Confused HELP

Ok so Im 18 and I think I might be gay or maybe bi I dont know. Can some one tell me how do you know if you are gay or bi or whatever. I really need some help. I dont know what to do and if I am gay my family would be so ashamed of me I don't think I could ever face them again I dont think I could stand loosing all of my friends if they found out:confused:

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hey man! well 1st i got to say is do not what ever you do start thinking the way you are it won't do anything to help you.

so what feelings are you having that make you think you may be gay/bi? LETS LOOK AT THIS 1ST!!!

have you had a gf before? (just because you havent had a gf doesnt mean your gay as some people may think!!)

if you are gay/bi then so what? who cares (i'm not saying this in a non caring way) what i mean is that nowadays there is so so many young people coming out as been gay/bi, bi curious, str8, and str8 but who j/o with buddies (and more sometimes) i believe that in a few years there will be an almost 50 50 split between str8 and gay/bi people.

i remember when i discovered i was bi it took me a while to get comfortable with it myself and like you i was worried about what people would think but after a few years of hiding it from people and family i.e as i got a bit older (i'm 24) i began to care less about what people thought and more about how i felt, i felt i was lying to myself hiding who i truely was. so i started to come out when i was 23 i told my m8 one night my best friend and he was the 1st one to tell and also the one i was worried about telling the most but he was gr8 accepted it no problems and its still good now all my friends know and my family except my grandparents and i havent had any problem

the biggest thing about telling the parents (for me anyway) is the mother. mothers will always worry no matter what and having a bi/gay son they'll be worried that ah he might get treated different or get bullied at school/college/work or he'll catch something during sex but the reality about the sex part is that hetrosexual couples nowadays are just as likely to catch aids hiv as gay/bi couple are.

and man family, when it comes to family at the end of the day that is what they are their your family yes if u are gay/bi and u decide to tell them yes they will probably be shocked to some degree and maybe a bit upset but eventually they will come around and realise that you are still you, your still their son your still their bro their cousin their nephew nothing has changed.


hope this helps a little pm me if u need anythig else!
 

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