Ever find someone sexually irresistible but personally unappealing?

I really want to have sex with someone I met on the internet on a vegetarian dating site named M.

She is adorable. She's a tiny little auburn haired goddess. She's only 4'11" but she's got curves. The fact that she's so short but isn't a stick, really gets me hot.

We went on a "date" at the Habana Outpost (a bar in Fort Greene, Brooklyn) with her girlfriends tagging along. I wore my big nerd glasses and a hockey jersey and made self-deprecating jokes about how I looked like the dudes from Slap Shot. hahaha

Anyway, I thought we'd hit it off because she's a vegan, a Buddhist, a smoker, a drinker, a writer (plays), and a teacher.

Turns out she was very New York. You know, kind of like one of the women in Sex and the City. Not really my type for personality.

But I just think of wanting to bang her so badly. I sent her an e-mail inviting her to watch me perform some poems. But I don't know how to just ask some woman if she just wants to mess around and not date.

I guess that's probably something that only happens on the internet.

I don't think she liked my personality, either. So, I think it's a lost cause. She hasn't responded to my e-mail....but then again....she never checks her e-mail on a regular basis.

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If she finds something about you that clicks, she will respond. If not, look elsewhere. It is that simple, really, and I don't think you have to go any deeper into it.

As an aside...when you invited her to watch you perform some poems, what you did was something I suspect you always do. And that is: you asked her out in a non-threatening, non-sexual, almost friendly way. You do this, I think, to avoid the pain of rejection you'd feel if you crafted your invitation to say exactly what you feel...that you really want to fuck her, not have her listen to your poetry. You have to learn to be more honest with women...otherwise, you simply set yourself up for failure. I know...I did this for many years. Believe me, the initial rejection would be better than all the time and money you'd waste on women who will never give you what you want.
 
The man writes nothing but the truth, shy one.
Why not call her and ask for a date, even lunch, during the break? :)
 
Unfortunately, in most instances you have to "date" to get to the fun stuff. I would guess if you aroused animal urges she would have made it clear to you.

How did you manage to set up a date via a vegetarian dating site and end up with a convention of her friends?
No really a date.

So now you ask her to hear you read poems.
Perfect opportunity for her to bring friends along.
Not to be critical of your poetry, but what makes you think she wants to hear you read your poetry?
Try to figure out what she would want to do.
She writes plays?
Perfect!
Off Off Broadway - easy on the budget.
If possible get 2 tickets in advance and mention the number 2 (hint - no friends).
Then something nice afterward.

Don't expect any special favors - they don't call it getting lucky for nothing. You will have to invest some effort to prove your worth and increase your attractiveness to this woman.
And listen to NiceNYCDick - don't waste your time. If you figure out it isn't going anywhere look elsewhere. The city must have thousands of sub 5 foot vegetarian women who are Buddhists and smoke and drink. After all it is NY!

And being negative isn't helping.
No more self deprecating jokes.
Don't assume she didn't like you.
Don't assume it is a lost cause.

Look for common ground and give this woman more of a chance. She may be much different without her friends.

And about that poetry. Ask her if you can read it to her because you would like her opinion before your public performance.
 

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