The "Slam, Bang, Let's go Eat Sam" approach gets at least one orgasm, that for the person who wants to spend as little time at sex as is physically possible. They are instantly hard, have hair triggers, and want to go out the door and do other things within minutes of meeting after a long absence. Letting them know over time how much better it is spending time with each other, with sex and pleasure and an eventual orgasm or two the end result can turn some into real lovers. What they are responding to is what it is you are doing, putting their orgasm before that of yours. They do not realize it of course, no more than they ever realized over the years that you had not had an orgasms when they had had theirs. So, timing here is important. Sex in the morning is the goal here, and with the attendant warmth and non hurry involved, they will be happy that you and they had a very nice time in bed. They will tell others eventually that you are the best lover they have ever had. Their need to know at that moment what it was you were doing really (wanting good sex for yourself and for them together) should not be indulged. It pays to be sneaky sometimes.