jonb...thats an interesting point you bring up...the 'familiarity'...i have a cousin [female] that when we were 16 met at a family reunion for the 2nd time in our lives. I lived in the south and she in the...mmmmm...extreme far west with lots of water around it... There was an instant attraction between us and for the next 3 weeks we were inseparable. Exchanging ideas and dreams and stuff, we found we were on the same page about so many things. Then as it will, the subject of sex came up and we had this long talk about it, even though we were SO attracted to each other, virtually strangers, we WERE 1st cousins. My Dad and her Mom were brother and sister. Realizing the consequences, we just never could bring ourselves to the act. We still are very close to this day and my heart just leaps every time i see her. She feels the same about me still but we are separated by a great distance still and still cousins. There is WAY more involved than just the 2 people dude. If it ever came out and it would...could you imagine the rift it would cause in your families? :wub: