My first blog

Hello all!
This is my first blog. I'm not exactly good at this, so bear with me.
I have this situation with a woman , I've been in contact with in the last few weeks. We've been exchanging numerours email and text messages throughout this period.We seem to have a very good chemistry in our conversations, and we're supposed to meet for a coffee date very soon.

This woman is not only beautiful, intelligent, but she's also very ambitious.

My only hang up is that she's 15 yrs older than me. That puts also a lot of pressure on me as I don't want to dissapoint her. She has been played before, and wants to have a serious relationship. I've talked to her about my concerns, and she told me not to worry. If it works,it works . If it doesn't,it doesn't and we'll end up being friends.

I don't know if I should cancel the date altogether, so that I can avoid being a dissapointment.

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take my advice... go through with the coffee date.
its just coffee... its a face to face meeting.

I can promise you, from my experience, you will disappoint her more by cancelling than you will byshowing up and turning into a "friend" only .... that's worst case....

you have great chemistry, right?
I assume you have both already seen each other, so she knows what you look like... no need to worry about that..

If you are concerned about sexual performance (?) then relax.... take it easy ... you are not there .. yet and if / when you get to that stage...maybe she will want to be your "teacher" ... or maybe you will surprise her ~

I prefer meeting younger guys. Sometimes I am very surprised at their sexual prowess and ability ... other times, I am more than happy to teach them how to please a woman. Either way... its a win for you... and her.... and hopefully there will be more than one meeting so you can know the next time what she prefers.

good luck... and Go have coffee witih the lady!

♥ fp
 
Your self confidence and self esteem need a fillip. She's already tried to reassure you. Take a chill pill and go to meet her. The age difference is unimportant.
 
Obviously you already made the decision, step up and be a man and follow through with meeting her.

Since she is ambitious, and has had relationships that have given her reason to be cautious and a bit controlling. You will have to listen to her needs, whether she tells you directly or in the way she sends signals.

Be honest during your date about what you feel. Friend or no friend, you will be trusting her with your personal thoughts. Thus allowing her to trust you in return. Further friendship may evolve, or she may take you up on a sexual encounter. This all depends on what she feels about you. As long as your both open to talks about personal concerns, least the both of you will come to an understanding, so no feelings are hurt before anything gets started between you both.
 
Thanks everyone for your comments. I think I 'll accept and go to the coffee date. I need to man up and decide to go through.
I guess I have nothing to lose at this point.

To Reply to Fp, my anxiety is not concerning my sexual performance, That' s basically the one thing, I' m pretty sure, I won't mess up , Lol! .

It's more the fact, that I don't wanna do or say something that Will mess up a great relationship ( albeit virtual) so far. I didn't want to be Another one of the previous guys she has seen before .
She also clearly stated , she didn't want a casual,NSA type of relationship which is very fine with me. I think, deep down I apprehend my family and friend's reaction when I'll present her.
 

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