showing off in mens locker room

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  1. mustang43

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    This may seem like a very bizarre idea, but bear with me. Im 19, and when i usually work out at a gym, i always shower when i get home, because whenever i walk around naked around anyone at all, i get an erection. this has always bothered me, as i just want to be able to relax and let it hang out without worry. Recently I have also noticed that many of the older men are a lot smaller than me. I'm not gay by any means, but I was wondering what you primarily straight older guys would think if a 19 yr old like myself had a hardon in the showers. Would it be weird? i'm thinking about just forgetting about my fears and just letting it go, boner or not. Let me hear your thoughts
     
  2. D_that's a tall order

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    I say go for it. It isn't as though you are standing there masturbating, you are just having a natural reaction. As long as you keep it to yourself, you should be fine. You might even get used to the situation and it will go away.

    Now, that said, an erect penis in a shower is going to attract attention, so be ready. Some men might not appreciate it, and some might appreciate it more than you want.

    But, if you don't mean any harm, I don't see why you shouldn't take a shower and let your dick do whatever comes naturally.
     
  3. mustang43

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    yeah, offending someone is the last thing i want. any other opnions? come on here old guys
     
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    LOL, old guys.....:biggrin1:

    Mustang, just breathe and relax dude.... People get hardons all the time in the locker rooms. If you are really worried, bring a towel or washcloth, and just cover up when the time comes.. or pic showers near the corner of the way, so u can turn into them. :smile:
     
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    I would say don't worry about it and just do it. If you aren't used to communal showers, it can be a little scary at first. But after a few times you'll get used to it and it won't bother you at all.

    I had to start taking showers in 7th grade PE. I was a shy kid, and never had a brother. The only other people that had seen me naked were my parents when I was little. So you can imagine what I felt like the first day of school. But you know what? It wasn't that bad. After the first week or so, I didn't think anything of it.

    If you are afraid of getting hard and embarassing yourself, why don't you go to a different location from your regular gym and workout at a time when it isn't so crowded. That way, if you do get an erection, there won't be too many people to see it and you'll probably never see those people again anyway. Even if you do get hard, don't give up. Just keep showering and I think the problem will probably take care of itself.

    Good luck, and let us know how it works out.
     
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    the place i work out at is a country club, where i also lifeguard. im really trying to be careful because theres some seriously powerful guys who work out there who i wouldnt want to rub the wrong way. plus i see them every day
     
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    Well, that does limit your choices a bit. I still say, just do it and get over with it. If you spend so much time over analyzing the situation, you're going to make the situation more important than it really is. Just wrap a towel around yourself and head to the showers. If you feel yourself getting hard, try to think about something else (dead puppies!) . It's likely no one is really paying much attention to you. If you get through it without any problems, then no need for the towel and you can shower all you like

    I don't know where you live, but have you considered joining a gym and trying to shower there? It will eliminate your anxiety about embarassing yourself at your workplace.
     
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    I wouldn't worry about it, actually erections with out purpose are a normal part of 19, 20, 21... etc. until you hit the age where you have a more relaxed penis, it just happens - your still sexually maturing as a male, I think almost every male that is over 30 knows all about this phase - so for older guy, it's just like, yep been there done that, so you might get more sympathy or just people ignoring it then not - most likely the only commentary or notice will come from guy your own age that are either in the same phase, or are vocal about it out of lack of disgression or ignorance that it's a normal thing... all in all, just be yourself - hard or soft...lol.
     
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    I know exactly what you mean, Mustang. I'm nine years older than you and still haven't grown out of it.
    I usually don't shower at a gym unless it's got private cubicles, and at the pool I tend to wear my speedos.
    It's not that I get hard all the time, it's just that I'm never sure when it will happen. And if a hot guy walks in, it's game over. I guess you don't have that problem though.
    As for what I'd think if I saw a 19-year old with a hard-on in the showers -- I'd be impressed that he was relaxed enough about himself to let it happen, but I'd probably assume he was liking something he was seeing.
     
