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Recently i have been having great luck with women. well more accurately two women. They are both strong, intelligent, beautiful, and amazing lovers but i have talked with both of them and they are both open to perusing a relationship with me. X is a bartender at my favorite bar we have great conversations all night until she gets off work then we spend the rest of the evening exploring each other. Y is a mousy coworker whose endearing shyness and emotional honesty makes me melt but i haven't known her for very long. Unfortunetaly they both do drugs which makes me feel very uncomfortable so i am considering turning them both down. any thoughts?

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What are you expecting from them? A fuck? A girlfriend? The answer to your question depends a lot on what you're looking for.

I'd also ask what "drugs" means. If they are getting high, that's one thing. If they use beyond that, and you're not cool with that, then you need to either walk away from them now, or be prepared to tell them it's a relationship deal breaker if it comes to that. And just to be clear, if you ask them to choose you vs drugs I'd lay heavy odds for drugs to win…nothing against you, but even if they aren't heavy duty addicts, they'll be reluctant to let a guy dictate that for them.
 
If you are uncomfortable with the fact that both girls "do drugs", then you've already defined it enough for yourself, regardless of what level of drug activity is involved. You will get several opinions on drugs, but regardless, if you are uncomfortable with it, then you should trust your instincts and discontinue the relationships.

I agree with the advice ChgoVoyeur gave... giving the girls ultimatums ~ probably not a good idea. I agree with his take on the outcome.

Question: Did you already know that the girls were doing drugs when you talked to then about pursuing a relationship with you? And when you discussed this with both of them, do they understand that you intend to see others, too? (I was not clear on that.)
 
yes they both started as casual fuck buddy relationships. but we got to know each other so it became more complex and one of them has done heavier drugs and the other just does weed to my knowledge. but i have already spoken to them. any drug use makes me feel very uncomfortable and after finding out that they both use drugs i gave them the ultimatum and one of them said, "ok i will stop." but later today i found out she was using weed so i called both off.
 

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