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Excerpt from the Chapter "Size Matters..." pages 25-32.

"Who can deny the allure of a big dick? Flaccid or erect, it is aesthetically stunning - commanding every onlooker to consider its capacity and consequence.
Many viewing the photos for this book blurted out, "I wouldn't let that near me!" As if anyone were offering.
Everyone takes the big penis personally, as an object of fear, arousal, and endless fascination, that last derived from the Latin fascinum, meaning both phallus and magical spirit. Big shoulders, big lapels, and big hair may come and go, but the big penis never goes out of fashion. And because humans walk upright, their penises are a more obvious accessory than those of most animals, a quirk that has hardly escaped man himself.

The medieval codpiece began as a practical addition to European menswear in about 1420. Men wore just tunics and stockings at the time, as underwear didn't exist, and when tunics got shorter a simple triangle of cloth was designed to hide the genitals. Over the next hundred years this flap of cloth was refashioned - first to lift and project, then padded, then padded a great deal more, then molded into an elongated oval that projected up and from the groin, giving the appearance of a permanent erection. By 1500 codpieces were worn from England to Italy, with every country vying to outdo the others in size and originality of adornment. In all, the style had a 150-year run, nearly unheard of in fashion, finally achieving such ludicrous proportions it collapsed under the weight of ridicule around 1580.

The evolutionary path of the codpiece illustrates the intense competition engendered by penile display, a competition older than man himself. Many species of monkeys establish group hierarchy and mating rights by displaying an erect penis. When confronted by a superior erection, a male of lower status responds by cowering. An interesting evolutionary result is that primates who engage in penile display are better endowed.

The gorilla, for example, has the smallest penis of the great apes, measuring a humble 1.2 inches when erect. Gorillas also operate under the one-male mating system, wherein the dominant male has the right to impregnate all the females, making penile competition unnecessary. Chimpanzees, on the other hand, must compete with other males to win favor with females, who are free to choose their own mates. Chimps are fervent displayers with penises nearly three times the size of the gorilla's. Since humans have the largest penises among the primates, we may speculate that man was showing off long before the codpiece came along.

While figures are compelling, it doesn't take a tape measure to tell us when a cock is big. Many men with perfectly average-sized penises worry they don't measure up, but every man with a big penis knows just what he's got. And the bigger the cock, the more he will want to display it for men and women alike.

Men, more than others in the primate family, are constant competitors of penis size. As a female who has spent a lifetime studying penises and the men who have them, the most fascinating aspect of penis size is the comparison factor. Beginning in the early stages of sexual maturity and continuing throughout their lives, men - especially those who are above-average - will compare the size of their penises (this behavior begins to peak around 16 and continues strongly into a man's early 40s). A man will find great and irresistible opportunities to compare the size of his penis to his peers' in locker rooms, gym showers and saunas, and well as at un-partitioned urinals. From my understanding, comparing in these situations can range from a quick glance to a fierce competition in which men will literally measure one another's penises or place their respective reproductive organs side-by-side for closer examination. One thing is almost certain - a well-endowed man will display his penis when afforded an opportunity to do so. Lesser men will take note of his superior cock size and marvel and leave filled with envy and/or lust. If one well-endowed man sees another well hung man showing off, his pride demands that he sidle up for comparison. Although words may or may not be spoken, they will determine which man's penis is bigger, including both length and girth.

While women have diverse feelings about penis size based upon their fantasies and experiences, men - no matter how small or big their own penis may be - want women to want big penises. In fact, one study on men and their sexual psychology investigated the response of heterosexual men to seeing a penis bigger than their own in person (such as at a urinal or in the showers). The results showed that over 98% of straight men will masturbate 7x or more in response to seeing a penis bigger than his own. The reason? After getting out-classed, these men reported fantasizing about seeing their wives or girlfriends pleasured by the bigger penis. Yet, while the majority of men have such reactions, most will keep this fantasy hidden from their partner.

