Hurting someone.

It's always tough to make a decision to do something when you know that decision is going to crush someone you care about. It will be better for them in the long run, ultimately, and better for me too, but I'm having a hard time convincing myself to move forward with the decision because I know this person will be devastated.

I don't suppose anyone has an "easy" button laying around that I can borrow... ?

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It's like pulling off a piece of adhesive... the faster you do it the less it hurts. Best to just get it over with instead of draggin' it out.
 
The biggest reason, aside from hurting someone I love, for having not made the decision yet is fear of regret. If I do this, it's permanent. I can't take it back.
 
Laidey gots it righty... Trusting someone, is more than sharing all the good. Yes ya gots all them feelings tuggin at ya both, but if ya both care and understand, getting past the pain will make yer friendship stronger.

Some times ya must be a wee forceful, being too light and baby stepping can make confusion as to being a temporary moment of discontent.

Stand yer ground, and make it understood... things will fall into place. :eek:)
 
Well, make a list. Way the pros and cons... maybe that will help you make your decision.

Being afraid of regrets is no way to live. We all regret something.
 
That's the thing though, I don't regret anything. This is easily one of the hardest decisions I've ever had to make. Grrr. I think I will sit down and make a list.
 
Haven't ya made tough decisions before. I mean, not to sound rude, but to me, ya don't seem all to fussed about hurting others. As seen by the whole safe puppy and whatever the he'll was the one dudes name. Just do it and move on.
 
Nicodemous;bt109605 said:
Haven't ya made tough decisions before. I mean, not to sound rude, but to me, ya don't seem all to fussed about hurting others. As seen by the whole safe puppy and whatever the he'll was the one dudes name. Just do it and move on.

I am not protecting her, as I don't know Toxin much at all. Though, from her writings, I can tell a lot of passion is in her. You may have seen her rage, but she is showing a side of her you have lacked in seeing.

Toxin...

Nobody likes hurting another, unless there is some issues going on.

I think I know what yur going through... Too much good things, yet issues that are upsetting ya.

Love always makes things more difficult than what they are, as fear is sooo common with how love is shared.

Fear of obtaining something sooo wonderful, and never had before.
Fear of loosing what you have.
Fear of ending everything ya had.

Once you can release the fear, making changes will be much easier.

Everyone goes through changes, it is about accepting the change you or others make.

Obviously something needs to change, whether it is you or the other, or separation.

Separation is best done, when everything is open and laid on the table.

Making a list... your needs and wants from that person, along with what changes the both of you are willing to do to allow your needs to be met.

You will need to allow yourself to accept that the issue may be on both sides, so the discussion may not be just about you.
 

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