How Sexually Satisfied are You?

i feel blessed to have been married to a beautiful woman for over twenty years and still have amazing sex 3-4 times a week. My sex drive is higher than hers so she is also supportive of me masturbating. I can jack off openly in bed with her laying beside me reading and she is grateful I can take care of my needs.

Prior to getting married I told her I could not promise to give up M2M sex and she told me to do whatever I needed to do to be happy as long as she never had to see it or hear about it and I did it safely. That has also been a huge blessing in my life to not have to feel guilt when I play. My relationship with my best friend Jay really rounds out my sexual needs.

Ho fulfilled are you? If you aren't feeling fulfilled, do you work to improve your situation?

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I have been married for 18 yrs. I love my wife. We have 2 kids. The young one is 6 yrs old.
I have almost zero sex life with my wife. She doesn't allow me to even caress her beautiful butt. Since we have children she get anxious when I start any kind of sexual behaviour to her. She doesn't allow me to sleep naked. I constantly hug her and kiss her but seems she wanna be a mom not a woman. It really saddens me and inside me I've collapsed. It caused me ED problems too. because I think I'm not desireable for sex anymore. I beg her love but seems I'm just alone in this thing. We make love 1-or 2 times in a month. My sex drive (even in my low-t condition) is much higher than that.

I have found my boyfriend then. He is perfect. Love to be with him. He cares. But he lives far from our place so we could meet only 2-3 times a month.

So ..am I fulfilled? No. But I need to be loved to have sex. One night stands doesnt work for me.

Im jacking off once a day. But since my testosterone level went down - sometimes I jack off less often.

Thats all.
 
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@thickbit
So sorry to read about your situation. It sounds a lot like my best friend's situation. His wife shut down sexually and doesn't want to talk about it or attempt to change it. He did not want to cheat on her with another woman because he still loves her. He came to me and told me what was going on. Then he asked me if I would become his sexual outlet. He can justify in his mind that it isn't cheating because I am male.

Do you think your wife is this way only because she fears the kids may hear you two if you have sex? Could it be she no longer feels sexy because of having kids? Have you tried having the kids stay with a grandparent or someone else overnight so you have privacy, or you two go away somewhere romantic?
 
@Hanging6x6
Thank you - but I dont want to look like as a pitied person. Right now I am working on to revitalise my sexlife with my wife. And hopefully as you have said it would rounds out my sexual needs.

to answer your questions:

Hanging6x6 said: Do you think your wife is this way only because she fears the kids may hear you two if you have sex?

Well first I tought that is the problem. But it is much complex. I think I am not desired by her as much as I was before the kids.

Hanging6x6 said:Could it be she no longer feels sexy because of having kids?

I assure her that she is sexy. I have an instrument in my pants which tells that she is sexy. She gained fat AFTER the kids. When my second child was born she has an amazing figure and body. But she never accepted herself. She always tought that she is fat and ugly - but she is beutiful.

Hanging6x6 said: Have you tried having the kids stay with a grandparent or someone else overnight so you have privacy, or you two go away somewhere romantic?

I cannot tell you how many times I tried. Never worked.
When we have sex nowadays I must not make any noise. We hould be under bedsheets - with sunshades down on the windows. (I can barely see anything - its a great turnoff for me ...)
I told her to visit a marriage therapist , or a sex therapist - but she refused heavyly. She is a bit prude (She came from a catholic family)

I think I have to accept that I will never have good sex with my wife again.

Ah and she doesnt want to take pills or any other form of protection - so I use condoms which I really HATE. My erection flies away every time I put on a condome. I booked at my urologist for a vasectomy surgery because of that...
 
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Working on it. Now that I finally accepted myself as bisexual. I am free to explore and enjoy my sexuality to the fullest.
 

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