In my long career editing men's magazines, I encountered many straight men obsessed with penis size. Many of these men would write me anonymous letters confessing their sordid fantasies about cock size. One middle aged man, who called himself "Brad," wrote in describing the jealousy he felt over a young man who worked with his wife "Lauren.” At the wedding reception of a young lady who worked with Lauren, this young, handsome man casually asked Lauren for a dance? Brad claimed that his relationship was secure enough that they frequently danced with others at social events. As Brad watched the dance neared completion, he stepped to the men's room to use the urinal. Brad said he felt comfortable being exposed in front of others because he has an average-sized penis (a very normal 5 inches hard and about 2.5 inches flaccid). Moments later, though, his wife's young co-worker came and stood beside him. As Brad stood there with his flaccid penis hanging from his trousers, the young man unbuckled his pants to reveal a very large, erect penis capped with a fat, mushroom head. Brad estimated the young man's hardened member to have been between 6.8 and 7 inches long and thick. Brad knew the young man had achieved this monstrous erection while slow dancing with Lauren. Had Lauren felt the pressure of her friend’s knob as they swayed to the music? Brad told me the worst part was that he knew this young man could penetrate his wife 2 inches deeper than he could as well as spread her wider than he was able with his more modest girth. Though Brad never told his wife about the incident or the young man’s big dick, his letter indicated that his own cock frequently stiffened at the mental image of seeing his wife putting this younger man's bigger penis into her mouth. If the countless anonymous letters I have received have taught me anything about men, it is that Brad's experience is typical of how men think down about penis size, sexual status and women.

Psychologist Deborah Herbernick said this information should not be surprising because men so desperately want women to desire a bigger penis - even if it hurts to believe it. Herbernick notes that after a man starts dating a woman, he typically wants to know about the size of her previous lovers' penises. Likewise, a man whose partner has cheated will want to know if the other man was larger. This can provide a hurting man, even unbeknownst to his partner, with hours of masturbatory pleasure even though he still hates the idea of her taking a cock bigger than his own. So, it may be more helpful than harmful for men to believe women want bigger penises. Perhaps this explains why John Holmes (to whom an entire section of this book is dedicated) rose to such popularity in the first rush of sexual freedom of the press. Some of the largest porn stars in the industry watched in hedonistic horror as Holmes gave the women they had previously fucked with more cock than they themselves were able to provide. I hope you enjoy such photographs and the sporadic stories that accompany them.

One final word: Women, no matter what you allow into your vagina, I hope you will find the pictures in this book stimulating. Men, enjoy comparing the size of your own penis to the sizes of the ones pictured in this book and imagine the capacity and consequence of the size difference.

Bon appétit,

Dian
Dian, thank you for your post.

I am commenting on just one small part of your post. To paraphrase what you wrote: you shared that you are aware of men with big penis seeing another big penis man "showing off at the urinal" and they want to "sidle up" and compare and see who is longer and thicker and biggest overall.

Heck, over the decades, more than a few times....quite a lot of times...I have had women, hear about me from their friends, their coworkers, mere acquaintances, and even their close female relatives....and they told their own "horse cocked" boyfriend or husband or lover. And....the part that is the wanting to "compare"...is I have had these complete strangers....many times....a couple or even a small group....just "out of the blue", with my usually knowing none of them, find out who I am and where I live, then on their own, no prior contact at all....completely unexpectedly to me....the couple or the small group...just show up and knock on my door and explain they have heard about me and want to see and show me and "prove to me" that they were "longer" or "thicker" or just "bigger" than I am...or that their loads are bigger than mine or something to compare not only their size to mine, but their virility to mine...

Sometimes the women with the man or with the group... seem to be, at first, embarrassed...but also excited and almost "in heat" from the way their faces and bodies seem to be reacting....

IF...the people at my door, seem otherwise "harmless"...and not "gross" or "dirty" or "sleazy" or "dangerous" in some way...those "alarm bells" will always cause me to politely decline and ask them to leave and not allow them entrance to my home....BUT....a very BIG BUT...IF they seem otherwise "safe"...and at least somewhat attractive to me, women who are there too.....and my mood is fine with it, and what I was interrupted doing can wait....I have been known to invite them inside....and right there in the foyer....no sense bringing everyone in to all of my home....told them to pull theirs out and get hard and let's decide this. After all, that is why they found me and showed up at my door...they wanted this...so my taking that forward approach always seems to surprise every one that has been allowed inside my door.

