Mood

I've unfortunately have a unique ability in the fact that my moods really affect those of the people around me. It's most noticeable at work, where if I'm having a bad day, it'll spread like wildfire. The bad thing though is that when I'm in a bad mood, I become withdrawn. I intentionally become distant so that my mood does not bring anyone else down using what I've learned about people's prior reactions. I really don't know how to change this however. I've tried the positivity/optimism approach but somedays it is overpowered. Any ideas from the peanut gallery on how to improve my mood or downplay when I'm in a bad mood so that it doesn't spread?

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Reboot by taking a walk, seeing a movie, anything to remove yourself from your environment for 10 minutes. Take a break by going to Dunkin Donuts and getting a mixed dozen for your office mates.
 
yes... find something to do for someone else...

coffee and donuts for the office is great..
or if you are in a bad mood and you know it.. and can be alone while you work... just close your door for a bit.

Take some quiet time to refocus.

I'm not sure what field of work you are in, but if it is customer service oriented, try to remember, your problems are not their problems... and through it all, even if you have to fake it... you gotta be friendly. (sometimes you can fake it enough that you begin to believe it... LOL) ...

and if I were around and you were having a bad day... I'd offer to give you a hug if it would make you feel better... :smile:

Can you listen to music at work? Choose something light and fun ... or something that will get you to rocking~ Music can really help change your mood~

Fancy~

PS this might help: How to Improve Your Mood
 
I have a similar issue. My boss says I'm a "battery" person. When I'm charged up - so is everyone else; when I'm run-down or having a bad day, it affects everyone else. I've always been like that - at home, with friends and at work.

What X & FP said is good advice. Do something positive. Buy donuts for the office, play upbeat music. Or get better at faking it. Some days I should get an Oscar for how I cover my mood/illness/whatever. Being a battery is useful - you can lead without really trying; but you have to learn to live with the downside of it as well.
 
Ex - Usually I can't remove myself right at that moment, although that's usually right at the exact moment someone else will need me.
Fancy - I would NEVER do that to a customer (I'm retail) lol. When I'm on the floor, usually no one can tell because I never want the customer to go through that. The music situation is different as I have tried my damndest to get the music changed (we have 70s) as it is the same songs over and over and over. And hugs are good on any day :D
Lurking Turkey (lol) - Oh gosh, I'd have to find someone to screw...that itself would take an hour lol!!
LaFemme - That may be the most helpful (not that the others weren't). Looking at it as being the battery is very unfogging if that were a word. Almost like a the mist/fog being lifted.

Something that actually really helped today came from a poor tv show I enjoy (Teen Wolf on MTV, I love it lol) with the aspect that you have to believe it before you can be/do it. That definitely helped me beast today. Thank you all though for the awesome responses!!
 
Hi there!

I see where you're coming from because I go through that as well. Whenever I'm in a bad mood, I distance myself away from people too but it doesn't always work because it leaves them thinking that I'm being rude. People can tell when I'm upset. I try to hide it because I don't wanna bring people down but it never works and I use the old "I'm okay, nothing's wrong!" line. With me personally, distancing myself helps.

Anyway, what has helped me as well is sleep. I just get into bed and put myself to sleep and when I wake up, I feel much better. It's good to just take time to yourself and sleep I rekon! I also keep a diary incase I wanna write down what's on my mind. Counselors have said that writing in a diary works but for me, it actually doesn't. I just enjoy reading my old entries and it lifts my mood because I laugh by myself and think "I really said that?!?!" hehehe. I think taking a nice hot oil bath is also relaxing :D

Anyway I hope I was of SOME help to you. I know it's an old post but just wanted to help out! Also if you feel the same way, feel free to post your feelings and I'm sure a lot of us will be here.

Anyway, Thanks for sharing mate!

-Danzy
 
I am late at reading this blog. However, it is great to have a network of people to turn to for support. Everyone has posted good recommendations in support of uplifting your mood/emotional status. Through it all, I hope that you have found something that works to your benefit, and now your mood/emotions are up to a level of balance and comfort.

I am in customer service/retail. Find your balance of working with the B/S and at the end of the day, you have survived it with a SMILE. :D

-Plae
 

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