My life is filled with goals accomplished and with those that will take my entire life but they all have one thing in common, they have have a specific highlight or end point I am striving for. From family life to business life, the stars are peppered with my goals. Some of them are on my bucket list while others are just part of my being like, be a great father and husband and don't kill the stupid people that fail to understand vehicle turn signals. Most of the family goals that we have (wife and I) are out in the open for everyone to critique and support, but it ultimately depends on where we want these goals to take us. Our thoughts on retirement, investing, places we want to live, jobs, income etc. We both have our individual business goals for this year and in five years. We have done well hitting or surpassing most of our goals and I think it is because of the support and potential critique we might face. Also, we keep each other accountable. One simple goal is to keep our current vehicles running well for the next 5 years which means regular maintenance, etc. We keep each other on top of making sure this happens. After internally reviewing all of our goals, I can't help but realize that we don't have sexual goals or goals pertaining to romance and intimacy. Why don't we have sexual goals? Why is it that you rarely hear these types of goals in the yearly New Year's Resolutions?
I think people might perceive the creation of sexual, romantic, or intimacy goals as being silly with the thought that these things should just be spontaneous. This concept of spontaneous romance, sex, etc. in a committed relationship is great, but not enough, especially when it never happens. Planning out exciting things like vacations and parties give us something to look forward to, strive towards and prepare for. Even those not-so-fun parts of life are planned like going to the dentist or getting shots. Both the exciting and the dreadful need to be planned in advance so that we can prepare for them, get ourselves in the right state of mind, etc. Planning all aspects of sex in a relationship that is devoid of sex is an interesting step in the right direction for both people involved. Personally, I have never tried it but it sounds like something I could get into!
How to go upon planning a sexual triste with your partner? From the onset, one but understand that a vacation is a give and take between both people. One wants to sunbathe all day while the other wants to adventure. Compromise means that the couple does a little of both. I think the personal communication of wants and needs along with the gifts you want to give or receive needs to out in the open. It is almost like a Sexual Christmas List….hmmm idea.
Plans I want to make with the wife (detailed planning process):
I want to trade her full body massages. It is cold so I probably will have to build a fire by the fireplace and put down some pillows and towels so that it is comfortable. I will need lotion / oil, maybe something to drink / eat. Definitely be an after dinner plan, more like the dessert! I want to massage her breasts, make her little nipples nice and hard. Massage her back and shoulders and help her release her days tension. Move down to her butt and massage it, open her legs and expose her wetness. I will probably need another pillow to prop up her hips so I can have easy access to her vagina. I'd love to finger her while she is on her stomach, turn her over and tease her clit with my tongue for a bit. The other part of this plan is for myself to receive a massage and some oral attention.
So with the wife, the plan will go as followed:
Thursday, let's trade massages and have sex next to the fireplace. I will set up a cozy spot in front of the fire, you bring the towels and oil. I would love to eat you out since I haven't done that in some time as well as feel my cock swell in your mouth. Think we can accomplish some of this?
Let's see how that goes!
Cheers,
MrG
PS. I am changing up my personal score card. It will list masturbation, sex, and erotica for the PAST DAY, not a total. Following that will be a total for masturbation and sex.
Current Scorecard - Day 20
Masturbation = 1 no orgasm
Sex = 0
Erotica = 2 min on a "wow, that girl can flex her boob" whim.
Total Scorecard as of Day 20
Masturbation = 2
Sex = 1
Footnotes:
Christmas Sex List
I think people might perceive the creation of sexual, romantic, or intimacy goals as being silly with the thought that these things should just be spontaneous. This concept of spontaneous romance, sex, etc. in a committed relationship is great, but not enough, especially when it never happens. Planning out exciting things like vacations and parties give us something to look forward to, strive towards and prepare for. Even those not-so-fun parts of life are planned like going to the dentist or getting shots. Both the exciting and the dreadful need to be planned in advance so that we can prepare for them, get ourselves in the right state of mind, etc. Planning all aspects of sex in a relationship that is devoid of sex is an interesting step in the right direction for both people involved. Personally, I have never tried it but it sounds like something I could get into!
How to go upon planning a sexual triste with your partner? From the onset, one but understand that a vacation is a give and take between both people. One wants to sunbathe all day while the other wants to adventure. Compromise means that the couple does a little of both. I think the personal communication of wants and needs along with the gifts you want to give or receive needs to out in the open. It is almost like a Sexual Christmas List….hmmm idea.
Plans I want to make with the wife (detailed planning process):
I want to trade her full body massages. It is cold so I probably will have to build a fire by the fireplace and put down some pillows and towels so that it is comfortable. I will need lotion / oil, maybe something to drink / eat. Definitely be an after dinner plan, more like the dessert! I want to massage her breasts, make her little nipples nice and hard. Massage her back and shoulders and help her release her days tension. Move down to her butt and massage it, open her legs and expose her wetness. I will probably need another pillow to prop up her hips so I can have easy access to her vagina. I'd love to finger her while she is on her stomach, turn her over and tease her clit with my tongue for a bit. The other part of this plan is for myself to receive a massage and some oral attention.
So with the wife, the plan will go as followed:
Thursday, let's trade massages and have sex next to the fireplace. I will set up a cozy spot in front of the fire, you bring the towels and oil. I would love to eat you out since I haven't done that in some time as well as feel my cock swell in your mouth. Think we can accomplish some of this?
Let's see how that goes!
Cheers,
MrG
PS. I am changing up my personal score card. It will list masturbation, sex, and erotica for the PAST DAY, not a total. Following that will be a total for masturbation and sex.
Current Scorecard - Day 20
Masturbation = 1 no orgasm
Sex = 0
Erotica = 2 min on a "wow, that girl can flex her boob" whim.
Total Scorecard as of Day 20
Masturbation = 2
Sex = 1
Footnotes:
Christmas Sex List