Better day and what's up with relationships?

Well, I was able to get fully erect today while I was watching porn. Since I'm sure the bf is doing his thing, I figured I'd do mine. Good deal.

And, what's the deal with relationships anyway? Why do they exist? I've been awful in picking guys to date....or maybe I'm awful....regardless I don't know what the big "payoff" is in having a relationship. Maybe I just don't know because I've not had a good relationship in the 18 years I've been out.

I have bad relationships because I fear noone will want me for whatever reason. I jump into the first relationship that comes my way. I know that's not the right thing to do and I pay for it everytime I do it. My current relationship is lame. Or maybe I'm the one that's lame. Maybe I should be out there finding someone to fool around with behind my bfs back like he does to me. Only difference, I caught him. Well, not really caught, but I found emails that indicate he's been fooling around and was trying to do so again.

Maybe I need more therapy. Maybe I'm still not ready for a relationship. I like to think I'm a decent guy. I do what I can to be a good bf, but in the last 3 relationships, that just didn't seem to be enough.

Why don't relationships come with a manual? :)

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Have you ever considered that the problem isn't you? I think that it could be global warming. Honeybees are disappearing for some strange reason. What if human relationships are affected as well?
 
Hey there, I'm straight but I think the same philosophy applies to straight and gay relationships. I'm 34 and happily single, have some playmates and occasionally meet a new and temporary playmate ;-) I have several female friends that email me as soon as they are single, then a week later email me and tell me they are off the market again. I don't understand this... why jump right back into a committed relationship that soon that will be over in a few months anyway.
I have a theory about this for women, that they have to be "dating" someone so they can have sex and not look like a whore (at least in their eyes). Are we still in high school???? If you want to go out and fuck someone, do it. You don't have to be dating them.
My thing is that it's such a HUGE thing for me to say I'm exclusively dating someone. I'm 34, and can count on 1 hand the number of people I've exclusively dated since I was 20, that includes a wife and a g/f of 6 years, but really... what is the big deal about saying "i have a b/f // g/f". Unless you're planning on marrying that person, WHY???? Especially when you're a bit older. Why be in a committed relationship that is going to cause sooooo much drama. Take the relationship for what it is, you want the sex without feeling like a whore... now grow up and have the sex without the relationship. I guess when you're single and over 30 and maybe have been there and done that, there shouldn't be a rush to jump into something (this is me talking). Again, it comes down to the question... why be in a relationship if you're not BOTH in it for the long term. It's just going to cause drama. Date the person, get to know them, maybe even hint that there's competion out there (get the blood boiling a bit, it's not a bad thing). If it's meant to be, then you'll grow closer and figure out that those other options out there aren't worth it. But be mindful that your companion might have other options out there too. So communication is key, If you get to a certain point before you've exclusively committed to them but may be ready to do just that, ASK THEM!!! Again, you're adults, communicate. And here's the other thing... be ready to walk away at ANY MOMENT!!!! As soon as that person tells you they aren't seeing anyone else and they are... or that they've lied to you... WALK AWAY!!!! Fuck them... you know how many other people are out there!!! That's my philoshophy... unless its someone serious that I have seriously committed to, I can walk away at any freaking moment, and usually do as soon as it starts gonig south or I feel that it's just not going to work.

Sorry, it's late and I'm rambling... Good luck man!
 
"If you get to a certain point before you've exclusively committed to them but may be ready to do just that, ASK THEM!!! Again, you're adults, communicate. And here's the other thing... be ready to walk away at ANY MOMENT!!!! As soon as that person tells you they aren't seeing anyone else and they are... or that they've lied to you... WALK AWAY!!!! Fuck them... you know how many other people are out there!!! That's my philosophy... unless its someone serious that I have seriously committed to, I can walk away at any freaking moment, and usually do as soon as it starts going south or I feel that it's just not going to work."--easybutton75


I am all for honesty. I don't think that it is fair to date people...spend time and money on them and only to later get dumped by them. I would rather go dutch on dates and date many, many, many, many people.

I think that if you are with someone special you should be able to communicate about anything--good and bad...but I think that if you communicate the bad news people should think about what they are going to say and say it in a way that isn't going to be fucked up.


 
Thanks for the thoughts guys. My bf and I don't communicate much at all. Whenever I try to talk to him, he says I'm yelling at him and we never get anywhere.

I think you're right EasyButton75...may be time to walk away.
 

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