The loose pussy

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  1. WildHoney

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    Hi everyone,

    I am facinated by men's insults and perceptions of a "loose pussy"

    When growing up it seemed to be an insult thrown at percieved "slutty" women. For female teengers in my school and generation it was something we all wanted to avoid being labelled with.

    As I have grown up and explored my sexuality vastly ( swinging , adult conferences, internet....I am facinated by sex)

    I have largely found, there really is very little difference between the internal "feel" of most vagina's ( texture aside I am refering to the general feel) , and certainly no relevance to sexual activity and vaginal width.

    Some vagina's feel very firm when not aroused, but in a state of arousal , from tall, short, fat, slim, they all seem quite simular, of course with variations, but I have yet to encounter a gapping, fapping, loose vagina.

    Why do men ( especialy when young) assume a sexually active woman will have a loose vagina? Is is a matter of being uneducated, or intimidated?

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    Honey
     
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    You said it. They are young, dumb, and unappreciative.:cool:
     
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    It's very likely a combination of these two to one degree or another.

    Lack of experience is akin to ignorance, and the human animal tends to fear that which it doesn't understand. Sad but true.

    What's truly disturbing is that it isn't just men, and there is commercial exploitation of this ignorance from those in the know. I work for an old, well respected Fortune 100 corporation with a traditional reputation for being stuffy and conservative...imagine my surprise today when presenting to clients in our executive briefing center, I thumb through a local magazine in the break area and run across a half-page advertisement for "cosmetic gynecology" services. Among other treatments, they were hawking one-hour laser tightening sessions to improve your performance, and another to "correct" mismatched or excessively large labia.

    What. The. Fuck!?!?
     
  5. B_ScaredLittleBoy

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    I don't assume looseness although I have never had a tight vagina. It is kinda derog. though. I would never say that.

    I have felt a pussy that felt like sandpaper though. I think cos she wasn't wet? It only happened the one time! :tongue:

    It was a one day stand...
     
  6. WildHoney

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    Hazelgod - It is the fastest growing cosmetic procedure in the USA. Women grew up ( or grow up) with a much different opinion of their genitals then men do. We are fed myths and speculation on the vaginal capacity and appeal.

    Most soft core men's magazines( which women are more likely to see or read) airbrush out protruding lips and skin colouration. We see perfect tiny slits with no lips and baby pink skin.

    Most women do not get to compare vagina's with their friends, our bits are tucked away, and even when naked, you can not really "see" what another woman's vagina looks like. So we grow up to assume we have a dodgy or ulgy one.

    Young men do nothing to help most women with this mind you. Uneducated and inexperienced men, will also assume that meaty or lippy vagina's come from a lot of sex or loose women.

    It is a crying shame most women do not love their pussies like their male counterparts love their cock.

    xx
    Honey
     
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    uneducated, or intimidated? <<< that is the one.
     
  8. WildHoney

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    So having said it is an uneducated or intimidating thing. Have any of you guys ever said that about a woman in a joking way to your friends, or as an insult ? Did you think that was true when you were young?

    xx
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    I dated a girl when I was 14 that I could put f fingers in her vagina without any real resistance, I probably could have easily fisted her and she was only 15... I thought of her as having a "loose" vagina, because it felt like a cave! lol!!! I had only been with two girls before her, so my experience was pretty pathetic and I couldn't make a logical assesment of the situation.

    I have to inspect the ol' vagina with my hands now that I have been pumping for years... if I can't easily get three fingers in, then I know that I have more work to do as far as foreplay is concerned to get her "loosened" up. It's really all about the woman being comfortable with her body, with me, with the situation... if they are not entirely comfortable, then their vaginas won't relax as much as I'd like. I find that women that have a strong mind/body connection can pretty much tighten up or relax their muscles at will, but not all women are as comfortable with their bodies or their vaginas for that matter.

    That said... if a woman is too tight from not being able to relax or from inexperience with her own body, then I can't deal with her... a total waste of my time, I didn't build the cock I have to screw the tightest hole possible... I got this big because I like for a woman to relax FULLY and let my size do the work as far as friction goes, it's been working out great!!!! I am aware of the potential volume of the vagina and think that an 8 inch girth would be ideal... I have been measuring at 7.75 lately and am on my way to up to 8, it might take a few more weeks, but I am in a "expansion" phase and things are growing quite nicely.

    The "looser" the better!!!!!
     
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    I agree and I blame the porn industry. It's not Hollywood's fault I've never seen Julia Robert's, Meryl streep or Rosie Perez's pussy so they are not the standard to which all women are measured. It's that damned Cytherea, Kara Davis, Amber Rayne and others who set the standards to which normal women are held accountable. :mad:

     
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    as a kid...i do not remember thinking "loose" vs "tight"
    i was just thinking "MMMmmm i wanna go in"
    i was definately more intrigued by the "spreads"

    would i ever call a girl "loose" as an insult?
    no...i like it gaping...and if she is dating me she knows it.
    tight pussies are like sledding with a branch stuck to your sled.
    it is still fun, but would be WAY better without the drag.
    some dudes LOVE it tight...(or think they should)
    i am not one of them.
    so that is a big wet open...NO.

    even if she said the "pencildick" thing.
    my usual reponse is...."you are a bitch" ripe insult right?!
    i suck at insulting people.
     
