Straight married men having gay sex?

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I was just wondering...
How likely is it that a "straight" man married to a female would be interested in a man with a large penis? I mean, just because he's married, does that mean that he no longer has any interest or curiosity in having sex with another man? For example, do married guys try to peek at other men while at the urinal? Do they check out the bulges on other guys?
I'd love to hear from some of you married guys out there who have also had some sexual experience with other men. Thanks! :smile:
 

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There are a lot of closeted gay guys that are married to women. It's what was expected of them by their parents and peers. Some of us come to our senses and get out of the lie that's called a marriage.
 

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Pappy said:
There are a lot of closeted gay guys that are married to women. It's what was expected of them by their parents and peers. Some of us come to our senses and get out of the lie that's called a marriage.
Pappy, I understood him asking if straight married men (not closeted gay guys) wanted to have sex with gay guys with big dicks. Maybe I misunderstood.
 

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Sorcerer said:
Pappy, I understood him asking if straight married men (not closeted gay guys) wanted to have sex with gay guys with big dicks. Maybe I misunderstood.
Bit he also mentioned interest in men.


"I'd love to hear from some of you married guys out there who have also had some sexual experience with other men. Thanks!" Quote: bdkluver

I understand him to mean that when married do these guys then lose interest in other men just because they are men.

No, not a chance. If they were attracted to men before they said "I do" at the altar. Most likely they still are. They may be closeted gays or they may just be a little to a lot bi. Some like Pappy get out of the marriage. This happens more frequenatly than many are aware of.
 

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As a married man who has a boyfriend--this is not all that unusual and it is extremely complciated. I started a thread a few days ago about this. Here is my post from there (As the thread did not catch on).

As many of you know, I am in a Mixed Orientation Marriage. I am out and open to and with my wife. I uncovered my desire for men a few years ago. My wife has been INCREDIBLY supportive and more understanding than I could ever even have a right to expect her to be. She is literally thre most amazing woman alive. I have a BF of 15 months who is also an amazingmentor along my journey into the world of homosexual men.

Feel free to search my threads titled "Coming Out," "Bisexuality," "Everywhere and Nowhere," and I think I did one on Mixed Orientation Marriage as well (I can't remember).

Here is the article:
Many Couples Must Negotiate Terms of 'Brokeback' Marriages

I would be interested in some of your thoughts.

I do, however, I want to be clear. My wife and I set the boundaires of our marriage together. Think what you will--it is what it is and we are both incredibly happy. She has the option to kick my ass out at any point and time. Either of us can call "no mas" and be done. So far so good. God love NY hippie parents that raise their kids to be open minded.
 

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well i always liked married men or they seemed to like me.
one of my current bf's is married but seperated.
my first bf was 30yo married with 2 kids when i was 18 that lasted 5 years.
 

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BIGdkluver said:
I was just wondering...
How likely is it that a "straight" man married to a female would be interested in a man with a large penis? I mean, just because he's married, does that mean that he no longer has any interest or curiosity in having sex with another man? For example, do married guys try to peek at other men while at the urinal? Do they check out the bulges on other guys?
I'd love to hear from some of you married guys out there who have also had some sexual experience with other men. Thanks! :smile:
Most gay men have sex with "str8" guys all the time. I just had this guy with a wedding ring on jerking his cock in the steam room 10 minutes after I heard him mention his wife to his friend. VERY common in my experience!
 

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Mattness said:
Most gay men have sex with "str8" guys all the time. I just had this guy with a wedding ring on jerking his cock in the steam room 10 minutes after I heard him mention his wife to his friend. VERY common in my experience!

The hottest circle jerk of my YMCA experience was begun in the sauna by a married guy who I had seen working out off and on for years. Knowing he was married, I was surprised to notice his 'adjusting' his cock under the towel, especially when he opened his towel and began jacking his erection. After a few strokes three of the other five of us joined him in playing with our own. Since I never saw him after that day, I've always wondered if this was his way of telling us good bye.
 

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Mattness said:
Most gay men have sex with "str8" guys all the time. I just had this guy with a wedding ring on jerking his cock in the steam room 10 minutes after I heard him mention his wife to his friend. VERY common in my experience!

Yeah, I swear when I'm in a steam room or sauna and if a "straight " married man is in there (alone with me) he will be stroking his cock asap. Most of the time they are up for giving head too. Cool with me...
 

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Mattness said:
Most gay men have sex with "str8" guys all the time.

OK, you jogged something I've been thinking about for a while. As a longtime Los Angeles resident, I found this very rare. Maybe it was just me. My best friend who grew up in Brooklyn said this was VERY common in his neighborhood. Do you think this sort of thing is more common in areas that are less receptive (pardon the pun) to gay sex and gay life?
 

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These so-called 'straight' guys are too
afraid to "own" their sexuality.

They are unwilling to admit that a cock
does as much for them as a vagina does.

If the religious fanatics would quit judging
every one and just live and let live...yes,
I know...Utopia...a lot of people would
not be getting married for the wrong reasons.
 

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I've been married and had 2 other long term straight relationships and have never been tempted to have any kind of homo-sex. I'm not bothered by it though, it just does nothing for me. I've seen it on video, and gay associates have once or twice invited me for guilt free sessions, but I've always politely declined.

Personally, the only scenarios, real, porn or imagined that get me hard are those involving women, and the right type of woman at that. I'm with WTW on this one. I think a married man who has gay sex just isn't straight, he's bi or closeted to some degree.

As to the urinal thing? Never looked myself, since the only dick I'm motivated by is my own, and I'm more than happy with it. It's always served me and the ladies in my life more than well enough. However, after reading a couple of posts on the topic, I used the convenience in a supermarket a couple of days ago so I looked up from my own business to the face of the 50-something guy next to me, and guess where HE was looking?:wink:
 
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If the religious fanatics would quit judging
every one and just live and let live...yes,
I know...Utopia...a lot of people would
not be getting married for the wrong reasons.

That is a big part of it...the stereotype of being gay, with the Streisand albums, gold chains, and syrupy speech patterns.

I dated a girl a few years ago. I truely liked her, but I didnt think it was fair to suck her into the garbage pit of sexual fecklessness that is me, so I let her go. For the same reasons, I dont let many guys into my life either.

Concerning being with married (and/or straight) men...Maybe I havent has enough sexual experiences, but I have not had sex with anyone who considered himself straight. I have been with a guy who was closeted, single and enjoyed being with guys (a Greek guy). The rest I have experience with have all strongly identified themselves as gay.
 

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If I had a dollar for every married guy
that has dropped to his knees at the
gym or ABS, I'd be far richer than I am
today. In other words MANY many men. :smile: