Sex & Emotion, its different in gay town!

After leaving a msg on another guys post it got me thinking. With no doubt everyone on this site will have noticed that gay men could be described as.. promiscuous or even primitive. I have travelled a lot but have never seen a faithful male gay relationship Sure I have heard of them just like I've heard of a gay mafia. But how do you really know they these myths are real? Like When you out having cocktails & cock talk with the girls, how many gay couples have you met that seem really in love? Later one of them is exposing him self to you in the toilets. Is this because sex is now to available making it almost its impossible to settle down or even attempt a faithful relationship when their is always fresh talent beckoning you to them like a drug? Years ago when I was a wee teenager I wasn’t like this ( I wanted a BF and to get married.. sorry I mean civil partnership or whatever. Sure I have always had a high sex drive So bad its sometimes a problem. I’m like a dog on heat! lol. But seriously sometimes I cant concentrate at work or in social situations. I’m always looking for sum one to pull. Is it just me or is every guy like this? Is it human nature or a crave for nurture? Is it societies fault, life experiences or just male instinct? Are we promiscuous so we don’t have to feel or is it because deep down we yearn to feel something real? So gay bois wots ur thoughts on my thoughts? lol Ste x

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It seems that since gays are used to breaking social norms by simply "being gay", then the idea of faithfulness is just another social norm to break. Perhaps a personal belief in the sanctity of marriage, usually accompanied by deep religious convictions, will help a gay couple to remain faithful to each other (and God). You will probably find examples of this faithfulness in certain gay/friendly churches, i.e., MCC, Episcopal, Unitarian, etc.

Though I have never lived with a significant other, I have remained faithful in two m/m relationships for five and seven years respectively. Part of this was due to the influence of religious beliefs.
 
It depends on where you go and the company you keep. You really can't define your own sexuality by watching the sexuality of others. If someone exposes themself to you in the toilet, nothing says you have to grab it!

There is nothing wrong with having a huge sex drive and certainly nothing wrong with looking. There is nothing wrong with flirting either (although I would not recommend you do it at work!) but if you ask someone if they are in relationship it is your, and only your, reaction to their answer that defines how you view your own world.

I had 2 separate 8 year monogamous relationships and I know some very happy gay (men and lesbian) couples. You just have to keep your eyes open when you, for example, go to the movies, or out to dinner in order to see other couples. There may even be couple's groups where you live. I don't think a typical "long term" couple will go to the same places as young single horny men although I suppose that is possible. There are also may who are in "open" relationships that may or may not appeal to everyone. Again, it is your own reaction to this that will define your own personality and preference.

Your "nature/nuture" comments opens up a philosophical and psychological question that has been argued by better souls than I for hundreds of years.

Meanwhile, it seems you have a few choices, you can either do as you see others do or you can create a different standard for yourself while you look for a bf who may or may not turn into your life's mate. If you are an experimentalist you may try both depending on how you feel at the time.
good luck.
 
"After leaving a msg on another guys post it got me thinking. With no doubt everyone on this site will have noticed that gay men could be described as.. promiscuous or even primitive. I have travelled a lot but have never seen a faithful male gay relationship Sure I have heard of them just like I've heard of a gay mafia. But how do you really know they these myths are real? Like When you out having cocktails & cock talk with the girls, how many gay couples have you met that seem really in love? Later one of them is exposing him self to you in the toilets. Is this because sex is now to available making it almost its impossible to settle down or even attempt a faithful relationship when their is always fresh talent beckoning you to them like a drug? Years ago when I was a wee teenager I wasn’t like this ( I wanted a BF and to get married.. sorry I mean civil partnership or whatever. Sure I have always had a high sex drive So bad its sometimes a problem. I’m like a dog on heat! lol. But seriously sometimes I cant concentrate at work or in social situations. I’m always looking for sum one to pull.) Is it just me or is every guy like this? Is it human nature or a crave for nurture? Is it societies fault, life experiences or just male instinct? Are we promiscuous so we don’t have to feel or is it because deep down we yearn to feel something real? So gay bois wots ur thoughts on my thoughts? lol Ste x"

I wanted the same things, as well. The serious relationship and all. I did have one at age 30 and it lasted until I was 36. And the guy was older. But he wanted fresh meat and not the fuddy duddy I was.
So, now I am single at 38. Maybe I will meet someone and maybe not.

If you are asking whether men are wired to commit or are we horny opportunists? I think you have to ask a lot of other men. But I will speak for myself. I like men. I love the male form. Sometimes how men think and what they actually do, is confusing at times.
I don't think the sexual urge really is NOT a respector of a loving relationship. If a guy wants to fuck someone else and the opportunity presents itself. It could get predatorial. Hehehe.

I would only hope that if you ever find someone who loved you enough and you did feel the same way for that guy, that you would try not to disrespect them. And they not disrespect you. Sometimes men feel that it is their right to fuck around...and not be fuck around upon. Strange logic.

I can count the many of exes that really thought that that notion was fine...but when the holidays come around...they want to good old Invisi to bring them tidings of good cheer...but end up getting a telephone slam and a dial tone or a "good ol' door slam" like Demi Moore got in GI JANE...THAT was machine gun action laughable. And if the breakup was really ass fuckted, they may get the good ol' "You get cunted, you cuntifiable ass cunt!!" James Brown then, follow with either a telephone slam and a dial tone...Or a Demi Moore door slam with force majure head decapitation. :smile:
 

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