Cumshots: An Essay

I've been thinking a lot recently- given the preoccupation with cum on this site and in porn, as well the own tributes I've done- about cumshots, and facials in particular. More specifically, about why they're liked so much, why they turn people on so much, and why, at least in my opinion, they're not inherently misogynistic and patriarchal displays of dominance and disrespect. Maybe I'm way too much in my own head about it, but I'd like to know if anybody else agrees or disagrees.

Ejaculations, cumshost, creampies, and facials, like everything else in sex, are dependent on the context in which they happen. When done in an atmosphere of self-awareness, mutual respect, and of course, the recipents's own enjoyment, the act of ejaculating in someone's mouth, or on their face, or inside their genitals or anus, is an act of the giver donating their orgasm and their pleasure to the other person: a visual, tactile, olfactory, and gustatory piece of evidence of both the recipient's and the giver's sexual power and capacity to inspire pleasure. We may not have tastebuds or smell receptors inside our vaginas or rectums, but the powerful sensations of giving and receiving an ejaculation inside one's pussy or asshole serves much the same purpose as a wet and sticky facial or cumshot/squirt inside another's mouth.

The eyes, nose, mouth, ears, and sensitive skin of the face cover all five senses, and the face is the window in which we experience the world. Everyone's face, save that of identical twins, is unique, and forms the core of how we are perceived by other people, much more so than any other body part. Thus, dripping precum, or ejaculating semen, or vaginally squirting onto another's face or in their mouth is to essentially donate one's orgasm and the peak of one's sexual pleasure to the other person and all their senses.

Not only is the act of covering another in one's jizz or watching one's creampie leak out of another visually pleasing to the ejaculator, but the sensation and presence of cum can be a potent indicator of the recipient's own ability to bring about such an orgasm. Semen and squirt can rightfully be viewed as "liquid love", and the more of each, the more physical evidence of sexual power and the pleasure (though of course, all orgasms are valid, and the ability or inability for a penis or vagina to ejaculate prodigiously or at all does not necessarily correlate with the actual amount of pleasure involved. Sex is whatever one and one's partners make of it).

It is only when done in a disrespectful, patriarchally-informed environment (or further, one of non-consent and assault) and when it is forced or coerced upon another that cum becomes a mark of "ownership", a reminder of the giver's coercive power and capability to dominate.

But in atmosphere of equity and mutual respect, semen or squirt is no different than any other bodily liquid, and to suggest that semen or squirt is inherently dirty or filthy and that enjoying cum makes one more debased, is to suggest that other liquids such as vaginal lubrication or saliva- and even sex itself- as dirty and undesirable.

Of course, as a cis male who ejaculates quite a bit and has a conscious and subconscious in justifying facials to other people, I'm biased, but given how many of own partners- men, women, trans folks- love them as much as I do, and asking them their reasons why, I've hoped to include their points of view and rationale here Your own feedback and reasons for why you agree or disagree are appreciated.

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