Sex Education

DISCLAIMER : THIS IS GOING TO BE CONTROVERSIAL


Is sex innate or learned ?
Most people would think that sex is the most natural thing and that everyone intuitively knows everything there is to know about it. Some day, around puberty, you feel an urge to do it, you stick your dick in someone's whole and you're good to go. I personally don't think so.
I've read so many articles and stories about it, like the one of this Chinese couple who struggled conceiving their first child. They went to see a doctor who talked about it with both of them separately only to realize the wife felt pain during sex. When the doctor asked where the pain was located, she replied it was all around her anus. Turns out they had been having sex in the butt the whole time, not knowing this was not the right way if you want to have kids. I also heard the story of a maid, a long time ago, actually one of my high school friend's grandma's maid when she was younger (a fairly long time ago I reckon), who kept on having kids after kids and did not know how it happened.
See, people are not born knowing everything they need to know about sex, especially if you start diving into the specifics of pleasure, how to give it and how to receive it. Society also has its two-cents in it. Depending on where you come from and the era in which you live, you might get radically different teaching regarding sex. What is acceptable today may may have been unacceptable not so long ago and what is unacceptable in your neck of the woods might not be in mine.

I guess it's fair to say that nowadays, in western society, parents and school teachers are required to teach their kids the mechanics of it, the biological side of "the issue". By this, I mean mostly "how babies are made" and "how STDs get transmitted". That's the bear minimum. The rest is left to the teen/young adult's own research and this is where I think it gets messy. Where do teens learn about the specifics of sex? THE main answer today would be both porn and hearsay. But porn is detrimental to minors, that's why underaged people are not allowed to watch it. Why is it so detrimental, you might ask. Well, first because it's fiction. Every single porn star will tell you this : porn is fiction. Sexual fiction. It is not meant to be educational, it is not meant to look realistic, it's entertainment, it's a show. Letting kids educate themselves watching porn would be like using Star Wars in Science class or Game of Thrones in History class. More than any other type of video entertainment, porn relies on editing and special effects, they're just made as subtle as possible to make the viewer believe it. The people acting in those movies are professional. The same way professional athletes compte in the Olympics. Who would ever think, watching the olympics, that they're able to do exactly the same as the athletes on screen? They might be able to do it but it takes a lot of practice, work and pain. Adult entertainers are the same. They're professionals, they've been chosen and trained to be able to do what they do and they have the editing process on their side.
Porn is also paradoxically pretty rigid. It doesn't really allow people to expand their horizons and work their imagination. Porn sets standards that might not be what you actually like/want/need. Most guys I know prefer cumming inside their partner than do a pull out for instance. All woman are not as loud and talkative during sex as porn actresses. Some of them are but some aren't and porn tends to set a norm that if you're not screaming your lungs out you're not having pleasure. Same with gay porn : not everyone is capable of taking a 12 inch or even 8 inch dick in their asshole. I know I can't, and god knows I like anal sex.
That's why I personnaly don't think porn should be the first contact young people have with sex. I guess most readers here will agree to that.

Teenagers and young adults are then left with one single option : hearsay. Basically what society tells us is that they have to teach one another how sex works. Problem is : none of them knows more than the others. They don't know shit and that exactly why they need to be taught.
This is where we move to the controversial part of this piece : I basically got taught what I needed to know by my dad and I'm actually (mostly) happy about it.
I'm not talking about us having sex together at all, this is not an incest situation at all...or at least I thought so. I'm saying that because this website flagged me for referring to incest in one post I made on the forum when I think it wasn't incest at all. I just got taught the ins and outs of sex by someone who actually knows is shit and that did not involve him touching me in any way, shape or form.

First it started by a theoretical teaching that happened when I started having sex with my first girlfriend. She was on the pill and we were both virgins so we did it raw, still my dad advised me to pull out, not as much for safety than for the show. "You want to show that you are in control, that's what gets them wet. So the first time you fuck her you pull out at the right moment and spray everything handsfree on her. It won't be as satisfying as if you came inside so you'll quickly be able to go for round two and this time you fill her inside."
That piece of advice has almost become a reflex for me. I practiced a lot and now I can even pull out, take off the condom and come right away.

Another piece of advice he gave me was to use my butthole. I think I would have never thought of it if he hadn't make it seem so natural. By the second time I had sex with my girlfriend I had her lick my asshole and finger me while sucking my dick. We oftentimes shared her dildo, a very small thing that was perfect for my virgin ass. She would stick it in my butt and make it move while sitting on my cock. Sometimes I would stick it in her butt while fucking her i the pussy or stick it in her pussy while fucking her in the butt.

