A lot of trainees ask me how they can stay motivated and focused. So I don’t have to keep repeating myself, here is what I would say in general, though it can be tailored to anyone’s specific needs.
It’s only natural to feel unmotivated and focused at times, especially during difficult circumstances, if we’re stressed out, not happy with ourselves, feel very far from our goals, etc. However, there are a lot of different ways to improve our motivation and focus.
Here are some key options. We strongly recommend doing all of them, but note that accountability (item #6) is especially important for all trainees.
1. Remember your ‘what’ and ‘why’
In other words, have a clear idea of what you want to become, and why. Focus on this very strongly when you first start training, because when our desire for change is the strongest, making it the ideal time to forge a very clear idea of what the new you will be. Come back to this idea every time you feel unmotivated or unfocused.
2. Use imagery
Choose 1 to 3 images or gifs that best represent what you want to become, and send them to me so we’re on the same page about what you want to become. Use one image for your phone background, desktop background, etc., and come back to this image every time you feel unmotivated or unfocused.
3. Use a touchstone
Ideally a physical object like a cock ring that can be worn very frequently, to remind yourself of your ‘what’ and ‘why’. You don’t have to wear the same thing all the time, and have to be careful not to wear a cock ring too long, especially if it is tight.)
4. Focused training sessions
Have regular sessions when you practice focusing on something specific, such as edging, manual cock stretching, pumping, looking at one particular image or gif, looking at an object like a candle, a cock ring, a dildo, etc. If thoughts come up, try not to follow them, and return to your focus. Start with 5 minutes, and gradually add more time. If you find it too difficult to stay focused, decrease the amount of time.
5. Use carrots.
We’re all human, and there are times when it can feel impossible to get into a mindset to train effectively, eat well, stay focused, etc. For these times, it can help to have some ‘carrots’ that you’ve defined ahead of time — rewards you will give yourself if you follow your training plan. We don’t advocate using sticks, because our bodies are not brute animals to be flogged and deprived — our bodies are precious vehicles that allow us to learn all the lessons that this challenging world have to offer.
Instead of punishing yourself by giving in to temptations (and dealing with the guilt you give yourself for straying from your path), you could use a system of rewards that you choose and write down. For example, for following your training plan well for two days, you could give yourself an extra 30 minutes of edging. For following your training plan well for a week, you could have a cheat meal (which is actually beneficial if you are strict about your diet the rest of the week). For following your plan for a month, you could get yourself another training item (like a new cock ring, butt plug, pump, etc.), a new item of clothing (swimsuit, a nice shirt, some slutty shorts, etc.), or whatever works for you.
6. Accountability
If we end up occasionally straying from your training plan, that’s okay, but without accountability to anyone we can just keep giving in over and over. Before long, we end up totally off our training plan, and back where we started. Instead, all trainees in the Path of Eros are expected to let their coach know whenever they stray from their training plan. There will be no guilt tripping or judgment, it’s all about trying to solve problems and improve lives.
7. Just do it
It’s easy to get overwhelmed by difficult things can seem in our mind, such as doing an intense workout, cardio, trying a new type of cock training, sticking to our diet, etc. However, that feeling of dread, overwhelm, and fatigue is usually much worse than if we just went ahead and did it. So, instead of thinking about the task, or trying to decide if we want to do it or not, or giving up entirely, just go ahead and do it.
So, that is the basic overview of some key ways we can help stay motivated and focused. Let me know if you have any questions, as I can elaborate on all these things and more.
-Coach
It’s only natural to feel unmotivated and focused at times, especially during difficult circumstances, if we’re stressed out, not happy with ourselves, feel very far from our goals, etc. However, there are a lot of different ways to improve our motivation and focus.
Here are some key options. We strongly recommend doing all of them, but note that accountability (item #6) is especially important for all trainees.
1. Remember your ‘what’ and ‘why’
In other words, have a clear idea of what you want to become, and why. Focus on this very strongly when you first start training, because when our desire for change is the strongest, making it the ideal time to forge a very clear idea of what the new you will be. Come back to this idea every time you feel unmotivated or unfocused.
2. Use imagery
Choose 1 to 3 images or gifs that best represent what you want to become, and send them to me so we’re on the same page about what you want to become. Use one image for your phone background, desktop background, etc., and come back to this image every time you feel unmotivated or unfocused.
3. Use a touchstone
Ideally a physical object like a cock ring that can be worn very frequently, to remind yourself of your ‘what’ and ‘why’. You don’t have to wear the same thing all the time, and have to be careful not to wear a cock ring too long, especially if it is tight.)
4. Focused training sessions
Have regular sessions when you practice focusing on something specific, such as edging, manual cock stretching, pumping, looking at one particular image or gif, looking at an object like a candle, a cock ring, a dildo, etc. If thoughts come up, try not to follow them, and return to your focus. Start with 5 minutes, and gradually add more time. If you find it too difficult to stay focused, decrease the amount of time.
5. Use carrots.
We’re all human, and there are times when it can feel impossible to get into a mindset to train effectively, eat well, stay focused, etc. For these times, it can help to have some ‘carrots’ that you’ve defined ahead of time — rewards you will give yourself if you follow your training plan. We don’t advocate using sticks, because our bodies are not brute animals to be flogged and deprived — our bodies are precious vehicles that allow us to learn all the lessons that this challenging world have to offer.
Instead of punishing yourself by giving in to temptations (and dealing with the guilt you give yourself for straying from your path), you could use a system of rewards that you choose and write down. For example, for following your training plan well for two days, you could give yourself an extra 30 minutes of edging. For following your training plan well for a week, you could have a cheat meal (which is actually beneficial if you are strict about your diet the rest of the week). For following your plan for a month, you could get yourself another training item (like a new cock ring, butt plug, pump, etc.), a new item of clothing (swimsuit, a nice shirt, some slutty shorts, etc.), or whatever works for you.
6. Accountability
If we end up occasionally straying from your training plan, that’s okay, but without accountability to anyone we can just keep giving in over and over. Before long, we end up totally off our training plan, and back where we started. Instead, all trainees in the Path of Eros are expected to let their coach know whenever they stray from their training plan. There will be no guilt tripping or judgment, it’s all about trying to solve problems and improve lives.
7. Just do it
It’s easy to get overwhelmed by difficult things can seem in our mind, such as doing an intense workout, cardio, trying a new type of cock training, sticking to our diet, etc. However, that feeling of dread, overwhelm, and fatigue is usually much worse than if we just went ahead and did it. So, instead of thinking about the task, or trying to decide if we want to do it or not, or giving up entirely, just go ahead and do it.
So, that is the basic overview of some key ways we can help stay motivated and focused. Let me know if you have any questions, as I can elaborate on all these things and more.
-Coach