2 Tough Questions. 1) Who am I? 2) Who do I want to meet. I maybe spend too much time trying to explain and define the answers. I’m not neurotic. I just like good communication, clarity. After my divorce in 2000 I started online dating. Good dates, bad dates, one night stands, fuck buddies, dysfunctional relationships. It was quite an adventure. But it made me well aware that most of us, yes me included, have a pretty inaccurate self image. The rest are just outrageous bullshitters. Trying to describe ourselves accurately, all the nuance, pet peeves, strong points, weaknesses etc are hard enough verbally. To do in online with no tone of voice, no body language, seems impossible. But it’s a fun challenge, although maybe I go overboard trying to nail it down. And which “me” do I describe? Loyal hubby for 15 years? Desk jockey? The guy living a small life on Blue Mountain? The guy that used to ride a big black Harley chopper? The guy who spent 8 years living in a funky cabin in the woods? Me at the moment...for the moment... employed, living in a quiet suburb of a small town, missing living in my cabin in the woods. Honest, quiet, love to read and garden, home repair. I drive a faithful old pick-up truck and dress like a redneck. Interested in politics, stocks, economics. Love the outdoors, not a sports fan. Strongly dislike complications, arrogant people, rude or disrespectful people. I’m a big believer in fairness. Dislike cops and authority and mindless rules. I have a vivid imagination, off the wall sense of humour and frequently notice the weird little things in life other people miss, while missing the big things that are staring me in the face. I smoke, drink but not to excess and am 420 friendly although not a regular user. This is a perv site so I tend to post pics and blurbs that reflect my perv side. I’m not a drooling 24/7 sex fiend, there is a lot more to life than sex and deviance. Too much of a good thing turns to routine and routine is boring. Ok, enough about me, dammit. Your turn. How would I describe the women who attract me? The first words that come to mind is “unorthodox, fun, funky, funny, easy to get along with, adventurous, romantic, honest, playful, strongly sexual in her mind, tomboyish, low key, intelligent, open minded, nature lover, uninhibited”. Pretty face, pretty hands. Not attracted to Alpha women, executive-types, the “I’m so busy, I’m so important, I have something to prove” kind of women. Too stressful! Nor to Barbie types, spending 1/2 the day applying make-up and choosing just the right attire. Bleh. I’ve dated tall and short women, skinny and slightly chubby. Sorry but just not a fan of really large women. No offence, just my personal preference. I’ve had 2 First nations lovers, one I really liked until she went back to her ex. A very young black girl who was not only a fun lover but a really sweet, caring, intelligent person. Race/age isn’t an issue to me but obviously I’m not interested in anyone underage. I remember a tiny little blonde lady with lovely pink nipples and an ohhh sooo tight pussy who continually annoyed me by asking “you know what your problem is....?” (she was taking a sociology course and saw herself as a modern day Freud). What I find conflicting is that I like a woman to be open and honest, be able to express herself, have thoughts and opinions, be uninhibited..... but I don’t like arrogance. I’d probably enjoy being with a woman who has a submissive side, maybe wants to be tied up, cum on, have fun with pee. But not a high maintenance, helpless woman. I practice and respect independence and self sufficiency I like a woman who isn’t afraid to not only admit, but to gleefully and honestly describe her prior sexual adventures, desires, fantasies. And maybe there’s more, stuff I haven’t even thought of. But this is a good start, I hope, in answering the 2 hard questions. Oh, it just dawned on me. Maybe there is a third interesting question. Is it considered humiliation if both of you are enjoying it? Are you being humiliated if you enjoy being spanked, pissed on, cum on