Straight Men and Their Assholes

[B_Nick8]

Come on guys, help me out here!!!!

I don't know about you but a lot of guys have issues about being 'clean'. I do and knowing I am relaxes me. Using a Fleet enema before sex is a good idea (you can refill it with water to do it more than once). After that, its a mental thing. Make sure her finger is well lubed, lay back, have her go slowly (it helps if finger nails are short) and enjoy! You may find two fingers are better!

 

[matticus201]

The Anus is not a sex organ and there is no physiological pleasure assosiated with it. the only pleasure from an ass hole is psychological(imaginary), and is not worth the risk, the pain, or the filth. Rimming is very unsanitary and is a good way to spread HPV, Hep, and Ecoli. Besides don't you kiss that mounth?

Since when did you become the authority on which body parts give certain people physiological pleasure? Since I cannot seem to find any evidence of your medical degree, I fail to understand how you can make this claim.

I must say I indulged in the liberty of taking a cursory look at your website, which informs my opinion stated below.

While I respect your right to practice whatever type of sex you wish, I find your opinions regarding anal stimulation to be a detriment to both your own cause and to the progress that gay and lesbian people have made in the mainstream. The fact that you, and anyone else, find anal sex to be effeminizing is the most ridiculous load of crap I've ever heard (no pun intended). If two consenting adults wish to engage in anal stimulation, whether it be a man and a woman, two men, or two women, first and foremost this is THEIR business. Nothing about the human body or sexuality is dirty. Promulgating this view is doing nothing to stem the spread of diseases, if anything it is aiding it. Taboos on the human body have no place in today's society, or at least they shouldn't. Two consenting adults should be allowed to engage in whatever act they wish, as long as it does not infrige on the live of a third party. For someone to tell me that because I enjoy anal sex I am inherently feminized and some kind of effed up substitution for a female is not only insulting, but bigoted and sounds strongly of self-deprication. I have said before that it is my belief that a man's soul makes him a man; manhood to me is completely free of physical constraints. Standing up for what you believe in, treating others with dignity and respect, and having integrity are the qualities that make a man a "man." It has absolutely nothing to do with puritanical views concerning sexual roles. I've come into contact with many people, both straight and gay, that fit your "definition" of manhood. They to me were nothing more than boys, children, if you could even give them that credit.

As I said before, I completely respect your right to live an anal-sex free life. I, however, have not made this choice, and with the proper hygeine and safe sex practices in place, I'm perfectly happy with my level of safety, and my "masculineness." I think you are confusing "masculine" with "machismo." Two completely different things.

By the way, do you wear a condom every time you engange in this activity? If not, you are as at just a high a risk as I am at catching Herpes and Genital Warts, as well as Scabies and Genital Lice through your "Frot" sex. Just a thought.

I'm sorry if this sounds combative, but I'm just so tired of people equating being a man with overpumped amounts of testosterone and ass scratching. I'm not a caveman, nor will I ever be, but that does not make me a girly man. Didn't the Governator's mistake teach us a little something about this kind of label?

Ok, I'm done.

 

[matticus201]

That's it CUBE, ass play wasn't made for gays. The pleasure nerves there weren't stamped "homosexual".

Hell, it was my ex wife who introduced me to anal play. I was squeamish at first, but as said, when a man realizes his ass isn't directly connected to homosexuality, a whole new door of pleasure is opened. I loved it when I'd be thrusting her and she'd suddenly slip a lubed finger in my ass. You talk about shooting a load..

Prostate massages, another tremendous subject. Wow!

To each his own, but ass play can be HOT if done right.

A perfect example, like others in the thread, of how anal sex isn't a "gay" thing. It's part of the body, which by proxy makes it a part of everyone's sexuality. If straight guys aren't into it, that's cool, but if a guy's girl likes to get a little wild and lick his ass or stick a finger in it, that DOESN'T MAKE HIM GAY.

 

[MuscleBound]

I thought the South (US) was the last bastion of strong sexual conservativism. Maybe just because I live here, but it always seems as though we read about things happening everywhere else before here, but maybe I'm wrong.

Unless a guy is still really young which to me is below 25, I can't imagine him "being afraid" to tell his buddies about any kind of sex he's had. Almost every dude I know does some kind of ass play with his wife or gf. I can't imagine an group of adult male friends in this day that would be itimidated by what his buddies might think of his sexual behavior with his wife or gf. Most of my friends are still in the dark ages politically and culturally, but sexually? are you kidding me? I'm old enough to remember when anal with your girl was discussed as "gay" (cause you're fucking in the ass!). Of course no one would even listen to such a statement now. I know that not all women want something in their ass, but I know very few guys that don't like anal sex, and get it on at least a semi-regular schedule.

