I'm trying to decide, when enough is enough, should just let this one die or is it time for a reality check. My friends and I have been hanging out, nothing new, but one has consistently been absent. Her life has not changed in any major way, but the last time any of us saw her, she was not in a relationship, and now that she is, it's almost like the rest of us don't exist. We've invited her out quite a few times in the last three months, but she's always "busy," having to study and then we find out she spent the weekend doing shit with her girlfriend or traveling with her girlfriend. We're not sensitive people, if you don't want to hang out with us, fine, just have some fucking balls and say it, but you can't forsake your friends for some girlfriend, and then get dumped and expect to get cozy with people you haven't had time for in the last three months. My best friend who is also a really good friend of hers has been in NY for almost 5 months, and she couldn't pry herself away from her last gf long enough to say hi when she came home.
All of us have had our own relationships and personal shit and have always made time for each other, but she can't. Someone suggested that lesbian relationships tend to be more serious than usual relationships in the beginning, but I really just think that's horse shit, an excuse. We've had this discussion once before when she had her gf come along when we went camping, and it turned out that we all hated her (she was a bitch, and according to her something is wrong with me because I'm a guy.)
This super love obsession thing is getting old, maybe she's co-dependent or something. I don't know the inner-workings of lesbian relationships, but I can't believe that this is what a healthy relationship does to a person, or looks like, although they have all looked like this, just not lasted as long. It's fucked up to say, but I don't feel sympathy for her and her relationship woes anymore, her being dumped is petty much the only way any of us are going to see her again.
All of us have had our own relationships and personal shit and have always made time for each other, but she can't. Someone suggested that lesbian relationships tend to be more serious than usual relationships in the beginning, but I really just think that's horse shit, an excuse. We've had this discussion once before when she had her gf come along when we went camping, and it turned out that we all hated her (she was a bitch, and according to her something is wrong with me because I'm a guy.)
This super love obsession thing is getting old, maybe she's co-dependent or something. I don't know the inner-workings of lesbian relationships, but I can't believe that this is what a healthy relationship does to a person, or looks like, although they have all looked like this, just not lasted as long. It's fucked up to say, but I don't feel sympathy for her and her relationship woes anymore, her being dumped is petty much the only way any of us are going to see her again.