"You've got a really big cock, don't you?"

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  1. At.your.cervix

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    Those were the words a long-time very good female friend said to me at happy-hour last night. I was totally shocked. We weren't talking about anything sexual--she was just noting the size of my rather large hands as I was gathering up my gloves. It was stilll really out of the norm for her, as our relationship is almost brother/sister and she's never been one to talk all that openly about her sex life, although we've touched on sexual things over the years, but never something like the size of my cock. Anyhow, what suprised me almost as much is that after the initial shock of hearing her ask me, I told her "yes, I do have a really big cock, and sometimes it causes trouble," and proceeded to briefly describe the difficulty my current lover has with both my length and girth at times. She further shocked me by saying "I always figured you must have a giant one." To that I didn't know how to respond. I wear clothes which conceal my dick (which when soft usually hangs 4-5" long and about 5.5" around), and don't go around bragging about having a big one either. And aside from having rather large hands and feet, I'm pretty average in my build/height. Anyhow, this came up just as I was getting ready to leave, so I just said goodbye, leaving sort of shell-shocked from all of this.

    Afterwards, I was left with a whole string of thoughts. How did she know about my dick? What is it that tipped her off? I'm baffled. I'm also wondering if this was a come-on from her, which would be really strange as it would be a 180 turn for our decades long friendship. The only thing I do know is that it was a seriously weird moment for me.

    Have any of you been in a similar conversation or situation? Any advice or insights?

    Thanks.
     
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    Just out of curiousity, how big is it?
     
  3. At.your.cervix

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    Probalbly by LPSG standards I'm not too big, but when I'm hard I'm a touch past 8" long and about 6.25 around. I figured by general population standards, that was large enough to tell her I had a big cock.
     
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    Yeh for sure, its in the top 1% of penis sizes (anything thats 7 x 6 or bigger is).
    Im 6" x 5.7" flaccid figured i would be bigger than u but when erect im only 7.5" x 6.3" :/ nice one mate definately big.

    also i dont think hand and foot size are indicators of penis size at all.
     
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    They really aren't but she may be one of the people who assume that they are.

    I wouldn't worry too much about a radical shift in the nature of your friendship with her. If she "always figured you had a giant one" but never made any sexual advances before I think it's safe to say she's content with the relationship as it is.
     
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    OK the post was not really about the OP's cock but about what happened with his friend.

    I agree - very odd.
    How much did she have to drink?
     
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    I've never bought into the hand/foot thing either. But I'm still wondering how she could tell. When she said that to me, her tone was less of a question and more like she was just stating something she already knew. And while she's friendly with my current partner, they don't really socialize alone together where something like the size of my dick might come up in a private conversation. Maybe it's something like "gaydar" but just with size or something. Again, I was really weirded out by the brief exchange between us on all sorts of levels.
     
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    Yes, I wasn't writing to talk about the size of my dick (at least in this post LOL), but about the conversation that focussed on the size of my dick. As per her drinking, she had a few, but she wasn't acting what I'd call "drunk," just more "relaxed.
     
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    Thanks. Actually, although she's very easy on the eyes, I'd never jeopardize the closeness which we have as friends for anything.
     
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    Keep her as a friend. Its okay to tease back and forth. I wouldn't try to take it to the next level unless she direcly told me to. Good friends are hard to find.
     
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    I think you have a wonderful relationship with her. She's comfortable talking to you about very personal things without it being sexual. Enjoy your freindship!
     
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    she probably will keep wanting to see it now out of curiousity, if thats the case and u want to keep it a non sexual relationship mabye let her know you go on this site and show her some pictures and try make it as non sexual as possible.
     
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    I can't imagine her asking to see it, although my guess is that she's now probably curious about what it looks like. I agree about not giving her "a live view" as knowing me, if I had it out getting it fully hard for show-and-tell, I'd wind up giving her navel a backrub with it. Not smart to go there if I want to stay friends.
     
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    It could be like a gaydar thing, perhaps a "Dickdar"? I can just tell when a guy has a big one. I can just tell. It's a sort of shy confidence a person has, almost embarrassed about their accomplishments, it is a self deprecating humor but still can be cocky at times. I do look at feet, I also look at the bridge of their nose, and how the nostrils flare, and size of their lips, and size of their feet. Finally, the way they walk, Guys with big dicks tend to walk on the balls of thier feet. Like tip toe walking. If someone has all these qualities...nine times out of ten I'm right.
     
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    I like this answer and Gillette's the best:smile: I think yes she could be interested.... but sometimes people are just curious. If you two have been friends for a long time she could just be comfortable making your friendship more intimate. I don't talk to random strange guys IRL about sex or their anatomy. However, I have talked to guys that I would never consider anything but a friend about sex. Only once I trusted them enough to know they were not going make advances because I opened up to them.
     
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    My guess is that she was curious, and if we weren't such good friends she might have been interested--I did manage to briefly ask her if she ever had a "big one" and she said "not really." But she didn't go further than that with her response, thank God. Probably just one of those thoughts we have stored in the back of our heads that sometimes sneak out after a drink or two.
     
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    Confidence. I tend to assume that a confident guy has a big dick, and I've been right often enough.
     
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    Well, as immodest as it must sound, that is one trait which I posess in spades. I'm not intimidated by much, even when common sense tells me I ought to be. Maybe that's it!
     
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    Don't let it weird you out and don't be afraid to talk to her more about it. She's obviously curious and she probably is afraid she has made things awkward.