I don't think letting my wife play with my ass is gay, because duh...she's a woman. But I wasn't excited about trying it the first time either. It was a trade off - you wanna play with my ass, well then bucko I get to play with yours! Can't really argue with that. But I wasn't concerned about what other guys would think. I'm straight I don't need other guys to approve of my sex life. Anyway, I was afraid it would hurt, and the thing about it being dirty (as in hygiene) applied also. So we took it slow, and pardon the pun but that shit rocks...

 

[wetnips]

You can't imagine the height of orgasm until you have someone playing with your butthole when you shoot.WOW!
My gf loves to finger me when I'm about to cum and I do the same to her. It adds a whole new level of excitement!

 

[wetnips]

You can't imagine the height of orgasm until you have someone playing with your butthole when you shoot.WOW!
My gf loves to finger me when I'm about to cum and I do the same to her. It adds a whole new level of excitement!

 

[oralFixaShun]

It's verboten territory in straight sex to even touch his asshole- or so I assume - even a clean one. I know it is pleasurable on a purely physical level but maybe not emotionally. Maybe it's a lack of willing partners.

. . .

I believe that it is a treasure trove of pleasure that is firmly shut for straight men because of their egos. What say you?

Good question!

You're right, many straight men do have a hang up about this. But there are others who aren't so closed-minded about it. My current lover enjoys it -- though it was something I introduced him to gently. One day I started massaging him down there while giving him head and he loved it. We later discussed it -- he was surprised by how much he liked it and was willing to explore it more. He is 100% straight, and we've since engaged in a good amount of anal play. We've even discussed the possibility of a strap on (though, to date, I have only used fingers and tounge on him).

It really is the best way to get to the prostate. Massaging it while giving oral produces a much more intense orgasm for him.

Anal play is NOT exclusively for gay males, but no one should ever feel pressure to do anything they are not comfortable with. I've had three lovers -- the first one enjoyed it and the current one does, but my last one had SUCH an intense hang up about it that in the 4+ years we were together I never tried.

If you want to introduce your lover to anal play, you need to do so gently. Don't just whip out a strap-on and say, "lube up, baby!" or go shoving your fingers in randomly. Start by massaging his balls while you're teasing or going down, work your way to his perineum, and then work your way to massaging jsut the outside of his asshole. If at any time he seems uncomfortable, stop. Depending on how he is reacting, you can decide from there if you want to go for the prostate massage.

Three C's of anal play: Communication, Cleanliness, and Cut your fingernails! Seriously, if you have long fingernails, you don't want to go scratching and stabbing at anything in there.

Ironically, so far *I* have been the one with a hang-up to recieving anal play. That will probably change, after all fair is fair. ;-)

 

[Bbucko]

Just for shits and giggles:

I'm about as homo as anybody can get, and I hate my ass played with. It's totally a forbidden zone. If pressed for some sort of explanation, I usually just say that "the flower never opened".

And it wasn't for lack of trying: I spent my first three years of sexual activity trying to learn to enjoy what I always thought was an intrinsic part of gay sex. When I was 20 I finally gave up altogether.

Subsequent attempts (including once last year, with someone whom I completely trusted) confirmed what I always really knew anyway. I end up feeling humiliated and violated, as if someone's robbed me of my sense of control. It's very unpretty.

I've actually always been jealous of bottoms and versatiles. I am definitely missing something.

 

[zgrog2000]

Was there a hidden message in Led Zeppelin's In Through The Out Door?

 

[centauer6]

I once had a room mate who was str8, he was never attracted to men in the sence of falling in love or being sexually aroused by them but he found his ass being the most erogenous zone he has. that´s what he told me once after we had quite some beer. He was very embarassed the next day but teh following weeks I talked him into letting me play with his ass while he was watching porn. he loved the rimming and got more and more open.
after a year or so he got very confident about his ass and the pleasure it gave to him and he really got into me fucking him. so it became usage he was on his knees, jerking while watching porn and I fucked his nice ass. as I said, he is not gay and would never tak ea cock in his mouth but he just loves the sensation of being fucked.

 

[basque9]

Years ago during the Korean War, many of us in the military found ourselves overseas and horny ... with few options. A few of us became resourceful
and formed clandestine sexual pairs ( don't ask don't tell ca. Dwight Eisenhower) . I paired with a straight married guy from Georgia and I used his ass for several months. There was no kissing or emotion other than getting and receiving sexual release. I know that this straight man did not become gay from this experience.

