What did I say last night? "We'll have to see what happens" ... was that it? Well something did happen.
I had a few beers and then this girl text me, might have spoken about her before, who always does when she's drunk asking if I'm out and wanting to tell me something important. I was a little buzzed and too tired to really re-buff her so she ended up paying me a late night visit.
What she had to say was that she really liked me and that I turned her on without even being there and that I was her weakness, that she'd do anything to make me happy. We ended up in bed, one thing led to another and we slept together.
Now I've told her before that I think she's really pretty and that I like her too, but that I don't think we have very much in common and that I can't see us going anywhere. I don't really know why it happened - maybe it's because I was lonely, maybe because I was dumped the other week and it was just nice to have someone find me attractive, maybe because it was just on a plate for me. This has really troubled me because I normally have really good self-control and will-power when it comes to things like that. Now I feel like I've not only taken advantage of her but also that I've led her into believing that I've changed the way I feel about her.
The reasons why I don't see it lasting is that I don't want someone who just wants to make me happy and is there to please me - that's a journey I feel I have to take myself first. I also don't want someone who truly believes that I am more intelligent and more practical than they are - if I feel like I've taken advantage of her now, what it's going to be like if we did go out and I had the upper hand all the time? I need someone that will challenge me, challenge my beliefs, argue with me, someone who is passionate about what they think and will fight with me about it not just lie down and roll over. This is what I think a relationship with this girl would be like. I don't see what we could achieve as a couple that we couldn't achieve as friends.
Anyone got any ideas on how I can express this to her without majorly hurting her feelings? I suppose that's not really possible is it
I had a few beers and then this girl text me, might have spoken about her before, who always does when she's drunk asking if I'm out and wanting to tell me something important. I was a little buzzed and too tired to really re-buff her so she ended up paying me a late night visit.
What she had to say was that she really liked me and that I turned her on without even being there and that I was her weakness, that she'd do anything to make me happy. We ended up in bed, one thing led to another and we slept together.
Now I've told her before that I think she's really pretty and that I like her too, but that I don't think we have very much in common and that I can't see us going anywhere. I don't really know why it happened - maybe it's because I was lonely, maybe because I was dumped the other week and it was just nice to have someone find me attractive, maybe because it was just on a plate for me. This has really troubled me because I normally have really good self-control and will-power when it comes to things like that. Now I feel like I've not only taken advantage of her but also that I've led her into believing that I've changed the way I feel about her.
The reasons why I don't see it lasting is that I don't want someone who just wants to make me happy and is there to please me - that's a journey I feel I have to take myself first. I also don't want someone who truly believes that I am more intelligent and more practical than they are - if I feel like I've taken advantage of her now, what it's going to be like if we did go out and I had the upper hand all the time? I need someone that will challenge me, challenge my beliefs, argue with me, someone who is passionate about what they think and will fight with me about it not just lie down and roll over. This is what I think a relationship with this girl would be like. I don't see what we could achieve as a couple that we couldn't achieve as friends.
Anyone got any ideas on how I can express this to her without majorly hurting her feelings? I suppose that's not really possible is it