being asked out only to be stood up?

So this girl, she's a friend of a friend, and every time we see each other we flirt a lot. Well the other day she asked me out for a show in April and offered to pay for my drinks and everything. I was really flattered, haven't been asked out since high school. So I suggest that we meet up and do something before then, and she agrees. We make plans but due to a variety of circumstances, we had to cancel 4 times, 1 time because of me and 3 times with her (all work related). I finally made plans to go see her, after a 11 hour shift at a bar. I mean I'm exhausted but hey I wanted to see her. Well she bring about 6 of her friends all guys, no sexual tension between them that I could see, but I mean it's sort of weird with all of these guys with us. Despite that we have a good time, dance and she kisses me goodnight. I suggest we go out with just us again, and she agrees. In the mean time we make plans to go out for St.Patricks day, and guess what last minute she decides not to come out because he friends wanted to go to another bar. I mean WTF why would anyone ask me out and then blow me off like that. I mean I made the effort to go see her, and she can't even act like she's bothered. I figure fuck it, if she wants to do something let her come to me, but it seriously pisses me off. I want a gf though, I miss all the cute couple things.

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I wouldn't totally give up on her, on the other hand, tho, I'd sit her down, and ask her how serious is serious she values the relationship you think is to you. I mean, if she does wanna be with you & you alone, then she'll say so, otherwise, some reconsideration is in order.
 
dont listen to MASSIVEKGO CHUCK.

dont "sit her down" to ask anything - you guys didnt really go out many times and if someone tried to sit me down to talk about stuff that soon, id dismiss them as crazy.

unless you guys have hung out multiple times and it feels like youre in some kind of relationship, you dont have to end it. simply not returning calls is 'the end.'

find another girl who doesnt need her friends. thats very childish for her to bring them in the first place and i cant help but think its some kinda ploy for her to make you 'work' for her attention.
better yet, just fuck her and then dont call back. or invite her and then dont show.
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there was this guy who i had hung out with about 4 times. i realized that he was trying to collect some kind of fan club of men interested in him. i asked him to hang out after the 4th date, he was vague for when. i moved on and about 2 months later i get a txt saying his misses sucking my cock (he LOVED it). i ignored him. then about a month later i txt him with strict time for him to come and suck me off.
then i cancelled.
i felt like an asshole, but i think guys who act like douche bags need wake up calls.
same goes for girls.

btw, he still sends me messages every now and again.
still never let him have a taste again.

now whos got the fan club?
 
If a potential date/lover does not treat you in the way you want or deserve, just let it go. You can not discuss/force/trick/cajole them into treating you the way you want. Each time someone disappoints, they should go a drop lower in your expectations until, at some point, they don't matter anymore. Let her go. If she wants you, she must make her wants known and very specific. Don't call her, but if you really like her and she calls again to do something, just be clear and tell her that you are interested in seeing her, but just her for the evening. If she at the last moment surprises you with other participants, tell her you are not interested and cancel or leave. And treat it as a complete ending.
 
Let me be more brief & specific. You two seemed to have had something you thought was good. But she was encumbered by friends the 1st time round, and no problem, had a good time , danced and everything, right?

OK, 2nd time around it's supposed just you & her, yet she balks at the last minute because her friends wanted go to another bar, right?

If she's going to maintain this callous uncaring attitude, then, you shouldn't put any more worry nor concern into this.

You seem too good to have a fair weather friend who treats you like this, and it would seem a shame if you had a 3rd time to learn a lesson hard about how much she means to you and how much you don't to her, which appears to be not a lot, given her behaviour.
 

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