Alien

Are my wants that alien to other guys? None of the guys I've dated have understood. Many of the guys I've encountered don't understand. The only guys I've found that understand are the ones from my fraternity or Lacrosse team. Wouldn't the world be a better place if guys were able to have close ties and feelings for other guys? Not talking about the sexual aspect. Ever had a good hug from a close buddy? There is nothing like it. The day Matt and I fell asleep on the same bed, that was awesome.

Male bonding has been and seems it will be a big necessity in my life. I suppose a lot of gay guys confuse it with a fuck buddy. I admit, a couple of guys I'd fooled around with, but there were plenty that I didn't. Too many guys let society put that pressure on them to be these big hypermasculine beasts. I don't think guys were meant to be like that. We have emotions too. Most keep them bottled up for fear of ridicule from society.

I guess this is my addictive personality coming out. I experienced male bonding in the past and I continually crave it. And I have for some time.

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You and half the world both.

Saw a friend from boarding school I hadn't seen in 20 years two years ago and I just melted in his arms for the first time in 20 years.
 
And y'know, even if you say explicitly what you want (and don't want), lots of guys think you're being coy.

NCbear (who sympathizes with you, Kimahri, especially on this issue)
 
Gay, bi or straight -- I think our society feels men should not stereotypically have 'huggy' friends -- only women. The few men friends I have (that I don't go to bed with) are like me -- we hug when we feel the need. It's not always in front of others (I pick and choose my social/public battles) but definitely hug them when I/they need it.

Life is hard enough and there just aren't enough hugs in the world.
 

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