I'd say it'd be the sex that makes you gay. I've seen(online I mean) a few guys that are straight that look at pics of dudes dicks or vids of jerking, even jerking off with the vids I think(I'm sure)
I am trying to figure this out myself. I have always been attracted to smooth younger guys, but still have only had sex with women. I am 49 yrs of age and was prev. married for 18 yrs.
I like watching and jerking off to young guys on cam and often think that I may someday want to try the real thing.
Love is difficult in both relationships, not sure how that all plays out when contemplating sexual desires and preferences.
Good topic. Not sure I can provide an answer. However my opinion is that 10% of people are exclusively Str8, 10% exclusively gay, & the rest of us are in the middle. Of the ones in the middle there will be a 1 - 99% chance that at some point, given the right person, right circumstances & right time &/or situation could sleep with a person of the same sex as themselves. It may happen once or they may be comfortable enough to explore with the same, or possibly multiple partners on numerous occasions. That might not make the gay OR Str8, but merely sexual.
To me it's wrong that society labels them because they happen to have enjoyed exploring with a person of their own sex, moreso if it is one time, with one person. As really we can only describe what our preference is.
Hope this helps someone somewhere.
in order, yes, probably genetics, no, doesnt make you anything - you already are or arent.
which was a bit of a contradiction. People argue about the definition of being gay and there are old threads about it. My take is that doing something isnt going to make you anything. You already were, or werent. It isnt whether I could fuck a woman, its whether I want to. Its what turns my head when someone walks past. If you get sexual excitement from seeing good looking guys, or guys having sex, then Id say you are at least part gay. We live in a society which tends to force people to make choices about this but I understand for a lot of people it is not so clear cut as that. Having said that, I guess guys generally get turned on by just the idea of sex and it is a bit hard to separate the idea of any kind of sex from whatever kind you really like. But if you are choosing specifically to look at guys rather than you just came across it, then..
None of these things 'make" you gay and none of them mean that you are gay.
If you must label, then if you are much more clearly sexually turned by the same sex + feel much more romantically attracted to the same sex + much more more definitely would prefer to have a life long partner of the same sex - apply the gay label.
Sexuality is much more complicated than categorising into - straight, gay or bisexual ( or curious, metro or anything else you choose to have a alabel).
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I like looking at other dudes junk. I need to see dick in my pussy porn. It just makes me just like one of guys.
In my opinion a person is gay if they are emotionally involved with a same sex partner. Waking off in the woods with buds does not count!
I have sex with men but don't consider myself gay - I have sex with women too (more often than with men) so I'd call myself bi.
Before I'd had sex with any man, I used to masturbate to pictures of guys with erections, guys sucking and fucking together, and considered myself straight in those days. Nudity and sex are always arousing.
@ Scott
I think ya got it right. Atleast that's how I would like to think. I'm still trying to weed out labels in my life and my thinking. Counterporgramming is hard to do when your while life its been pounded into your head one way .
My 2 cents. I see sexuality as having 3 parts: behavior, identity and attractions (emotional). I know many guys who may have one of these parts going on towards another guy without the other parts. For example...a guy may have some kind of sex with another guy, but not have emotional (romantic) attraction towards guys nor may he identify himself as gay - in fact he identifies himself as heterosexual and functions and enjoys that identity. Same goes for the other parts...a guy can have intense emotional closeness with another guys but not desire sexual contact or ID self as gay.
i think that people put labels on behavior that may not be totally accurate. but, the difficult part is perhaps we don't have the language for everything since everything isn't black and white. there is shades of grey.
i do like the term pansexual.
"A person who is sexually interested in other people regardless of gender."
i tend to like the phrase: labels are for boxes. i know i've been guilty of labeling people. and, trying to break that way of thinking.
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