I am a very caring and giving person in character and action. I sometimes wonder if it is misinterpreted. I ask myself am I overbearing? have I crossed the line of caring and have become controlling? Or even worse possessive?
Hmmmm. As my profession is in human services I have developed a sixth sense of being more keenly aware of gross and subtle signs of despair, joy, hopeless and hopefulness, greed(self centeredness), and other forms of human behavior that can lead to self destruction, or success, in life, and relationships. That is my job, my life career, and motivation.
I try to make a clear distinction between my intentions and my actions, being careful that it is exactly in sync. In lay terms i don't want to appear "creepy" to those I serve and meet.
As I also am on FB and browse through forums of different topics I make my thoughts known with several criteria in mind
1. Its based on information given, I usually make references.
2. If it is an assumption, I make it known.
3. Try not appear to be judgmental unless it is asking for my opinion.
4. Ensure that it is not offensive, and if I do respond with the intentions of putting the poster in his or her place I use language that is civil.
5. most important will it be helpful to whomever I am responding to.
My experience here in LPSG has been interesting and continues to be. Regarding emotions and intentions, emoticons and LOLs may not be enough. I am always awed at the raw and unfiltered truth a site like this can be, so I am always conscientious if my reponses can be misread or interpreted, editing it often and changing the words I use if it does not mean what I say, IMO.
I PM people if I had responded to a post that I felt needed follow up on. If someone was having a bad day, felt like giving up on the world, or experienced success I believe that knowing that people cared about them in sadness or joy is important to the human heart.
This is just a thought of mine that I wanted to express because again, this forum has more value than may given credit for. Sexual fulfillment for some, a cure for loneliness, a place for fantasies to come true, or even an ear for those who need the Support.
And a final note.
Caring and loving is not a bad thing. Lets all show it.
Hmmmm. As my profession is in human services I have developed a sixth sense of being more keenly aware of gross and subtle signs of despair, joy, hopeless and hopefulness, greed(self centeredness), and other forms of human behavior that can lead to self destruction, or success, in life, and relationships. That is my job, my life career, and motivation.
I try to make a clear distinction between my intentions and my actions, being careful that it is exactly in sync. In lay terms i don't want to appear "creepy" to those I serve and meet.
As I also am on FB and browse through forums of different topics I make my thoughts known with several criteria in mind
1. Its based on information given, I usually make references.
2. If it is an assumption, I make it known.
3. Try not appear to be judgmental unless it is asking for my opinion.
4. Ensure that it is not offensive, and if I do respond with the intentions of putting the poster in his or her place I use language that is civil.
5. most important will it be helpful to whomever I am responding to.
My experience here in LPSG has been interesting and continues to be. Regarding emotions and intentions, emoticons and LOLs may not be enough. I am always awed at the raw and unfiltered truth a site like this can be, so I am always conscientious if my reponses can be misread or interpreted, editing it often and changing the words I use if it does not mean what I say, IMO.
I PM people if I had responded to a post that I felt needed follow up on. If someone was having a bad day, felt like giving up on the world, or experienced success I believe that knowing that people cared about them in sadness or joy is important to the human heart.
This is just a thought of mine that I wanted to express because again, this forum has more value than may given credit for. Sexual fulfillment for some, a cure for loneliness, a place for fantasies to come true, or even an ear for those who need the Support.
And a final note.
Caring and loving is not a bad thing. Lets all show it.