I consider myself to be a progressive man. I dislike the concept of tradition for the sake of tradition. I think it is important to look at why we react to certain things the way we do and reflect upon that, rather than just agree blindly with our first impression.
My previous post discussed what I desire romantically, and in it I mention that I am attracted to the basic concept of the modern, strong and independent woman. A woman who is a person on her own, and does not need another person, man or otherwise, in her life to complete her.
And yet, during my explorations of the vast spectrum of offered stimulation available on the internet, I am becoming more and more attracted to the concept of the sexually submissive woman.
I can't find any one picture to sum it up, but while trying to find something like that I came across this tumblr:
Sweet Submission: Archive (Very much NSFW).
Perhaps this one picture sums up the concept:
Sweet Submission (probably not NSFW, but that tumblr is still NFSW).
And now I can't help but wonder if I am a hypocrite on a such a huge level that I have myself not been aware of it?
Am I actually a sexist, chauvanist pig? Is my respect for women and my positive stance towards equality just an illusion for others, and even myself?
This led to a time of reflection. I had to step back and look at myself, my values and my opinions.
I put great stock in free will and freedom of choice. To me it is very important for us humans to be able to do pretty much what we want as long as nobody suffers because of it. If somebody wants to be whipped, then that's fine, even if pain is involved. Both parties are consenting, and even willing and both are (hopefully) getting pleasure from the experience.
It was through this that I came to accept both views that I hold, ending my bout of cognitive dissonance.
I would never, as long as blood still flows in my veins, force anybody that I felt strongly for to do something that they would not want to do. It would be a gross breach of trust and a terrible betrayal to do such a thing.
However, I know that there are those that do derive pleasure from submitting to the "authority" of somebody else. And it is that which I seek.
Have I drawn false conclusions? Have I merely rationalised an archaic and sexist mode of thinking? I can't honestly say that I am free of doubt, but are we ever?
I feel that I should add a short discussion here at the end. I am most likely not free from hypocrisy and sexist thinking, as this post and the following discussion will reveal.
The concept of men submitting to women is something that still strikes me as "odd", for lack of a better word. I realize the hypocrisy of that, considering my own desires. Why should a woman submitting to a man be "better" than a man submitting to a woman? I don't know. If anything it is "worse" as it harkens back to a darker age of humanity.
My only defence is this: I do not in any way seek to humiliate. Sure, I have on occasion humored some guys seeking SPH (in the chat), but I do not derive any real pleasure from that. Most of the time when I have seen discussion about men submitting to women there always seems to have been an element of humiliation involved. In those situations I can only think that the man in question lacks dignity, to not only allow that to happen to him, but to actively seek it.
I understand that this is an ignorant view from my side, and that borth parties are consenting and deriving pleasure from this. It's just that I can't deny what I feel. I apologize for the times I may have expressed myself harshly about this subject, but I really can't promise that I won't do it again. I can promise that I will endeavour not to, though.
So as an ending note I will clarify: I seek willing, eager submission, not humiliation.
And I still have my doubts about what that says about me.
My previous post discussed what I desire romantically, and in it I mention that I am attracted to the basic concept of the modern, strong and independent woman. A woman who is a person on her own, and does not need another person, man or otherwise, in her life to complete her.
And yet, during my explorations of the vast spectrum of offered stimulation available on the internet, I am becoming more and more attracted to the concept of the sexually submissive woman.
I can't find any one picture to sum it up, but while trying to find something like that I came across this tumblr:
Sweet Submission: Archive (Very much NSFW).
Perhaps this one picture sums up the concept:
Sweet Submission (probably not NSFW, but that tumblr is still NFSW).
And now I can't help but wonder if I am a hypocrite on a such a huge level that I have myself not been aware of it?
Am I actually a sexist, chauvanist pig? Is my respect for women and my positive stance towards equality just an illusion for others, and even myself?
This led to a time of reflection. I had to step back and look at myself, my values and my opinions.
I put great stock in free will and freedom of choice. To me it is very important for us humans to be able to do pretty much what we want as long as nobody suffers because of it. If somebody wants to be whipped, then that's fine, even if pain is involved. Both parties are consenting, and even willing and both are (hopefully) getting pleasure from the experience.
It was through this that I came to accept both views that I hold, ending my bout of cognitive dissonance.
I would never, as long as blood still flows in my veins, force anybody that I felt strongly for to do something that they would not want to do. It would be a gross breach of trust and a terrible betrayal to do such a thing.
However, I know that there are those that do derive pleasure from submitting to the "authority" of somebody else. And it is that which I seek.
Have I drawn false conclusions? Have I merely rationalised an archaic and sexist mode of thinking? I can't honestly say that I am free of doubt, but are we ever?
I feel that I should add a short discussion here at the end. I am most likely not free from hypocrisy and sexist thinking, as this post and the following discussion will reveal.
The concept of men submitting to women is something that still strikes me as "odd", for lack of a better word. I realize the hypocrisy of that, considering my own desires. Why should a woman submitting to a man be "better" than a man submitting to a woman? I don't know. If anything it is "worse" as it harkens back to a darker age of humanity.
My only defence is this: I do not in any way seek to humiliate. Sure, I have on occasion humored some guys seeking SPH (in the chat), but I do not derive any real pleasure from that. Most of the time when I have seen discussion about men submitting to women there always seems to have been an element of humiliation involved. In those situations I can only think that the man in question lacks dignity, to not only allow that to happen to him, but to actively seek it.
I understand that this is an ignorant view from my side, and that borth parties are consenting and deriving pleasure from this. It's just that I can't deny what I feel. I apologize for the times I may have expressed myself harshly about this subject, but I really can't promise that I won't do it again. I can promise that I will endeavour not to, though.
So as an ending note I will clarify: I seek willing, eager submission, not humiliation.
And I still have my doubts about what that says about me.