My Oldest Son

My oldest son has always been open with me about his relationships. He has had girlfriends since he was 18 and became sexually active when he was 19. He doesn't share specific details about his love life and I don't care to know but he does tell me as each relationship begins and ends.

He tends to be a guy who falls in love quickly and always thinks it's "the one." He has lived with two girls and just since Christmas he and the most recent one broke up. I have tried to tell him it might be wise to get to know girlfriends more before moving in together but he falls head over heels and is sure it is right.

When he and this last one split up he moved out of the apartment they shared. He was lucky that his ex had a sister move in with her who took over his portion of the rent. My son moved in with one of his buddies who also broke up with a girlfriend.

So, my son called me yesterday and said he had something he wanted to talk about. His buddy suggested they lay off women for a while and help each other out when they are horny. My son says he has never been attracted to guys so he didn't even respond to that comment. Then he started thinking about it and started wondering if it made sense.

My kids know I lived a gay lifestyle before meeting their mom so he felt comfortable bringing this up with me. Neither he or my other two kids know I still am in a gay relationship with my friend Jay. Anyway he was contemplating talking to his buddy about it and wondered if I thought he should do it.

My advice to him was first and foremost be true to himself and not to feel any sense of obligation to his buddy because he brought it up. But I told him if he feels curious about it, and thinks it may be good to take a break from woman for now, talk to his friend about if they can take that step and maintain their friendship if they determine the sex is not working out. Especially if only one of them decides it isn't for him.

I asked him since he falls in love so easily if he thought he could have a sexual relationship without falling in love. He said his long term goal is to be married to a woman and have kids so he thinks he would see it just as sex and two buddies helping each other through a dry spell.

He said he was going to talk to his friend last night so I am curious if he did but I will leave it up to him to tell me about it if he wants to.

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He sounds like a well rounded, open-minded good man. You should pat yourself on the back as well for being the kind of father he feels he can talk to about that stuff.

Hope it works out for him. Really do.
 

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