Can we choose who we love?

Goodness gracious me!

Can we really choose who we fall in love with?
When all common sense is fairly screaming at you to "Don't go there fool!" and you go there anyway.

Do you deserve pity and sympathy when it ends badly?
Will people be judgemental when you are in floods and your heart is broken?

Will there be empathy and understanding?

I have a feeling I'm about to find out the hard way.

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Actually I think you are pretty rude, selfish and thoughtless.
You've taken my blog and my questions and hijacked them and turned it into something all about YOU!!

If you wanted your questions answered so badly there was nothing stopping you from making you're own blog as as I've done.
Go away!
 
"Goodness gracious me!

Can we really choose who we fall in love with?
When all common sense is fairly screaming at you to "Don't go there fool!" and you go there anyway.

Do you deserve pity and sympathy when it ends badly?
Will people be judgmental when you are in floods and your heart is broken?

Will there be empathy and understanding?

I have a feeling I'm about to find out the hard way."
When God created puberty, He made His greatest revenge...He created romantic love and sexual compulsion for humans. He sat down in front the TV with his tray of Lamingtons and apple juice and watched the world become one BIG Jerry Springer Show to keep Him entertained.
I think that we cannot help how we feel but we can choose not to act on our feelings for the greater good.
I am smitten with this guy in my local. I know that he feels the same way about me...but he is married with kids. And I don't want that wrecked because of my satyriasis. And he doesn't help any with the sexual stares and the way he looks--nice body, nice ass, and amazing legs. God is sooo laughing at me.
GOD: "I got you beyotch!!! I so got you....:rofl:"
So, I make it a point NOT to be around where he is. And I am fine.
 
I think we can't choose at all (based on my experience, of course). For example. I met this girl, she had a very cool group of friends, fairly goodlooking, funny, self secured, and so on. She told me she had feelings for me and I asked her to be my girlfriend because I thought I would eventually like her too. It never happened. We lasted 3 weeks but I felt nothing at all even though I wanted to love her. So my answer would be no! And of coures, I always pick the wrong girl, shit happens but life goes on!
 
If we could truly control our emotions or our passions -- would we even be capable of loving? Love is unbridled.
 
Based on past experience, we certainly don't choose. There's a click, that 'chemistry', and we're smitten. How it all works out seems to be based in chance and the folly of human nature.
 
Can we really choose who we fall in love with? When all common sense is fairly screaming at you to "Don't go there fool!" and you go there anyway.
Yes, I believe we can. That's why I get so pissed off when gay guys whine about being in love with straight married men who have never given them any indication that they might be bi-curious. They chose to fall in love with someone who was both unavailable and unattainable.


There are dozens of uber-hot incredibly, smart, kind, generous, and decent gay men on this site. BUT I am not gonna waste my time falling in love with them.

Do you deserve pity and sympathy when it ends badly?
No, because you knew it was coming. You said so yourself. :irked:


Will people be judgemental when you are in floods and your heart is broken? Will there be empathy and understanding?
Some will, some won't. Depends on how much of the real truth you tell them.


I have a feeling I'm about to find out the hard way.
I'm a girly-girl, but I am also very practical and pragmatic. What you describe would never happen to me because I would not allow it.
 
I don't think so. I honestly think that's something that just trascends conscious thought. Just something that happens.
 
Thank you every one for your answers.
I always seem to choose the right man at the wrong stage of his life.
They tend to be strong, willful types with a playful streak and a huge libido.

There is a saying that says - Better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.
At times like this when the pain is still very new and very raw I question it's validity.
 
"There is a saying that says - 'Better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.'
At times like this-- when the pain is still very new and very raw, I question it's validity."--Dustydo


DD--

Yeah, I know how you feel. It may feel like the end of the world...but I see it as a beginning of making room for Mr. DoRight.



 
You can't choose who you love - it just happens. Go with it - enjoy it - and don't worry whether it will last. Just live every day like it might be your last with no regrets.
-Ranger
 
You see, this is not the way this should have ended.
In every way possible this doesn't FEEL finished.

What does it say about relationships when such a fiery, passionate synergy can't last?

Go back to the mind numbing round of dates with men who don't captivate, provoke, challenge or engage me?
Squash down all my fire and passion and tell myself to be content, force myself to be content with "like" rather than "LUST".
Waiting for him and his circumstances to change doesn't have a lot of appeal. I wasn't created to be a martyr.

I wish I could wish him well and that he be happy with the choice he made because at the moment I can't.
 
I chose Mrs. Crossy 44 years ago this November.
She loves me even though I'm phlegmatic.
Mrs. Crossy wonders if she could have done better.
I bought her a Hitachi wand!
 
Sounds like a plan Crossy.

(Looks up "Hitachi Wand" on Google.)

WHOA!
Alright!
Sweet Beets!
 

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