Lost Virginity: Update

guess you felt the time has come to get into the world so you caved in. anyways hope you maintain your friend. At the same time hat happens to the old saying that a woman will always have a soft spot for the guy that took her first cherry? sure same goes for the guy as well.

Why would you lose a good friend? If he's a good friend then he should still be there and it's possible that you may even be closer friends. I'm sorry you feel that way but for whatever reason that you did it, you say you are in the wrong, tell yourself you won't do it for that reason again. No you can't take it back but you can mend it buy being cautious. Are you feeling sick because you didn't enjoy it and because it wasn't what you expected and wanted? I hope you get better

talk to your friend. I agree with bottomcharlie.... good friends don't take advantage of their friends then run away.

do you wonder what he is thinking about the situation? he is probably wondering what you are feeling.


you need to talk and hopefully that will make you feel better... and him too...

<<<<<<I am happy that I lost my virginity to someone that I see as a close friend. At the same time, the situation in which it happened was bad..........>>>>>>>>>

a close friend is someone that is good for the first time. You said the situation was bad. that is what is upsetting you. you need to sit down quietly with your friend and talk.

@joll
Thanks. I hope it does too. I start classes again soon so won't be able to hang out with her as much so I don't know if that's a good or bad thing.

@Manbonzi20
I didn't feel like I was caving in. I legitimately wanted to. I came over knowing I wanted to have sex trimmed, shaved, and with condoms, and it was a GREAT first time.

@Bottomcharlie
I just felt sick at the situation and...I just feel like crap but it's ok I guess. This week started out great, and has ended with Drama and me kinda regretting what I did. Like I did say I am happy I lost it to a good friend, but it shouldn't have happened.

@FancyPants
I hope we'll talk about it soon. She gave me the "silent" treatment since the last time we had sex with was a few days ago.

@spoon, ya, i need to sit and talk with em. just dunno when that will be but right now I gotta focus on getting my head on right.

I feel lifeless as I woke up this morning (and still waking up lol), but nothing more I can do. Just gonna get up (eventually), and figure out where to go from here.

Until then, I guess another decision is should I start having sex, or go abstinent after this for a while; I mean, I am in college.

Where do you go from here??? You get up and do what you usually do... you LIVE. And if you meet someone you want to have sex with, then why not? I mean.. YOU ARE in college!

I know I know...I've just never wanted to be that guy that sleeps around like that because I know guys that are like that and I just don't like it.

Maybe I'll see it differently as my last semester at college goes about and I'm not a virgin now maybe I'll try to get laid more then look for relationships...idk just whatever happens happens.

All i know is that the last time me and the person had sex it was really really good, but we were doing doggie on the carpet and my knees kept spreading so I had to re-adjust and I ended up losing my concentration and i got soft and felt very embarrassed. Bad way to end my last sexual encounter but I guess I gotta make up for that soon!

HAHA! now you regret it.

I guess for now I kinda do...I'll see when we talk again..

If she knows you are new at it she will realize that the solution is more practice! Just let her make her mind up if she wants to do more. If not, I am sure she will let you know and try to stay friendly.

After talking, I'm come to the conclusion that:

-I do not regret my first time being with her
-I am glad it was with her
-I am young, so I got plenty more ahead of me.

I just have had a lot on my mind the past few days and like I feel communication is key, so talking to her about it helped a lot.

and @helgaleena, I did very very very VERY well for my first time . Reading up a lot on it and watching videos, and talking to my female friends over the years paid off.

yay, glad you feel better. Communication is the Key, I can't tell you how many times I've said that myself. Yep! You are right. Have a great day tomorrow.

FancyPants;bt35925 said:

Where do you go from here??? You get up and do what you usually do... you LIVE. And if you meet someone you want to have sex with, then why not? I mean.. YOU ARE in college!

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What...? What is that supposed to mean!

I guess college is a good time to...have sex...practice...have sex...and oh ya! HAVE SEX! lol

No, I didn't mean it that way... LOL... of course college is about education, but college years should be fun too. (SAFE fun and ... hopefully... finding girlfriends fun... I would never advise anyone to just go out and screw for the helluvit. Even tho, re-reading it, that's what it sounds like.) But College Years should include dating time... yes. (And if you happen to find a girl...then why not? What stops you? Only YOU can answer that ?)

i know i know lol, but still it's a nice time to get some practice i am looking for a relationship if I can find one, but in the mean time i'm just gonna do whatever comes natural and just enjoy life