I'm going to make a big deal out of nothing.

Okay, so I wake up this morning, sign on to Facebook and I find that my girlfriend has listed her relationship status to single.

This is very odd and I immediately email her to ask what the problem is. I haven't gotten a response and to be quite honest, I don't expect to get one. I will probably call her tonight, if I don't get a response from her, but I think our relationship is through.

I recently logged onto the dating site where we met, to see if she had used it recently, and I found that she did. She had in fact used it the previous day and even uploaded a new picture of herself. So, from that I can assume that she's been on the lookout for a new boyfriend.

So yeah, I think our relationship is over.

To be honest, I am less bothered by the fact that she broke up with me, than by the way that she broke up with me. Over Facebook is a pretty shitty way to do it. I personally put a lot of effort into our relationship and for her to presumably dump me on facebook just seems like a slap in the face.

I have had concerns over our relationship as well. I had considered breaking up with her on a few occaisions, but it was a fear of being alone that kept me with her. In my mind, a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. As long as I was with her, I was with someone. I wasn't alone. I wasn't single. At the very least, even though we didn't have a good connection, I had some kind of physical and emotional connection with someone.

Now I don't have anything. I'm alone again and I'll probably stay alone. In all honesty I'm not the kind of person people love or get attached to. I'm the kind of person people tolerate. I can understand why Chie broke up with me. I'm not interesting, or cool. I'm not good at conversation, horrible at sex and look pretty ugly when I take my clothes off. At the end of the day, I understand why she broke up with and can't fault her judgment.

It's just that when I started dating her, I promised myself that this wouldn't end up like my other relationships and dates. I wouldn't screw this up. I would do my best to go beyond what I am and be something that someone could want. But I guess, you can't do that. Not really. I am always me and I am just not the kind of person that other people want.

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Sorry to hear that, man - that is REALLY shitty! You don't deserve to be treated like that. It would be bad enough to be told over the phone but she didn't tell you AT ALL - that is low!

I don't think that it's a big deal over 'nothing', unless you're referring to her as the 'nothing'

I am worried by this quote:
Now I don't have anything. I'm alone again and I'll probably stay alone. In all honesty I'm not the kind of person people love or get attached to. I'm the kind of person people tolerate. I can understand why Chie broke up with me. I'm not interesting, or cool. I'm not good at conversation, horrible at sex and look pretty ugly when I take my clothes off. At the end of the day, I understand why she broke up with and can't fault her judgment.

You shouldn't think like that, man! There's nothing wrong with being alone - spend some time on yourself, build up your confidence (I know that's easier said than done but it's the best advice I can give), then put yourself out there and start again.

And forget her - if that's how she treats you, she's not worth the worry.
 
The internet and technology has created an easy way for some people to escape having to talk about tough issues. You're not making a big deal out of nothing. This is a very serious issue in today's society.

It stinks...it's wrong.... and she is not worthy of your time. She is a coward.

Do you always percieve yourself as you described or is this a result of rejection?
*Sexy is not always the most handsome guy on the block.
*Smiles make miles of difference in our appearance and attitude...
*Cool.... god.. I hate that word! What is it, really???
Willow is right about alone time. We all need it. Find yourself... don't look for someone to find you.
 
If you where with her just because what u mentioned, it was a good idea to break up, but i get the feeling that your own issues where the deal breaker for her, you should work about it, cause you always mention them, this saturday i saw a guy that was not very fit at all, or tall, and ive seen him with 2 quite pretty GFs
 

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