Super growers vs. above-average showers

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  1. Kevbo

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    Out of curiosity, for those women for whom penis size matters:

    Would you rather have a man whose unerect size is very unimpressive, but whose erect size is "perfect" (at the upper bound of the size range you prefer)

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    Would you rather have a man whose unerect size is impressive, but whose erect size is not quite as big as the first choice?

    In other words, does a guy who fills out his jeans or who looks good on a nude beach -- the kind of guy you can maybe "show off" to your friends -- seem preferable to a guy who doesn't look like much unaroused, but is a tower of power in bed?

    I know there are a zillion other issues that go into your attraction to men, and I don't mean to dismiss them, but I'm interested in your gut reaction to this question.

    Thanks,
    Kevin
     
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    While a guy with a tasty bulge is always nice to look at, functionality is what it really boils down to. If it's just some random guy on the street, then sure, I'd prefer a shower. But if it's someone I'm going to be intimate with, I don't so much care what's showin until we get goin. :wink: At that point, it's not so much about how he fills out his pants, as how he fills up me.

    Hope that helps!
     
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    I guess I prefer growers. Also unlike many people here I have no interest in showing my mans penis off to my friends. That must be a new fetish. :rolleyes:


     
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    I'd like to add my question. So do women prefer to be surprised or do you like to know what you are getting into? (and visa versa;) lol
     
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    Hmmm, both of my partners have been growers, but the first time I saw them naked, or felt them they were hard. So I really didn't know until afterward. So I would say it does not matter.
     
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    Actually, to be honest I don't even know how I should answer this question.

    I guess for me it kind of doesn't matter so much as to what he has showing on the outside of his pants (his bulge). I've never been much for seeing male strip shows for that reason. I'm just not into looking at other men when I'm in a relationship unless it's when I'm watching porn with my S/O.

    But then again, when I was single and living in Florida, I would go to the beach quite frequently. One afternoon I was sitting on the shore reading a book and this guy in a white speedo kept walking past me frequently and often for no other reason than to try to get my attention. My friends thought it was hilarious but I wasn't even looking up from my book.

    Fact of the matter is, unless I have an intelligent conversation with you, then I'm probably NOT even going to notice your man package regardless if it's small or if it's so big it's shoved in my face.

    Size wise, my body enjoys the larger size of the spectrum because of my physical makeup down there. Ironically, smaller penis' are painful for me and feel more like a dagger in my vagina than a penis that's filled out nicely. I like them well rounded soft or hard. So I'm not quite sure I even really answered your question sorry. :frown1:
     
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    why would it matter how big it is when i'm not using it?
     
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    it is just a different feel walking around, i am really a part time shower and a part time super grower, thats just how my body is, and i like the first more, unfortunately the most time i am a grower
     
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    So basically, it's a choice between showing off and good sex? I'd take the good sex any day thanks.

    And do I like to be surprised or know what I'm getting? Well, I don't tend to hang out at the beach, so it's rarely that obvious how big a guy is based on what you can see in clothing. And I hate guys who brag about the size of their cock (they're often lying anyway). So please don't tell me unless it comes up as a natural part of a conversation.
    Shower or grower, with the first kiss I'll find out how big he is either way.
     
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    i don't care about unerect size, i'd go with the OP's first option.

    i've noticed this before, men seem to care more than women do about unerect size. at least from what i've observed here.
     
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    Most men seem to care more about their size than women do.

     
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    I'd prefer a penis that isn't too big and isn't too small, regardless of how it looks when soft.

    I do like how it looks when it's soft if it's bigger. I'm one of those weird women who likes looking at penises, though.

    I always thought that TheBoyfriend was really big when he wasn't erect, because that's how he looks to me. It turns out I was wrong.

    We sleep in the nude every night together, spooning, with his cock between my thighs. Well a few weeks ago I woke up and I was horny so I reached between my legs for his cock and it was really small! I was shocked! I had never seen it like that! I asked him about it and apparently I had just never seen him entirely soft before. If his cock is visible and I'm around, it's always semi-erect.

    I never realized.

    When I decide to have sex with a man, it's before I've seen his penis, so it's obviously not a deciding factor. Of all the traits that I could appreciate about a man, it's near the bottom of the list, just above "knees," and really far below "smile." It isn't even on the list of things that matter.
     
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    something i've always assumed.
    how often do we see our guys 100% soft?
     
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    Damn it, and i have worked so hard to make my knees look more attractive ;)
    No but i obviously understand that it has not so much to do with the decision whether you have sex with a man, but what do you like looking at more?


    true and i guess that is part of this problem, we also like to show of at the urinal or the gym shower or the beach where we are not erect or semi erect.

    I don't see the connection there, because i can think of very few things that actually have less to do with the quality of sex than the flaccid size.

    Well when you first find out the size it is obviously not 100% soft, already happily waiting.
    And in many situation it won't be when your around, but then again in a longer relationship there will be some times, for example at night when your presence is not conscious and has no effect.
     
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    I would rather have a grower. My husband is kinda small even erect. And very small if he isnt. What shows in his buldge is his huge sac. So and I see him fully soft all the time. I love to start from that point. Makes me feel a bit powerful to start from there to get him hard I guess.
     
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    If you're weird, I'm weird too. I think penises are pretty. I know that's not very manly but I really do think that. And when they're soft there's something seriously cute about them. Sorry, that's not very manly either! Of course, I love them best when they're hard :smile: (but they're still pretty then :smile: ).
     
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    I have to agree with the obvious here as has already been stated: What matters is what the man has to function with, not what size he is soft, i.e., though I also appreciate a large softie - I *love* the shape of a beautiful phallus and big, juicy balls - it's the useable, erect state that counts! Yum.

    It does seem to matter a heckuva lot more to guys than to gals. :rolleyes:
     
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    I didn't!

    We spend a lot of time naked, and lots of that time isn't sexy at all, like when he's getting dressed in the morning and we're talking about really unsexy things, or if we happen to bickering over something while we're naked. At those times I'm 0% aroused, so the idea that some part of him is aware of sex at that moment is amazing to me. I marveled to discover that he's really never soft when he's around me and he's conscious, and he's not 100% soft most of the time that he's asleep, too.

    There are things about male sexuality that are still novel to me.

    Penis more than knees, actually, but not soft. Although I really do like watching it become hard, but more so in my mouth. I also like his eyes, face, pecs, abs, glutes, hamstrings, and shoulders a lot, too. He has lots of parts that are nice to look at. :smile:
     
  19. dolfette

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    really?

    i just assume that too.
     
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    Yeah but thats not the point, the question is do you like it better to look at a penis that is very big flaccid or do you like it better to see or feel it growing assuming that both are the same in erect size.