Last Night

Valentine's Day is my least favorite Halmark Holiday of all time.

I hate the commercialism of it, and each year I've been hurt, and I hate trying to make efforts and getting hurt, so I didn't this year. I made no effort, beyond the fact that I had absolutely no time to do anything or to catch up with stuff, and I feel genuinely awful.

My wonderful, sweet boyfriend made me this gorgeous scrapbook gift with a story in it of our relatioship. He did this because he knew how much I hated the holiday, and he wanted me to have a sweet Valentine's day this year. He tried so hard to make it perfect and I fucked it up because I'm a dick.

I didn't do anything for him. I bought him dinner, that's it. How unromantic is that? And not even nice dinner, it was cheap crap dinner because it was all I could afford, and then, I promised we would go out and do something, and I forgot so we never did. By the time we finally did go out, everything was closed, and I took a street that was quarantined off on the other side for some reason, litterally there were hazmat guys along the street, so I couldn't turn around and we got lost for half an hour trying to get back to my apartment.

Because we didn't go out, my boyfriend got upset with me and we ended up just fighting for two hours which made him cry because he wanted it to be so special.

I genuinely just feel awful today and I wish I could make it up, but I don't know how because yesterday is already over and I fucked up my chance.

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Have you ever heard of a "just because" gift? Wait a week or so and then something nice... some ideas for inexpensive ways to say "you are special" :

Go by and pick up Chinese dinner and a bottle of wine; bring it home. Set the table with "real" plates and glasses (wink) and have a nice romantic dinner... with candles, perhaps, nice music in the background?

Go to your favorite adult store and pick up a bottle of hot massage oil (heat it up ahead of time) ... make a nice fluffy pallet on the floor, place small inexpensive candles around the room... more nice music and no other lighting... Give him a head to toe rubdown after a long day ... of course you are nude too... tell him the things that make him special to you as you work on him..(this should end VERY well)

I think he probably knows that you don't have a lot of extra cash lying around (especially after purchasing the car) and I'm guessing he could care less about how much money you spend on him.... it's more the thoughtful things you can say and do..

Never too late.... and you don't have to wait a year to do this... we have lots of "Just Because" Days ...
 
My partner and I fought last night too, he said he usually hates the holiday so I didn't do anything, wasn't going to push anything on him (sometimes I feel like the pressure is too much on him, he has a lot going on).

But we said our apologies today and I plan on giving him one hell of a good night to make up for it tonight. I wish you the best of everything in doing what it takes to bring your spirits up, I bet if he cares that much to make you such a beautiful gift he is more than willing to forgive you for an argument!
 
For sure.... I agree with Germinicon's assessment of your partner JH...

One thing both of you touched on that has me in a quandary...:thinking:

Both of your partners stated ahead of time that they hated the holiday, yet when neither of you acknowledged it....somehow it hurt their feelings? I don't get that... sounds like a lot of game-playing to me .

You know, like "Oh, don't bother getting me anything" (but thinking. "I really hope he knows I mean the opposite")
And then when you say "What's wrong?" The answer is "nothing." (ooooooooooooh...) :headache:

Such games are foolish and cause heartbreak too often.
 

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