Follow up to my first blog

This is follow up to my first blog I wrote last month.

I was hesitant to go on a coffe date with a woman I had met online. However, I reconsidered my decision and accepted to go on with the coffee date.

After many schedule conflicts, the coffee date couldn't materialize. However, during our subsequent numerous chats, She decided that we could have a supper date instead, since she thought that I deserved a longer date at this point.

Well, last Friday night, we finally had our supper date. It went very well, as we got along. However, she took me by surprise today, as she asked to have another date this week or the week after.

This is where I'm getting hesitant once again. Since I don't know how to tell her that I would like only to be friends with her. I apprehend greatly her reaction, as she wants a serious relationship .

My main concern is the reaction of my family and/or friends regarding our age difference.
I certainly don't want to hide a girlfriend.

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Gosh, go back to your first post and re-read. Busty1981 is right, as with most all who replied back to you on your 1st one.

I don't think she deserves what you are doing, as for women who are outspoken enough to tell you their wants are rare, and your paying her back with half arsed thoughts. :eek:(

Either grow up or cut bait.

In the first 5 months of our first year of knowing my soul mate, I put age as a reason she would never love me as much as I do for her. Being that she was in her early 20's, and I was tiered of being with younger women. Age has nothing to do with love, unless you find he/she is like 15 years of age. I'd give anything to have a woman my age or older when I was younger. But that is just me going on about me.
 
Wirmboi;bt108972 said:
Gosh, go back to your first post and re-read. Busty1981 is right, as with most all who replied back to you on your 1st one.

I don't think she deserves what you are doing, as for women who are outspoken enough to tell you their wants are rare, and your paying her back with half arsed thoughts. :eek:(

Either grow up or cut bait.

In the first 5 months of our first year of knowing my soul mate, I put age as a reason she would never love me as much as I do for her. Being that she was in her early 20's, and I was tiered of being with younger women. Age has nothing to do with love, unless you find he/she is like 15 years of age. I'd give anything to have a woman my age or older when I was younger. But that is just me going on about me.

I'm not giving her half arsed thoughts ! I just want to find the best way to cut ties, as you say, with her ,without hurting her feelings. That's it.
 
Well, I was not sure, as we all tried to tell you not to attempt without telling her your feelings.

Obviously you have not discussed it through your dinner or afterwards. So, now your in a bind with telling her you want to cut ties. This is one reason woman have difficult time with men, and good men have to pay the price.

You should tell her how you feel and why you let it go this far ASAP.
 
I'm a good man, and she likes me even more than I could imagine. I just don't want to dissapoint her. I even paid for the dinner when she didn't want me to. She really appreciated that.

Also ,i didn't expect the dinner to go that well. It wasn't the time and place to discuss this matter as we needed to have fun first and foremost.

As I told in my second blog. I didn't expect her to have a second date so soon. She knows I'm unsure about the whole situation. But I don't know why she immediately set a second date so soon. I'll let her know about the situation so she can move on.
 
I've found great pleasure in unlikely lovers. But that is not my advice to you, bone.

This woman sounds like she likes you--a lot. But you don't feel the same toward her. Pat yourself on the back for giving it a shot and thank her for a lovely time. Extricate yourself politely and firmly and when pressured for more details, explain the chemistry isn't there. Don't hem-haw. If you try to let her down too gently, she'll take it that you are unsure. Be firm, be a gentleman, hold your ground, and best of wishes.
 
Thanks cylus . I guess I will have no choice but to hold my ground, and tell her that it won't work on my end. Hopefully she'll understand.
 
Heh, so I once dated a lady 20 years my senior. Plus she was my supervisor at work. She used to tell people she was '18 with 20 years of experience'. Had an endearing gap in her front teeth that only showed when she was excited.

I gave it a shot. Didn't work out. Don't regret a bit. (It was a bit awkward that she had a daughter with the same age and name as me...)
 
That's a nice life experience, Cylus. You had your relationship, and even though it ultimately ended you didn't have any regret. I think I can learn a bit from that.
 

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