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    I am sure most men would not even notice ?
    People can be very unobservant .....
    You would probably "go down" pretty quick anyway !
     
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    Good points here, I think you need to be clear about your motivation. A lot of guys would be uncomfortable if they thought you were coming on to them or looking at them and getting turned on.

    You just need a few strategies. One I have used is "oh, sorry if you are offended dude but the fucker has a life of its own".
     
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    DUDE, even though you may get a boner in the shower, do not give them any eye contact even though they may be watching. Some people when showering don't turn aound at least they are trying not to show it as much.(unless you want them to see) They may stare, gawk but oh Well. At least they cannot accuse U of cruising them. Been there done that. So enjoy your refreshing shower. :wink:
     
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    Here's another opinion from an "older" guy.:tongue:

    A few years ago I went in the bathroom/locker room/changing area at a water park in Gulf Shores, Alabama. The showers were in plain view of anyone once inside the door. There was a cute red-headed teenager taking a shower sporting a big boner. I never saw him touch himself but to this day wonder if he was doing it deliberately to attract attention. I don't think he was over 19 so I sure would not have moved in on him. The image of that day still remain in my mind. Some red-heads are another turn on for me.
    (I use to fanticize over "Ben" in the Waltons. LOL)
     
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    One suggestion I used to use- if you feel yourself 'pumped' after a work out (normal), go into a bathroom stall and jack off to take the 'edge' off...

    As an older guy I have seen a few hard ons at the gym... I take it as just what others said a normal reaction for a healthy young man...

    Also- don't make eye contact...if you make it a 'big deal' and look embarrassed, etc... then that will only make it worse.

    A (large) towell can also help to hide...esp if bosses are present. I think they would rather you shower than to 'stink' around the customers...
     
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    Exactly, I agree!!

    Keep it light, the other people will understand. Fuck, they are ALL GUYS, and chances are, they have had an erection in the locker room before... they will remember how embarassing it was.
    Thanks Hypo, I didn't even think of the joke route.:biggrin1:
     
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    Yeah, the more you stress and freak out about it, the more likely you are, I think, to get an unwanted boner. For that matter, I think your average guy in the locker room is going to plump up a little bit anyway, even just being in a hot and steamy environment. Depending on how "older" the guy is, he probably won't give you much shit for something your hormones can't control, anyway. And even if someone does say something to you about it or try to cause trouble, you can always deflect it. If someone approaches on, turn it around by saying, "You're looking at it. What's your problem?"

    Okay, maybe not that sassy, but you get the idea...
     
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    But the real question is, who goes to the locker room and struts around in some state of arousal for the sake of showing off? And why?

    Me: I'm pretty passive about showing off. I hang pretty big soft and I'm big hard too and I've had unwanted boners. I think it's just a matter of working out and getting the blood flowin', personally. It's not like I'm staring at dudes' asses. And on occasion, I've seen a guy glance down or nod or something like that. Didn't make a big sense but you could see that he was confirming that I was big, maybe especially because I'm a lean built dude. I appreciate that, but the "showing off" hasn't been any more intense than that.
     
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    I could care less if somebody gets an accidental hardon, and would not give yours a second thought. Normal guys will not care a bit. If you don't make a big deal out of it, why would they? It is not worth worrying about, and I doubt if older guys have skins so thin you have to protect them from the shock of seeing another guy's dick, hard or soft. I don't think age matters either.

    Most guys in gyms are not going to be easily upset. How can you be a macho weightlifter or athlete and then suddenly start acting like a nun or a prude once you're naked? If somebody does get squeemish about the sight of your dick, you can always tell them there is a girls gym up the street.
     
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    i say, before u take ur clothes off, go down to horny town and fyre the mayor
     
  20. D_Bob_Crotchitch

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    If it's just a natural occuring deal, don't make a big deal out of it and it wont bother peeps like me. Call attention to yourself or play with it, that would bother me.
    If it bugs ya, wank before you leave home. If still horned up, wank in the john and then shower.
    It's not like We've forgotten. Shoot wind blew and I was up. Well, ummm that still happens to me and I'm 46.