It was around that time that I started to be interested by guys too. I felt very confortable talking about it with Dad and even more confortable seing him making it seem so natural. He was very open to me. I always suspected he had had sex with guys, him and all my uncles and my grandpa are never afraid admitting a guy is good looking or hot. As long as the guy was pierced and cut nothing was off limits. The only thing that was repulsing to him was to play with a guy that's "not clean" and "not clean" for him means uncut and unpierced. I personally wouldn't feel comfortable getting fucked or sucking an uncut dick either but I can overlook the absence of metal if I'm really horny.
I have two cousins and a brother who are openly gay and by "gay" I mean that they don't feel romantically attracted to women although they can see themselves fucking one, once every blue moon. They both decided to get married with guys which was not a scandal in the family but almost. I remember one of my uncle saying "Why doesn't he get married to a woman and keeps the guy as a fuck buddy one the side?". I guess he was saying this because that's what he did himself and not only with one fuck buddy but at least three that I know of. But I digress. What I wanted to say is that both these guys who get married to other men had their future spouse cut and pierced before even introducing them to the family. Actually one had to get cut and pierced and the other one just cut (he already had a PA) and the last one was already circumcised so he just got pierced. All told me that they did not have any type of sex involving their partners' dicks before they were "ready" which basically means they were strictly tops (and probably never cumming inside) and received blowjobs and hand jobs without ever giving any.
It took years before I could find a guy that was cut and pierced and that I wanted to have sex with but weirdly enough it's not that rare. Actually many families are more or less like mine it's just that they're not as open about it. I personnaly know at least two extended families that are not related to mine whatsoever that hold the same tradition but most of their members are not nudists. My dad introduced me to one of them after our talk about having sex with another guy. That specific household had a son that was one year older than me, yet, I ended up having sex with the dad who was more than twice my age, Dad fucked the son. Soon after, I ended up breaking up with my girlfriend and from then on my sex life consisted primarily on being on the receiving end of man-on-man action with dudes 10 years older than me. None of them knew I had already have sex with a girl and it was expected from me to "protect my virginity" by refraining from using my cock before marriage. I licked my fair share of pussies though but never let any girls go bellow my belt until my wedding night. These guys were in charge to teach me everything about sex and it worked out pretty well. Between the one time things and the more steady ones, I had about 20 guys with one, named JP, who was the steadiest one and the best of them all, he fucked me regularly for more than a decade.

