I disagree with Betty. I almost never disagree with Betty, but this time I do. Just leave him. Get your money right and go. My husband had one sexual hang-up after another. My sexual attention was brushed aside for video games, and simulators, and animated porn. I tried getting counseling with him, and for years he refused (falsely claiming it would eat his security clearance) so I went alone. His years of neglecting me had an extremely negative impact on my self esteem, my physical health, and my ability to concentrate despite therapy.
You know, if you use Work Life, and Tricare, you can get a lot of sessions. However, if you're to the point where you need medication, kick him out. Move on. Let it be his next wife's problem. You can only be his partner if he will let you. And if he won't see a doctor, he's not only not your partner, but not letting you be his. So. Since he won't fuck you, let him go fuck himself. Who knows? Maybe when you inform him your suing for divorce he will do what mine did and plant his ass in front of a therapist. If that happens, hopefully it won't be too late for your marriage like it unfortunately was for mine.
Anyway. My dude knows I'm here. He made an account and he checks up on me. I think my being here might make him uncomfortable, but he doesn't want to be controlling. He wants to get comfortable. He's pretty opinionated, so maybe he'll start to post. He mostly joined because I often read him some of the more humorous threads, and he thought more of this stuff would be funnier than it is.