And since I am a nudist at home...and I only put on a long, ankle length robe I keep nearby for the odd and...rare....door bell ring (even if it is just a delivery)....I wait until the "stud" who is there to "beat me" is nude and his own efforts and with the help of his wife and/or girlfriend(s), and he says he is fully hard...then I open my robe, and still flaccid....let them all gawk...and that is always obvious that is "enough" to settle the matter without any argument....my flaccid "beats" their erection...no need for my to work myself erect for all to see who "won"....but

But once in a while, I will hear...the objections...as an example the comments similar to: "but can he get his hard, soft doesn't win if he can not get hard"....or some such argument.

Then I tell them all to take out their wallets...pool their cash and such on a table...and that is mine to prove to them I can get hard. I also tell them that if I do get hard...which woman or women, right then, will volunteer to take my cum on her so they can remember this....almost always the women all "volunteer"...only some wives have been hesitant about volunteering...not sure how their "huge cocked" husband will react to their "volunteering"...so I share that if they if their are no volunteer(s) no getting hard, and they can leave and think whatever they wish about my being only "won" flaccid....and every time they have been told by their husbands or boyfriends to "volunteer"...and then, they have always been eager to do so once they have "permission"....and they all, both the guys and the women present....never forget what happens next...what they saw and what they will never forget.

And....over the years...some have become more than just people I did not want in my life...I have had "stalkers"....those who will not just leave me alone....so I have had to go and get, several times, warrants to keep some folks away from me and my life.

It is what it is...but sometimes I am amazed at just how forward some folks can be...insistent....as if I am not a real person and I exist...or rather my endowment exists...just for their life.

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Always like hearing about your big dick dominance, Ben. But do you have any stories where the other men were in your ballpark, and it wasn't clearly obvious who was the winner until both were erect?
 
@BigBen my section about men comparing was based on anecdotal evidence and a French study where over volunteers were placed in a big brother situation (being watched through oneway glass or recorded at ALL times) and in each study group a man with penile dominance was introduced. I don't even remember what the original purpose of the social experiment was that men, even heterosexual, have this fixation with huge dicks.

I hesitated to include that detail since it was only observed in a single study. However, I think it is common knowledge to most people and especially to women if they are discerning. I can't tell you how many times I have heard stories confirming the fantasy and obsession of men with a bigger-dicked man and his wife. There's even an entire porn category for this now!

So, it's not surprising to hear that couples ask you to see it and compare. In fact the only personal study I did about men comparing beside the word of mouth/interview research for the book, was this: Me and my hubby paid an attractive young man with a huge schlong to spend a day at a nude beach with us (it was actually in Austin, Texas so beach is kind of a stretch). We sat and observed and he walked. I can't tell you how many times we was stared down, when couples would stop him and there was even side by side comparison done in the open. So, I get it and I'm sorry you have been treated like a piece of meat. I actually feel really bad for men who are 8 inches plus. They are in the top 1-2% of the male population and if they are halfway decent looking they are objectified by men and women....kind of like a thin, attractive woman is objectified if she has enormous breasts.
Hippie Hollow County Park in Travis County, on Lake Travis.

Interesting that your your last two sentences..."...men who are 8 inches plus. They are in the top 1-2% of the male population and if they are halfway decent looking they are objectified by men and women....kind of like a thin, attractive woman is objectified if she has enormous breasts."

Over the many years, women you mentioned...."enormous breasts"...have always been the first and most "understanding" for what life is like and the stares and comments and "objectification"....and while they can show, and often do, cleavage with the attitude...impossible to hide, might as well show some in the right situation...in my situation, in public, it is never "good"...so my life and wardrobe have always been to tie down to control, dress to hide, camouflage, distract the eye away...and not show.

Thank you for your post.
 

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