I'm not going to lie, some of the comments on my last blog were kind of disheartening. Most were pretty supportive, but some just rubbed me the wrong way. I've been thinking about how to respond to them, and figured it would be best to just put it all out there.
First, I don't feel the need to be on the "DL". The kind of people I keep in my company are quite accepting and treat others how I would expect any human being to be treated by another human being. Thus, they accept me for who I am (as I would accept them for whomever they chose to love).
As to the reasons I should stay in the closet, I don't find them suitable. For one, maybe the reason bisexuality isn't really accepted today is because too many people are stuck being incredibly confused and hiding who they are because they are afraid of what others would think. If it weren't for people speaking up about who they were gay rights wouldn't exist (although it's debatable that they even exist now), homosexuality would still be considered a mental disorder, and we would have a good 10% of our population lying to themselves on a daily basis. Sounds like a great world, right? Second, I in no way consider myself a 'double agent'. It's ridiculous for people to think that, but I won't argue that they do. It's obvious that being with someone who is attracted to both sexes could become difficult. I'm not blind to this fact. However, for me at least, being bisexual doesn't mean I need a man AND a woman. It means I like men and women and want to be with ONE man or ONE woman. Notice I used the word OR, I don't want one of each.
Another thing I found disturbing was the 'ask for a threesome with your friends' comment. Ok, 1. I don't want to have sex with my friends. That is why they're my friends, not my girlfriends. 2. Just because I'm bisexual doesn't mean I want to have sex with a guy and girl at the same time. People assume all guys are into threesomes. I don't find them appealing in any way. With two girls, two guys, or a guy and a girl. No thank you. Plus, that just adds to the idea that bisexuals are sex hungry 'double agent' pigs. Sorry, not feeling that view of myself. It just doesn't fit.
Feel free to let me know what you think. I'm not bashing anyones opinions or comments either. You're entitled to your opinion, but I'm also entitled to mine, so don't take it personally.
First, I don't feel the need to be on the "DL". The kind of people I keep in my company are quite accepting and treat others how I would expect any human being to be treated by another human being. Thus, they accept me for who I am (as I would accept them for whomever they chose to love).
As to the reasons I should stay in the closet, I don't find them suitable. For one, maybe the reason bisexuality isn't really accepted today is because too many people are stuck being incredibly confused and hiding who they are because they are afraid of what others would think. If it weren't for people speaking up about who they were gay rights wouldn't exist (although it's debatable that they even exist now), homosexuality would still be considered a mental disorder, and we would have a good 10% of our population lying to themselves on a daily basis. Sounds like a great world, right? Second, I in no way consider myself a 'double agent'. It's ridiculous for people to think that, but I won't argue that they do. It's obvious that being with someone who is attracted to both sexes could become difficult. I'm not blind to this fact. However, for me at least, being bisexual doesn't mean I need a man AND a woman. It means I like men and women and want to be with ONE man or ONE woman. Notice I used the word OR, I don't want one of each.
Another thing I found disturbing was the 'ask for a threesome with your friends' comment. Ok, 1. I don't want to have sex with my friends. That is why they're my friends, not my girlfriends. 2. Just because I'm bisexual doesn't mean I want to have sex with a guy and girl at the same time. People assume all guys are into threesomes. I don't find them appealing in any way. With two girls, two guys, or a guy and a girl. No thank you. Plus, that just adds to the idea that bisexuals are sex hungry 'double agent' pigs. Sorry, not feeling that view of myself. It just doesn't fit.
Feel free to let me know what you think. I'm not bashing anyones opinions or comments either. You're entitled to your opinion, but I'm also entitled to mine, so don't take it personally.