (she would do something, and then I would so something similar) she was begging for me to cum, I usually like to make nights like these go longer but I agve in. At that point, she wrapped both hands around my cock and gave up on the mirroring and began to literally pummel my cock with the most intense workout it has seen in ages. She was literally so turned on by the activity that not only did she jack me off, but she jacked me off right into her mouth. I came so much it was a miracle it wasnt pouring out of all her orafices.

    All I can say is: ONE HOT NIGHT

    ......Thank You Bruce.

    -LongNights-
     
  18. BruceSter

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    Thanks a lot for that detailed account on what you did - I'm glad that I could help you two spice up your love life! by the way, try some mirroring on the other parts of your bodies too, like chest, arms, face and so on - as a foreplay to the foreplay, if you like. I don't know where she's sensitive to your touch, but just try it, might give her even more orgasms.

    Bruce
     
  19. Bananaman

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    Fully agree, Bruce. "Full Body" is the only way to go. It does seem to me that people who've been lovers for a while would have better success with this simply because they've become familliar with each other's erogenous zones. There's so much more than just the genitals....

    B-man
     
  20. OldLady

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    Mirroring, great term. We've mirrored to an extent, but sometimes it's just a thing of watching each other. Masturbation is a grossly underrated activity, in my opinion. I was only able to get one partner to do that with me more than once and it's pretty hot. Being able or willing to masturbate in front of each other tells a lot about one's comfort with the other partner, but also with one's own body. Mutual masturbation doesn't really work for long, though (always get more involved heh).