Cum Training

One of the training disciplines that requires the most background and explanation is Cum Training. With disciplines like Cock Training, Conscious Bodybuilding, and Mindful Masturbation, the name is enough to give at least a vague idea what the training might be about, while with Cum Training people have all kinds of interesting notions.

Before I lay out the basics of Cum Training, some basic background is needed. Many of the world's spiritual, philosophical, and body-oriented traditions hint in one way or another a hugely powerful source of energy, though they don't usually talk directly about it. Eastern traditions talk about the dantian, or 'field of elixir’ centered just below the navel near the center of the spine. Hindu and yogic traditions talk about awakening our Kundalini energy and ‘churning the ocean’. Most monastic and priestly traditions emphasize chastity as a way to focus our energies. Even in domains like sports and music, some elite players avoid sex activities for days before big events because they feel it saps their energy for peak performance.

Like most people, I thought all these traditions were just hearsay, old-wives tales, superstition, dogma, and myth, until I decided to find out for myself. Over years of careful experimentation, I began to notice a clear pattern: up to a certain point, the longer I save up my cum, the more energy I have available for other purposes, like bodybuilding, creativity, being effective in the world, and for awakening. I can still do all the activities I need to, such as cock training, edging, and intercourse, but I would try to not cum more once a week or two. The longer I save up my cum, the more explosive the release, and the more transformative it would be. However, if I try to wait too long, at some point the energy builds up too much, and starts to become stagnant, like overripe fruit.

From watching this cycle over and over again, it seems clear as day to me that there is much more power to our sexual fluids than we usually think. The ‘ocean of elixir’ referred to in various traditions is none other than our reservoir of sexual fluids, i.e. semen or vaginal fluid. Most guys cum a lot each week, which takes a lot of energy to resupply, so that energy can't go towards anything else. Our sexual fluids are quite literally our fruit, so it made sense to call it the Ripening cycle. Most traditions don’t talk openly about this process, for fear of being misunderstood, so settle for quietly telling individual trainees behind the secrecy of closed doors, but I refuse to let the Path of Eros to take that path. Quite frankly, I don’t have time to worry about whether people will blush at the concept, and I hope humanity is finally ready to truly understand our bodies. Just to be clear, I'm not trying to tell anyone how to live their lives. If you usually cum 7 times per week (or 40 times per week, or whatever) you may be able to keep it up and not notice any ill effects, but people who pay close attention often notice a big difference.

There are scientific studies that back up these observations, for example one study shows that testosterone levels usually peak after 8 days of not cumming. I can lay out the reasoning and experiences in more detail later about why Cum Training can be transformative, but here are the basic principles as formulated in the Path of Eros (as always, feel free to use whatever works, and ask if you have any questions):

  • start by paying attention to how many times per week you cum, on average
  • if you want to try allowing your sexual fluids to regenerate, make an initial guess about how long your Ripening cycle is
    • for many guys, a week or two is the longest they can go without cumming; some may be able to go longer, while others may not be able to go more than a few days
    • whatever you're able to do is great, even if you only reduce the amount you cum by 10% every few weeks, that can eventually make a big difference
  • you can make it as hard or easy as you want
    • to make it easier, don’t focus on anything erotic if you're already overstimulated
    • for more of a challenge, try wearing a cockring all day, using a buttplug or prostate stimulator, or whatever activities, thoughts, or ways of dressing keep you constantly on the edge
  • various supplements may be able to increase the amount of cum and precum, such as pygeum, celery seed extract, lysine, lecithin (non-soy), and zinc.
    • let me know if you're curious for more details, as i’m currently experimenting with this myself
  • how do you tell when you're ripe?
    • you may be leaking more precum or cum than usual
    • it may be difficult to concentrate on anything other than your cock, body, and libido - that's why it’s essential to be able to focus
    • you may notice sensations in much more detail than you used to, such as even the gentlest brush against your cock
    • you may not feel you can withstand cumming any longer
    • try to get to the point where you can barely stand it, then keep standing it for a few more days.
  • the more Ripe you become, the more important it is to:
    • keep your hips, pelvis, and back flexible, as things can start to get blocked up in the lower back if you wait too long. If you start to get pain or discomfort in your lower back, allow yourself to cum sooner than later.
    • have underwear, jockstraps, etc. that are highly absorbent, such as the Gym brand jocks (1” waistband)
  • once you’re ready to cum, there are various possibilities, depending on your time and interests
    • ‘rubbing one out’: if you don't have much time and are truly desperate, do what you have to
    • a relatively short ceremony, where you allow your energy to build up during some process of cock training, edging, stroking, or sexual activity, and as you release try to open as fully as you can, allowing your energy to flow through your whole body
    • a more extensive ceremony of transformation, which is the gateway to many more advanced practices: let me know if you'd like details
  • how to deal with being overly aroused, e.g. if you can't calm down to go to sleep:
    • put a cool washcloth on your cock, balls, and perineum, or use a sponge with cool water
    • can do a very light, gentle massage on your cock for a few minutes, to just acknowledge that you hear it, that you'll be able to cum when the time is right, and to remind both of you that there are higher purposes than just physical pleasure
    • use all the focus that you've built up from your Bodybuilding, Cum Control, and all other aspects of your life, and focus with determination on literally anything other than your cock, body, and anything else directly erotic.
  • more advanced techniques include:
    • the single-drop challenge
      • as you begin to get Ripe, if it's difficult not to cum, try to let yourself produce exactly one drop of cum, or as close to that as you can get. Pre doesn't count, but once we have the control to gently approach the cliff, pause there, and open our ducts to allow one pearl of cum to emerge. That can help our fluids to circulate (like swirling wine in a glass), while not significantly draining our ocean. If you try it before you're ready, you're likely to just cum all over the place, as I've done more times than I can remember.
      • In this practice, it can help to find a small jar slightly larger than the head of your cock. If you start to get too aroused, you can hold your cock in or near the jar, and try to gently milk only a single drop out. With more practice, you can use smaller and smaller containers, until you have fully mastered the practice.
    • introjection (as in Chia & Abram’s The Multi-Orgasmic Man, for example)
      • as a rough approximation, focus your energy at the base of your spine, then draw your energy as far up the spine as you can feel it (potentially, up to the crown of your head or higher)
    • churning the waters (more on this later; let me know if you have any experience with this, from Hinduism and yogic practice)
When we have sex with others, it can be uncomfortable trying to figure out how to say you don't want to cum, and they can think you're 'refusing' to join them, feel guilty, or potentially feel hurt. First of all, it can help to reframe the concept - we're not 'refusing' to cum, we're choosing to save up your energy. It's best explained when we're not currently having sex, perhaps talk about how we feel when we save up our cum (more energy, supercharged libido, etc.), and how much bigger the payoff is when we finally do cum.