After my wedding night (and approximately 15 years without touching my cock or having anyone else touch it), I started my "career" as a top as it was expected from me. My wife isn't from our community but she got briefed and knew what was coming her way, only other women are off limits. Much like most other women in our community, she thinks that it's a sign of health and manliness for husband to regularly have sex with other guys, she has sex with woman on the side as well and I let her have anal sex with other dudes when I there to watch and take part. Our wedding was sort of a destination wedding so many of the guests, as well as ourselves, stayed at the hotel, the wedding night was fantastic, we fucked all night. She's a very sexual person and, since she had seen my cock hard many times before that night, she had been dreaming of getting it during the whole two years we sent dating. She was not a virgin at all but I did not mind. I knew that as soon as I would start fucking her, nothing would be off limits. She's very submissive in bed and expects me to dominate her and be rough, much the opposite of our couple dynamic outside of bed. It's sort of natural for me to be dominant and rough in bed because that's embedded in our culture and that's how all the older tops who educated sexually behaved with me. After 15 years seeing that sexual behaviour being portrayed as the only appropriate one for a married man, that was going to be the only way for me to behave once I got married. She knew about it, we talked about sex a lot whilst we were dating, mostly because we couldn't do anything beside me licking her pussy. I think it's part of the reason she accepted to wait, she knew we were going to be on the same page in bed. She also knew I have this big yet manageable cock that's impressive enough to make her wet but not too big so I can still be very rough on her. She told me she would only marry a sexually dominant man and would only accept being dominated by a hung guy so we were a match made in heaven. We've been married for several years now and she kept her vow to never say no. She simply never does but she hates having to come to me for sex, she expects it to always come from me so it always does. No matter the possible unpracticality or awkwardness of the moment, her pussy, ass and mouth are always open for me. I always get to decide what we do. For instance, we only did anal and blowjobs on our wedding night and for two weeks after that as I knew it would get her extra horny and frustrated. As I said, outside of bed she's very much running the show and I could feel her getting a little bit on her nerves during those two weeks, being pretty much a virgin and her having had to have to wait for 2 years, we were very horny, having sex twice per day on average, but only anal and blowjobs. As I said, she never says no and really enjoys being caught off guard. It helps that we're strict nudists at home, another custom from my community that she gladly embraced. Oftentimes, I just approach and press my hard cock against one of her holes, just saying "Here, take that!" or "Suck that!" and she abides. During those two weeks of anal sex after our wedding, she would sometimes dare asking if I was gonna fuck her pussy and I would just answer "I stick my cock where the fuck I want", she would never bargain or ask further, she never does. That's the kind of woman I'm dealing with, so on the morning after my wedding night, I knew I was expected by her and also by all men in my community, to also lose my virginity as a top in male action, preferably with a freshly cut and pierced, fully shaved, young guy. Fucking a guy my age or older, especially if he's married and therefore has body hair, is seen as gay, fucking a young dude, completely smooth with a virgin dick (no penetration, no masturbation) is seen as what real man do. There were plenty of them accompanying their parents to my wedding. Being married but still young, I was a good catch for them, I had stopped all bottoming with JP several months prior to the ceremony in order to be able to let my body hair grow, I have a full chest, belly and pubes, nicely trimmed, my wife adores it. During the party, I was introduced to many younger dudes, I knew what they wanted, they knew what I wanted. I got several contacts and messages arrived all throughout the night, mostly torsos, asses and dick pics. I like them muscular, especially the ass, completely shaved (including the legs) with a dick as small as possible and really close to their assholes. Which is the opposite of me, although I'm getting more ripped with age and exercise. I kept talking to three guys either in person or on my phone during the whole party. The next morning I messaged one that stayed at the same hotel and asked him to come to our room, he was 18, as tall as me with a muscular body, very white skin with a nice undercut in his brown ginger-ish hair, curly and long at the top. He came in his underwear, I was already naked. We closed the door, he took off his briefs, revealing a fully soft small dick that I had already seen on pictures and expected to be even smaller. It was cut low and tight, no inner foreskin, with one piercing going through his head vertically and one horizontally, what people call a "magic cross". He took his whole package in one of his big hands to make it completely disappear so that I wouldn't see it or accidentally touch it which would have compromised his virginity. He kept it in his hand during the whole intercourse. First, he got on his knees and sucked my dick in the entrance of the hotel room, my wife was "sleeping" but really watching. Even during that blowjob, he kept his dick in his left hand, he was obviously well taught. Then I took him doggy on the couch in front of the bed, his ass was very muscular and tight and sometimes I would just pause and take a look at his magnificent pussy, so close to his package his scrotum actually started at his asshole. He pulled his cock and balls up against his belly with a hand during the whole fuck. He only said "Fuck, it's big!" once, to which I replied "You like it, huh!" but he did not answer and would probably never admit it to a stranger. I was wearing a condom, there was no way I would have had an intimate contact between my cock and that guy I nearly knew the name of. Even with a rubber on, I still pulled out and filled the sack handsfree, he begged me to spray on him but a man's cum is too sacred to end up on some random dude. I slapped him on the butt, he got up, his belly was covered in his own biz, he tried to hide it as he moved towards the door, picked up and put on his briefs and went back to his room. I was still hard, took off the full condom and emptied its content on my wife's pussy, smearing it with my hand that she licked clean afterwards. Then I lubed my cock up, fucked her in the butt, came inside and took a shower.


I fucked this dude and many other ones, all very young, multiple times during the first years of my marriage. Sometimes my wife was there to watch, sometimes she would hide and watch and sometimes she wouldn't be there. I don't use condoms with the regular ones. I never nut inside them, mouth or ass, I'm really good at pulling out at the right moment to come handsfree. All clean guys do the same, that's just the way it is. That ginger dude is very horny and since he's very good looking and pretty much ticks all the boxes of what we all look for in a sidepiece, he would often come home and have sex with me, my older brother (who's also married) and our dad, all at once. I would bring him from the city in my car, having suck my cock whilst I was driving, all in front of my wife, sometimes even pulling over on the side of a road and fuck him or her or both, on the hood. He would stay for the weekend and all man in the house would have sex with him and my wife.


It was only later on that I finally made piece with the fact that I was certainly bisexual. JP did the same. From that moment on, I started exploring sex with married dudes around my age, to see how it could be.

