Romantic, Cheesy or Waste?

So I just finished watching my favorite Disney movie Aladdin. During the movie I found myself thinking a bit about how I have always had this romanticized idea about relationships. That has become less true over the years. However I find myself still desiring that love story that we have all grown up hearing about.

I began to wonder if maybe this thought or desire is part of what has kept me from actually have sexual relations ( there are other important reasons as well). I thought maybe because I haven't had that "fairytale" love story I have been holding myself back even after reaching the age I promised I would wait until.

I spoke to my cousin about something similar and she agrees ( she also made the promise to wait to a certain age). She feels as though she is holding out for something that may very well never come.

We were both told by my aunt who overheard the conversation that it is what we make of it. Holding out for the right person to "sweep you off your feet" isn't a waste. It may take longer than you would like but dont settle just because you are tired of waiting.

My thoughts on this are that she is a parental figure to us and of course she wouldn't want us to settle for just anyone. On the other hand part of me wants to believe what she says.

I recently began to talk to one of my ex boyfriends and we hung out on Friday. I had a great time.I have always liked him, we had our issues but i think we are past that point now. We will see what happens with that.

I know I am too old for fairytale love but I can still hope I find my Aladdin someday.

(for those who don't know my name is Jasmine... see what I did there :p)

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I think it's all 3!

Are there still men out there who would willingly without being led to the decision do the whole "Sweeping off my feet" things? Sure. I know a man who on rainy days stands around the main shopping area all day so he can place his coat over puddles when women walk by... He is heavily medicated, and I believe those meds need adjusting slightly, but if he exists, then someone prepared to do the whole fairytale thing must do too.

I don't think your problem is with wanting to be swept off your feet, I think it's with seeing anything less as settling.

Settling in my mind would be handing it over to someone who fills that short term role, rather than compromising that desire in favour of someone who you could truly love and would love you just as much in return, but just doesn't have that initial spark in him.

I have been with my husband for over 11 years, and I couldn't be happier, I love him dearly and he loves me with every part of his being. If I'd settled for the one who swept me off my feet, I'd still be black, blue and in tears right now.
 
I hear you on that @ Fade

I agree with most of what you said Kotch, and its not necessarily that im waiting to be swept off my feet ( just the words my aunt used). Although I will admit I am and have always been the girl who says no to practically every guy who approaches her. I tend to have issues with guys who just want to date me because of how i look ( yes i know that's the first thing people notice). Also I can agree with you on another part im not saying i want t be wined and dined etc but a guy who knows how make me feel special is really what i want i suppose.

PS ~ your hubby sounds like a great guy
 
I agree with your aunt ... it is what you make it. You both have to work to create a love story ending.

I have my "happily ever after" and it was worth waiting on him.

Not everyone is so lucky. Many lonely people have decided it will never happen for them. They have made their mind up and given up hope.

I say hope is not lost. To dream and hope gives us new things to look forward to each day.

Oh, and he didn't sweet me off my feet at first... but later on he surely did... and still does.
FP
 
Yeah Fancy I can see where you are coming from, I only know a few people who are happily married, people I know tend to get separated, stay together for their kids sake and hate each other or are just in it for the sex.

But yeah I like to think its what a person makes of it,
 
Jasibella,

I am of the belief that if you live a life of wanting that which you do not have you tend to diminish the here and now. Life seems to be in the living each day. Not to say you should not be actively searching, but to question the distant future and plan for the unknown may be misguided. Certainly if you live as your heart and ambitions guide you there will be opportunities along the way to become something more than just a lover and a friend. Knowing who or when for sure is not as clear, as it involves trusting someone with the most precious gift which can be given, that being unconditional love. If you are one of the fortunate souls to find that in return then be forever grateful.
 

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