During sex, incorporating edging can be a great way to share peaks over and over, so at the end if our partner chooses to go over the edge and we choose to just stay there (and introject, if we can, drawing the energy up our spine), it's not a refusal to join them -- we're both honoring the paths you are choosing to take.

Besides, the overall point of allowing ourselves to Ripen is to supercharge our libido and let that empower all parts of our lives, so the more we can be demonstrably affectionate to your partner, the more we become a sex maniac for him (in the best way), the more our partner will start to appreciate your practice.

What do you guys think? If you have you tried anything like this, how long did you do it for, and did you notice any effect? If you want to find out more, just ask!

-Coach

Comments

i've noticed the following by careful study and experimentation:
After holding back ejaculation, during repeated prolonged edging sessions, when i do finally allow myself release, it is so much stronger in terms of distance, the volume is greater and the orgasm intense.
If I have held back for too many days my cum tastes different, but that also relates to diet. I know I am hitting the sweet spot when my cum tastes fresh and sweet.
After letting the sexual energy build up, my body is exquisitely sensitive to touch, my nips, cock, balls and ass are all highly charged to the touch.
My dreams are enriched and my night time sleep erections are so strong they wake me up.
Every man in the street looks sexy (well, slight exaggeration there).
I am more focussed during yoga.
My meditation sessions can be a bit more distracted, but that just offers a challenge to stay with the breath.
My moods are elevated.
My ass relaxes to take bigger cocks with ease.
When I piss, the stream seems more powerful (can't explain that one).
As the cum restraint continues it gets harder to have orgasms without ejaculation (that's a whole skill in itself).
so many benefits.
Thanks for your blog entries coach.
 
Masturbation, cumming, it's all so immensely complicated when you start analysing the whole process! And it's all so dependent on your own physical and mental condition at the time. Nevertheless I came across some very interesting points in this blog, which I will put into practice very soon!
Thanks for your contribution!
 
Thanks so much to all of you who have liked this article, commented, and shared your thoughts!

@J.Bee I totally agree with your observations - everything becomes heightened, our cocks get hard at the slightest sensations, it helps us focus in some ways while potentially being distracting in other ways if we don't have a strong practice to center, ground, and balance ourselves when needed.

Keep up the observations and sharing, everyone! It's great to hear how different people approach these challenges, what works for you to stay focused when you're so horned up you are going cross-eyed, how to get to sleep even if your cock is still throbbing, etc.
 
Energy … curious about how zapped I've become:confused: I'm almost 70 years old, retired from working for two years, and still attempt to ejaculate every day:blush: I used to masturbate for ejaculation purposes every night to assist in falling asleep. During the past year I've discovered this sleep aid is no longer necessary, and have developed a prolonged edging habit:cool:. I've edged all day long without ejaculating, and have observed ejaculate frequency with volume declination. Cum Training pointers may help me understand my energy levels better as I learn to enjoy my retirement. I still have many things to accomplish, and feel guilty at times when I spend the whole day in an edging session.
 
FYI, I added to the post based on a great question I got from a trainee. Let me know what you think, since it's an important issue affecting many guys.

When we have sex with others, it can be uncomfortable trying to figure out how to say you don't want to cum, and they can think you're 'refusing' to join them, feel guilty, or potentially feel hurt. First of all, it can help to reframe the concept - we're not 'refusing' to cum, we're choosing to save up your energy. It's best explained when we're not currently having sex, perhaps talk about how we feel when we save up our cum (more energy, supercharged libido, etc.), and how much bigger the payoff is when we finally do cum.

During sex, incorporating edging can be a great way to share peaks over and over, so at the end if our partner chooses to go over the edge and we choose to just stay there (and introject, if we can, drawing the energy up our spine), it's not a refusal to join them -- we're both honoring the paths you are choosing to take.

Besides, the overall point of allowing ourselves to Ripen is to supercharge our libido and let that empower all parts of our lives, so the more we can be demonstrably affectionate to your partner, the more we become a sex maniac for him (in the best way), the more our partner will start to appreciate your practice.​
 
I've been practicing edging for a couple weeks and to only release one drop is excruciatingly pleasurable.
 

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