Are Men Afraid.......

Of strong women??

A few times, I have talked to several men over the past to weeks, been completely honest with my opinions, desires, needs in and outta the bedroom, but to my surprise after a few chats on person or on the phone they just disappear.

Now I am an assertive kind of woman, Im not shy or coy, Im bold, sensual, and I know what and how I want it. Is that scary to a man?

I thought men were supposed to be strong, the type that can challenge back not cowar away.

If a woman is independent, strong, and sexual does that turn off a man??

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It seems to be true that a lot of men are put off by a strong woman. I have seen first hand the way men seem to not know what to do with themselves when a strong, opinionated woman is around. That's not to say they are scared of them, though; it's just a juxtaposition that a lot of men don't expect. Although, nowadays, it's so common to find strong women such as yourself, so if you were to compare the situations across time, I'd think it would be more palatable now.
 
Just my opinion...

Often times it's not what women say, its how they say it. That may seem trivial but I think its not.

I'm not afraid of strong women. Not at all. I was raised by them and I'm surrounded by them.

But there's a difference between being confidently strong and just being obnoxious/abrasive. I avoid the latter.
 
I have to say I'm more disappointed every time I'm contacted by a man thinking he likes a strong woman, just to find out he's more interested in meeting a new "mommy". Are there really no strong men out there that appreciate a woman you can enjoy being with, without having to worry about taking care of? Just someone you can enjoy getting to know, enjoy time with, and want to be with when you're apart? Not a "girl" that needs a daddy?

I'm sure I'm not going to be very popular now, but what the hell?
 
AskMen.com - Golddigger
If you can identify with any of the women listed in the link, maybe you are doing something wrong. ;)

From the sound of it you are giving too much information, too soon, including a list of "expectations" from the man. If the man isn't capable or sees no good reason to give you what you want, he will not be interested in you.

Be more mysterious in future and don't focus so much on what you need or want.

Don't be discouraged, some men like myself, do like strong, independant women. A women who takes control sometimes in the bedroom or in other situations is a huge turn-on.
 
A lot of guys have the desire to be the "breadmaker" of the family/relationship. If you come across as bold/independent then they can no longer play that role.

Like SpeedoGuy said, it does matter how you say it too. It is nice to know that you can let a girl be alone and she will be fine. But it is also nice to know that she needs you. If you are too direct you may be coming off as "I don't really need you."


.. IMHO...
 
I like strong women that aren't afraid to disagree with me. I love seeing how people think, so sometimes I ask odd questions. Sometimes this is interpreted as I don't like the person I'm talking to. So the question is do strong women like strong men?
 
I don't understand this question. Don't most women have their own opinions? Some women are strong in the sense that they walk, talk, dress, and make up like men. This has nothing to do with expressing strong opinions. If you don't think there's any attractiveness in men with masculine traits and women with feminine ones, then my point will not be taken. Regardless of a woman's opinion or decision about sharing it, her feminine charms will typically attract men, while her masculine behavior may send out a confusing message. I think it's that confusing message, not the opinions, which scares guys off.

Husband: I like McCain.
Wife: I like Obama.
Husband: Damn you, woman! I cannot stand your strong opinions! I am going to find a woman with weak opinions!
 
There are many ways to be strong. Depending on the circumstances, it can ofter be what you don't say rather than what you say that reveals your inner strength. This is true about both men and women. It is always important to be able to ask for what you need. But it must always be place and time appropriate. If I would run into you at a party and said "hi" upon first meetting you, I think I'd be taken aback if you responded: "Hi. I like big dicks? Can I see yours?" Now, I'm not saying I wouldn't show you (you look pretty cute in your pics!) but I'd suspect that I might consider you to be a drop forward. Now, if after talking for half a night, you said: "Hey. I like you. I'd love to see your cock...", I bet I'd be right there with you!

As the great Catskill comedians used to say: "How do we do it? Timing!"
 
Strong is one thing, obnoxious is another. A lot of women don't seem to realize there is a difference. Not to mention, strong and opinionated does not necessarily equal intelligence, and it seems the most outspoken people (women and men) are the most foolish.

Then again, maybe men and womens' definitions of "strong" are different. With men, being soft spoken but carrying a big stick (no pun intended) is seen as strong, whereas with women, it seems "strong" means going off the handle at any and everything, and obnoxiously and boldy voicing opinions when no one asked, or no one cares.
 
Obviously we have people referring to at least 3 separate interpretations of the word 'strong,' and perhaps it's because the blogger hasn't clarified which she meant.

Strong:
1) self-secure; confident; resilient
2) assertive; forward; acting out
3) obstinate; unyielding in opinion; single-minded
perhaps...
4) opinionated, possessing view-points on many topics
5) possessing controvercial view-points

Silly to argue one way or the other if everyone is debating something else..
 
some men will freak out if you know what you like,
look up queen victoria and king edward.
they are what our society is holding onto,
i bet you any money those same guys that distanced
themselves from you will try to find girls more and more
like you as time goes on.

then they will think back to you and see how advanced you
were,you probably shocked them. ;)
 

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