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    I don't know where that idea came from, but it's so prevalent on the net that it's as stubborn as an urban myth. Fucking doesn't cause loose vaginas.

    Unfortunately childbirth can cause it in some women. I've heard this complaint from both men and women. Especially after a few babies, the vagina can loose muscle tone. I know women who were damaged by giving birth and needed (urological surgery -- not plastic surgery) to repair them.

    Women don't talk about it much, but some opt for C-sections to avoid getting damaged. :frown1:
     
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    Someone posted a picture of 'before and after labia surgeries' here last week. I don't have a link to the post. In every case the women were trimmed down to nothing. It looked like mutilation. I was so horrified I logged off. It is so sad that everyone of these women allowed some surgeon to impose his/her standard of labial "perfection" on them. They looked sexless and irreversibly damaged.
     
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    I think its more about personal preference, as to loose vs tight. Ive been around the block a time or two in my day, and have found dramatic differences in vagina tightness. Some were so tight it was nearly impossible to get in, but pure heaven once inside, while others I could slip right in and not feel a much. I think wetness is also a factor in how a pussy feels, but its been said time and time again on this site that women come in different sizes just like men do, in depth and width.

    To say its okay for some women to need a big dick to get off, but for a guy to want a tight pussy makes him insecure, is very hypocritical to me.

    I think there is an average for women's sizes, and most fall into a middle type range. I have been in loose ones that couldnt get me off even after hours of sex, and tight ones that made sex insanely good. But those are just my opinions and my experiences.
     
  15. whatireallywant

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    I saw a billboard for "cosmetic gynecology" the other day, and me being me (and totally unaware of this!), I had to look it up. One thing they said they did was make it feel like the woman had her hymen back. That actually I could see a reason for, in cases like women from cultures where if she isn't a virgin when she married (although abscence of a hymen doesn't necessarily mean you are not a virgin...), she could get stoned to death or something.

    I have no idea how "loose" or "tight" I am. I've never received any complaints. I do know that I am rather deep, though.
     
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    Growing up I do remember the statement of loose pussy. Being sexually active from a very early age, I never noticed the difference in the size or looseness of a vagina. I did notice some females became wetter than others. I never have noticed a difference between a female who has never had children as opposed to a female who has had several children. Like I said some a little wetter than others and less friction with those who was wetter. I believe part of this stereo type came from guys who had never had sex and was jealous of those who had and they wanted other guys to think they had been sexually active and part of this stereo type came from guys who were and or are very insecure about their size so they just assumed that a sexually active woman had known the pleasure of larger cocks. Ignorance is not only bliss but just plain old ignorant.
     
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    From the male ego: "Better to call a woman's vagina loose than to think of yourself as small!"

    Hey Wildhoney, I'm guessing you got called "loose" by some dude? If you did, forget him!

    I bet you could crank down so hard on a dick it'd feel like one of those chinese finger traps!

    My current girlfriend has a larger size vagina, but she can really work it when she wants to, and it's actually amazing to feel how much variation there can be. For example, right after she cums real hard, she relaxes, and I can freely slip in and out with her juices. I get a chance to calm down a bit, while still staying inside her and keeping my arousal level up. Other times, like when she just wants me to cum, she'll start squeezing and massaging at different points along my shaft!

    Anyway, I guess I sort of agree with socoken...Some guys like tight pussy just like some girls like big dick. Even though it's not all of them, it's enough to make being called "loose" an insult on par with "pencildick."
     
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    Its just a lack of information. How many stupid, weird, rediculous things did you "learn" growing up about sex? There is no real info growin up and its not exactly a quesion you go say hey mom...
    If a girl can squeeze it doesnt matter how big/loose it is. Guys dont have a box, so i think there are a lot of assumptions made. A pussy can look huge/loose but can be very tight or can be loose.
     
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    I'm not sure about this. Brandon could tell a difference between me and the first girl he slept with.. He said he had to use his hands most of the time with her, and he kept falling out of her when they would try different positions... but when I asked him honestly if I was tight or not. he said "you are tight.. it was WAY different."

    I can't see him lying about that.. but it does make me think that there is some variation to it.
     
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    Neither. It's just schtick. Everyone made fun of everyone else. Being witth the chick that slept around was like sliding a hotdog down a hallway, the kids that walked stiffly had a stick up his ass, the list goes on and on.

    There were lots of insults aimed at other people's mother. You don't think we actually believed that even 1% of them were true?