Cum training and significant others

Since a number of people have asked about how to approach Cum Training if you have a significant other, I wanted to give some more details. It can be a challenging situation, since we don't have a strong tradition of this in the West (whereas Hindus have the practice of brahmacharya).

So, here are a few ideas -- the basic point is to make clear that something positive is being added, rather than something precious being taken away. You could say something along these lines:

"I’m trying a new kind of training program that I wanted to tell you about. It’s all about building up more sexual energy, so when we have sex it’ll be hotter than ever. This program is a kind of erotic immersion program, so don’t be surprised if you see me wearing a cock ring, ball weights, or a glans ring a lot of the time around the house. Another key part of the training involves not cumming as often, so I wanted to see how that would be for you. We can still play all we want, and it’ll be hot as fuck, because if possible I’d like us to build up to the edge of cumming over and over again, and ride that edge as long as we can. At the end, I may not go over the edge every time we’re together, but if you want to cum I’m totally down for that. I don’t want it to be weird for us, but am wondering if we could give it a try sometime. What do you think?

To make up for you not seeing cum as often, I may start taking supplements (pygeum, celery seed, and lecithin) that should send my levels of pre and cum through the roof. So, if I start to leak ropes of precum, and make a new ocean whenever I cum, don’t be surprised. We can also work towards multiple orgasms and full-body orgasms if you want, so there are a lot of options."​

If your significant other asks more about your training program, that could be a good time to start telling them about the Path of Eros. Who knows, they might want to try it as well!

As a reminder, at the end of sex or mindful masturbation, if you aren't cumming it's ideal to draw the energy up your spine, as in the Daoist practice of introjection. For details on that practice, see "The Multi-Orgasmic Man" by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams.

-Coach

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Just ordered it on Amazon!

This is a subject that has recently come up between my husband and myself as I've become more committed to my journey down the Path. We have created a tradition (note I don't say routine) of having sex every day -- we've done this for years -- but I really wanted to practice better cum training and felt the frequency of daily ejaculation was hurting my energy.

I was nervous about having the discussion because I was afraid of overreaction, but I used the Coach's outline above and was very surprised and pleased with the result.

We still have sex everyday, but the end goal isn't my ejaculation -- rather, we've been focusing on his, which he has been very appreciative of. When I get close, I back off and edge/ catch my breath -- and yeah, I "pre" up a storm, but it's tasty and pure!

I allowed (couldn't help myself) an orgasm day before yesterday and it was incredible, not just in the amount of ejaculate, but the spiritual release that came with it.

Thank you for your guidance, Coach.
 

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