Dating Preference Does Not Equal Racism

I've been having an ongoing battle with a member off site. He insists that by saying I prefer to date white men I am being racist. I disagree.

See, I think in order to be racist I would have to refuse to date any black men. Which I don't. For instance, today I really wanted pizza for lunch at this special place but when I got there they were closed. :frown1: Instead I went to Zaxby's and had their Zensation Chicken Salad, which I love. It's as far away from thin crust, pepperoni pizza as you can get. Yet it was tasty, healthy, and quite satisfying.

Many years ago I was at a bar in Jersey one of those neighborhood/sports bars found round the country. Not part of a chain, great food and cheap, happy hour drinks. Anyway my girlfriend noticed that the guys I found attractive were usually what she called BDWG. BDWG = Big Dopey White Guys.

If a man were to say he only preferred red heads with freckles, or women with D cups or better I wouldn't think he were racist, even if he were black or Asian or whatever. Lots of black men, shun white and black women for Asian and Latina women. Are they racist also? :confused:

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I've been having an ongoing battle with a member off site. He insists that by saying I prefer to date white men I am being racist. I disagree.

Why should you give a fuck about what others think? YOUR sexuality tells YOU what YOU like...not up to others to decide what YOU like.
 
Nope u aren't .... in my part though i only date tall guys =P...
we all have preferences towards our partner choices.. doesn't make us racist at all.
 
The thing is, it is racist, though it's a subtle racism. Imagine if an executive said they rather have a white person as a news anchor, though they would not rule out people of other races. It's sort of an accepted racism, and it's a bit insidious as different races tend to have different features. Many claim that for a long time (maybe still) that the only non-whites that won American/European beauty competitions were ones that had "european features". I have preferences that would make me racist as well, to deny it is racism at all is not true, but it is not something you can really change since you cannot, to a large extent, change attraction, only actions (if you were a racist hiring people, you could change your action of hiring a person and hire them even if like they are of a race that you dislike, but your actions are effected too much by your feelings when you're talking about dating). No one wants to think of themselves as racist, so it becomes a problem of cognitive dissonance and enabling, but really, if you were being truthful, you should come to the conclusion that preferring a race is obviously not not racist.
 
Dating preferences don't define racism...

That would be like saying "because I've never dated a woman, I'm homophobic"... Not the case. I just got ordained so that I could perform gay marriage ceremonies.
 
I don't find it raciest at all I'm a black man and I perfer to date white men not saying iwont. Or havnet been with other races but I perfer white guys or as njqt466's frind call them is BDWG's. If its what u like its what u like it only becomes raciest when u refuse to date someone solely based on there race.
 
I don't find it raciest at all I'm a black man and I perfer to date white men not saying iwont. Or havnet been with other races but I perfer white guys or as njqt466's frind call them is BDWG's. If its what u like its what u like it only becomes raciest when u refuse to date someone solely based on there race.
 
Clearly he/she is very ignorant of what being a racist means! If you absolutely cannot stand a friendship or any kind of relation with a particular group of people, THAT wold be racist. Everybody have their sexual prefferences. Sexually, I like mostly any race, not all of them, but I have a lot of friends that I totally love from those races.
 

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