Wow! Thank you all for responding and offering tips. I really appreciate it! So many things to remember with a penis in your face, it's really quite overwhelming!
(They need to be real, because some portion of this is about trust.) With slender ones, I have over time developed the ability to wait until the head is pushing on the constricted part near my larynx. I let the head hit a few times in a certain rythym and I decide that the next thrust is the one. my brain actually says gasp! or swallow! I am not exactly sure, but I kind of gulp into it past the head.
Do you inhale with this "gulp" or is it really just a sort of a mental image that helps get it down?
Good luck. I am amazed by this thread, your honesty, and your willingness. After a lifetime of sucking off frustrated straight men, I could be put out of business if your dedication catches on.
While I know that most women wouldn't do this at all, it's him that's the difference this time. I've dated a lot of guys and I think I would have gone to this much effort for only one other person I've ever dated before. I think I'm going to keep this one.
another great numbing agent is chloraceptic. my wife tried some "deepthroat gel" from an adult shop but it didn't really work as well as the chloraceptic.
god bless you for giving it this kind of effort. i wish my wife was as dedicated. deepthroating is by far the biggest turn on for me. both visually and physically.
you should check out the google group "dttech". excellent forum for the subject.
Those are great tips! Thank you!
No do not try to breathe.......If you watch the Belladonna vid...Even the pro says not to
I haven't had a chance to get to those videos yet, but I will! The breathing idea was to turn off the gag reflex, which a doctor taught me years ago and I use every day when I clean the back of my tongue. If you exhale while you do it, you won't gag!
Simple solution. Your bi male friend is showing you how to DT your man, in return YOU be the third with them and go down on her. Hot new bf doesn't have to be involved at all, nor does genital to genital contact.
She may be into that. I don't know if she likes women, but I have a feeling that she does. Boyfriend suggested another bisexual friend, actually his best friend before he moved away and they grew apart because of distance, but I thought that would be too emotionally complicated and potentially cruel. It's common knowledge among our friends that this friend has had a long standing crush on Boyfriend, and he even told me once that if he had the ability to steal him from me, he would, which I already knew and has become a sort of running joke between us, except it's really not a joke. I didn't think that would be such a great idea, for their friendship, and because you shouldn't lead people on or toy with their emotions.
Regarding deep throat tips.
- I'd advise against throat numbing. As was said before the two most important things are desire and practice. How can you desire something you can't feel? Love the feel of him entering your throat the same way you love the feel of him entering your vagina. Visualize it. Crave it.
- Hum. Moan. Purr. If you're new at DT and not making sounds while you do it, whether you're aware of it or not you're probably bracing for impact. Making pleasure sounds helps to keep your focus on the pleasure and keeps the throat from tensing up. Even if you don't get it down he'll still love the vibration.:smile:
- Gravol/Dramamine. Gag all you like while keeping your stomach contents where they belong. You'll hurt his feelings if you don't gag at all.:wink:
Thank you for the tips! I actually always make moaning/purring sounds during oral sex. I enjoy it a lot, especially with him because of how he, uh, gosh there isn't a proper verb for "accepting oral sex." I hadn't thought of the Dramamine idea at all! I did have a scary moment tonight when I thought I might be ill, and it might have helped.
I can't deep throat though I too am trying to figure it out. I actually asked Ron Jeremy and he told me to stick my tongue out like I was at the Drs. and say AHHHHHH, this, apparently opens the back of the throat.
You know, I tried this idea tonight, but for some reason when his penis was in the back of my throat I couldn't actually seem to push my tongue forward like an "Ahhh!" It may just be that it was my first time trying that.
To start, don't let him push your head into it. You must be the one in control and slightly move your face left and right as it goes in. You might always have the gag reflex, but with practice it should get better and better. My BF still gags after 8 years. Think relax, and enjoy!
I didn't know about the the moving my face back and forth, I'll try that! Both Boyfriend and I like oral the same way, which involves him pushing, so we'll have to set that aside while I practice this. I like it when he puts one hand on the back of my head and another on my throat beneath my chin and he hold me firmly but gently. Sometimes he pushes, sometimes he holds my head still and thrusts, and we both enjoy it that way. I thought that maybe it would help, but I'll try it the other way instead and see if that works better.
You could ask LPSG member Fleshlight for tips. He has videos, too.
I PM-ed him and asked him if had any additional advice to add to this thread, so hopefully he'll do that!