We kissed right away. It took JP more than 10 years to kiss me. It was paradoxically way more gentle than with a girl or a younger dude. You'd think two grown men would just behave like beasts, well, we did not. We kissed a long time and really took pleasure in feeling each other's body under our clothes. He was very hairy, his chest was totally covered with straight blond hair, down to his belly and pubes. He had obviously taken care of all this fur and made it look trimmed and combed. He smelled good. His six pack was firm and his belly button tasty. He was actually very manly in all sense of the term. We took our clothes off one by one until we ended up in our underwear from which my cock was already sticking out. He took my briefs off and licked my balls, shaft and then head.
I had him step away from me and take off his underwear. I wanted to see him all first. I was relieved when I saw his dick as I had feared it was going to be like the monsters we have but it was an average cock. A beautiful and very appetising average hard cock, the size of mine soft but thicker. Sixteen or seventeen centimetres maybe. The shape was beautiful, it looked like a sports car with crisp lines and strong features. The head was very meaty and very pink which could have make it look juvenile if the shaft hadn't been riddled with huge blue and red veins. His dick looked like it was about to explode. Touching it, you could feel the shape of these veins and even his heartbeat. He had the classic semi high and tight cut most guys in my generation got.The skin of his dick could barely move and he had a nice discrete scar at one third of the shaft. Just like me, he had a metal bar going vertically through his glans but also one going horizontally and a frenulum piercing. With all this inner foreskin and these piercings, I assumed his cock was going to be extra sensistive, "Too sensitive" JP would say.
That first time fucking a guy was like a choreography. We both had been briefed the same way on how to act and how to conduct things which made the whole thing run smoothly. After all, we were equals, none of us could really dominate the other. I first sucked his dick and fingered his ass, sitting on the bed while he was standing in front of me. The guy was very excited (or maybe it was his cock that was too sensitive), so it lasted less than the length of the song that was playing at the time before he pulled his dick out of my mouth and pushed me on the chest. I knew what was going to happen so I leaned back on the bed at the same time he pushed me and watched him spray his hot cum handsfree on my chest, belly, dick and legs while standing in front of me. He was pretty muscular and his skin was very white. I could see his face becoming red and his pecs and biceps and legs growing and hardening as he thrusted in the air towards me, expelling a big squirt of cum at each movement. He first started his orgasm by a loud "oh shit" soon followed by a grunt with clenched teeth and fists, thrusting forward at each ejaculation. I really feared I'd get sperm in my eyes but it was my duty to watch and I relished every single second. At the end I wanted to clean his dick with my mouth but I was not supposed to.
His dick did not soften a bit. He grabbed the lube and put some on my cock and some more on his asshole and then sat on me. I was now sitting on the edge of the bed again and he was back to me, hands on my knees, trying to slide that in. He was the younger one (by a few months), he had to take it although I wouldn't have minded if he gave it to me. He did it like a pro : he first jerked me off half with his hand on my shaft and half with his hole around my glans. Gradually, he went down and down, following his own pace but never forgetting to service me by clenching his hole and going back and forth on the portion of dick he had already taken in. I could feel he had prepared his ass. His hole was bald and soft. He had to pull his butt chick appart for the last centimetres and then completely sat down. Everything was inside. He was now doing circular movements with my cock fully in, probably to stimulate his prostate and I felt it working as he started to moan louder and louder. He had my balls on the palm of his hand and one index finger on my anus. His cock was swinging freely in the air. Well, he wasn't jerking his dick off but he was definitely jerking his spot off with my dick. I thought he had forgotten about me when he seemed to have found the right angle for me to fuck his spot. A little to the side. So he started making gradually more and more ample movements and started saying "oh shit", "that's it, right there !". So I pounded him "right there" as he encouraged me to go harder and he came all over the carpet, handsfree of course, "like a man" sone would say. He got soft. his dick was even more red than usual. I hadn't come even once yet but I had spent the whole time being on the verge to. He apologised and sat back on my dick. This time facing me. I burried my face in his chest hair and let him ride me this way. He did everything he could to make me come fast and a lot : clenching his hole, touching my balls and asshole. He was teasing me, repeating "you're gonna come inside, right ?", "please come inside". I wanted to let it out inside but we did not know each other at all and I knew I wasn't supposed to. I also wanted to retaliate after the display of manliness he had made for me. So I flipped us to missionary and kept pounding one more minute until I felt the sauce rising from my balls and pulled out. I was standing on my knees in front him, grabbing his head by the hair in one hand to get it closer from my cock and help him swallow a few squirts which he wasn't supposed to but it was fully handsfree on my part. As expected, I did not soften, and was very frustrated and horny. I flipped him over and fucked him doggystyle hitting his spot in the same angle as before. He remained soft and did not give any sign oh hardening so I poured some lube on my hand and starting jacking him off to which he said no but actually did not make any move to prevent me from doing it and got hard, which made me even hoornier. I ordered him to jerk his dick off which he eventually did as I got harder and harder on his ass, jack hammer style and we finally realised both almost at the same time, me inside and him, stopping his jerking off at the right time to save face.

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