why is it so hard to find a girl and lose my virginity

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  1. gaul92

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    Cant seem to find a girl to lose my virginity
     
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    The reality is that most girls, but not all, prefer to have a relationship with a guy before they have sex with him. You need to meet some girls and get to know them.
     
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    Get some confidence. walk tall keep your head up and truely believe in yourself. Confidence is extremely attractive to people.
     
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    You probably won't get lucky until you stop thinking about meeting a girl for the express purpose of losing your virginity.

    Yes, I understand that you want to get laid, just like I did, and I think that most girls realize that is on the average guy's mind. But if you come across as if your main goal in trying to get to know a female is to get into her pants, it will turn most girls off immediately.

    As was said, see if you can find some activities like clubs or classes in which women are likely to be present so that you can get to know them over time in a non-threatening environment.
     
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    if you're just looking for a hole to blow into, just so that you can say you're no virgin, i suggest you hire a prostitute. save up, get a good one, get exactly what you desire. it's honest and straight forward.
     
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    The same happened to me. I was basically propositioned the first time. The other thing about not trying is that I found every time I had a steady girlfriend, women seemed much more interested in me than if I did not, even if they didn't know I had one and she wasn't there.

    I really didn't feel I was acting that much differently but I must have been. I suspect that when I was actively seeking female companionship the concern that I would say something "unattractive" and thereby "strike out" made me seem stiff and anxious.

    It seems like a key to success with females is to stop caring about getting into their pants. I'm not saying treat them badly, but just relax and let what will be be.
     
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    Still have not here and I have 4 years on you. I had a few offers at your age.


    Two times 19 and once at 20
     
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    got rid of the virginity yet?
     
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    Sometimes I wonder if this is how I turned up bi. It's a lot easier to hook up with a girl than it is a girl.
     
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    stop trying too hard.
     
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    Yea I would love to lose still
     
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    Excuse my stupidity. This needs to read,

    "Sometimes I wonder if this is how I turned up bi. It's a lot easier to hook up with a guy than it is a girl."
     
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    I know how you feel man... Same situation here.
     
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    So true, I once got propositioned for a free bj with $50 from a guy in my uni course. Even though we didnt talk about anything personal. If only he was better looking & I was gay.

    As for OP, you can weed through 100s of postings on craigslist or just pay a hooker. Like others have said, dont try to make it your goal. Find activities that females frequent(which arent 80% + female) then just try to find someone single.
     
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    The correct order is horse then cart.
     
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    Either of these are your best bet. I lost my virginity through craigslist. Women don't really like sex anyways so no worries if you're finding this to be a struggle
     
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    For the win.


    To the OP, have you been trying?