 

[cklover]

Just for shits and giggles:

I'm about as homo as anybody can get, and I hate my ass played with. It's totally a forbidden zone. If pressed for some sort of explanation, I usually just say that "the flower never opened".

And it wasn't for lack of trying: I spent my first three years of sexual activity trying to learn to enjoy what I always thought was an intrinsic part of gay sex. When I was 20 I finally gave up altogether.

Subsequent attempts (including once last year, with someone whom I completely trusted) confirmed what I always really knew anyway. I end up feeling humiliated and violated, as if someone's robbed me of my sense of control. It's very unpretty.

I've actually always been jealous of bottoms and versatiles. I am definitely missing something.

I never felt the calling either....what PC crap I usd to have to put up with back in the 'day' . I think people are either born with erotic there or not.

 

[CUBE]

Cool thread Earllogjam. Glad straight guys out there trying this ass play. Not a gay thing...just a sexual position and the straight guys really can take there experince to a new level. Intense loads and feeling even more hung. Many guys think they will feel less powered by ass play but the revese is true. You actually feel more powerful becasue the pleasure is so intense. Caution guys...try this and be well lubed and take your time. Enjoy all the pleasure that can be had.

 

[cute5]

For me it's not a question of ego, it's something I'm not interested in. Like having something stuck in my ear, just not into it.

 

[Osiris]

I used to be the don't touch it type, but I had a girlfriend who would play with my asshole during blowjobs and she had this trick that right as I was about to blow, she'd thrust a well placed finger in and the force produced could put a hole through the wall.

I swear that there are probably a lot of guys that have or do do it and enjoy it, they just won't admit it.

Now I can tell you one BIG thing as a male that made me a "you no touchee" guy is the thought of that annual exam. That would do it to me everytime.

 

[Principessa]

Just for shits and giggles:

I'm about as homo as anybody can get, and I hate my ass played with. It's totally a forbidden zone. If pressed for some sort of explanation, I usually just say that "the flower never opened".

And it wasn't for lack of trying: I spent my first three years of sexual activity trying to learn to enjoy what I always thought was an intrinsic part of gay sex. When I was 20 I finally gave up altogether.

Subsequent attempts (including once last year, with someone whom I completely trusted) confirmed what I always really knew anyway. I end up feeling humiliated and violated, as if someone's robbed me of my sense of control. It's very unpretty.

I've actually always been jealous of bottoms and versatiles. I am definitely missing something.

Tsk, tsk, tsk. Bbucko you are ruining the "all gay men gotta take it up the butt sex myth!" Melissa Etheridge will be over tomorrow morning to take back your toaster oven. :biggrin1: :tongue: :biggrin1:

 

[earllogjam]

As a young man, nothing, I mean nothing would be allowed near my ass, let alone a dick. Like Bbucko, I too had tried a few times, found the experience painful and discovered I had many issues about being penetrated which I just did not enjoy. I just didn't get off on it and I hated feeling like a bitch. So I just became a top guy for a long time.

That all changed when I met a great lover who eased his way and took the time to really explore some pleasures that I never really experienced. He also had a smaller sized cock which was more enjoyable for me. He was a great massage therapist and knew how to give a great pelvic massage instinctively. I think much of my apprehension of being penetrated is tied into some deep seeded trust issues I have. Once the trust is there I can and do enjoy being vulnerable and passive.

 

[bstexas]

Same as bucko (and somewhat like earllogjam), I never got into having my ass penetrated. Don't get me wrong, LOVE men (being gay). Tried it a few times in my teens and 20s and wasn't into it. Just stopped trying even though I thought it was THE thing to do if one is gay. Anyway, my currrent partner of sevral years wants me to try again and I really want to as well. And seeing all the hot cocks on here makes me wanna get it as well. I think "damn, those bottoms are totally gettin it by these types of guy!" lol. I know I'll do it soon, it'll be slow, easy and good ... then I hope it's just crazy wild carnal sex!

 

[danerain]

Bump

 

[Bbucko]

Tsk, tsk, tsk. Bbucko you are ruining the "all gay men gotta take it up the butt sex myth!" Melissa Etheridge will be over tomorrow morning to take back your toaster oven. :biggrin1: :tongue: :biggrin1:

Awwwww, baby :biggrin1:

It's not that I have anything against buttsex. I LOVE it, as long as it's not my butt.

I've always considered the acceptance of one's limits to be a sign of maturity. And the older I get, them more 100% strict top sounds more like an attribute than a weakness.