am i good looking?

i never et any attention
when i do its from people who
dont have photos and thats wierd
please let me know what you think
honestly

thanks<3

-J
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Jeweled, who do you want to attract, and what do you want from them? It's basically impossible to get no attention, so the issue is not lack of attention more than it is what kind of people you're attracting along with what you'd be gaining from them.

The fundamental starting point is knowing yourself. Know your preferences, your goals, your hobbies, what is attractive to you, what you want to do with your life, your basic belief system. This is why relationships very often don't successfully progress before the age of 27: many people don't know themselves before then, and even after. So, if you're someone that wants one-nighters every once in a while, then pretend to be someone else. Dress and act in an appealing, seductive way - based on who you want to attract. But if you're looking for something more substantial, you're going to have to know who you are to your core. Reduce yourself down to as few words as possible. It's hard work, too hard for many, but I promise you'll feel more confident afterward. And that confidence in who you are and what you want will itself be attractive to others. :wink:

Personally, I think you are essentially a physically attractive person. But, I'm not attracted to the way you dress and style yourself. It doesn't really do anything for me. With a different haircut, different clothes, a little more muscle mass, and an air of confidence and assuredness, you'd definitely catch my eye. But I'm just one person, with my own individual preferences and quirks. I don't really know how you are, or if you like or dislike your style and outward appearance right now. Sometimes, you can be completely confident and sure that you like the way you look and that won't get the guys or girls you want. We continually have to battle social stigmas and perceptions.

So, if you like how you look now, and you're comfortable in your own skin, then this may be a problem of the "wrong place, wrong time" variety. But if you don't feel comfortable in your own skin, then it's best if you concentrated on yourself before finding another person to further complicate your situation. I'm interested to know more though, so I can better help you. :biggrin1:
 

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